How can I just shut-up?

Question:

I mean I notice some people work through their problems inside and talk about it later. But I always seem to talk my problems out and later wish I kept it to myself. i can' t stop, when I have a problem it is like an uncontrolable urge to talk to someone to help sort it out. How can I just shut-up when I feel out of control, like a baloon about to explode until I talk it out?

Answers:
I understand your dilemma, because I used to be this way myself. I would find myself talking about things in my life that should have been private to almost anyone, and occasionally, I still do. I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, so basically, this is just coming from my experience and opinions. I think the reason that you tell others about your problems is that either 1. you don't trust yourself to solve them or 2. you don't want to take the responsibility of solving them yourself, in case you don't make the right decision. You look to others' opinions and suggestions, even though you probably already know how you should handle the situation.
If you do this because of the 1st reason I mentioned, you don't trust yourself to solve your problems on your own, it is most likely due to a lack of self-esteem. You don't value your own opinion enough to believe that you are capable of managing your own life. In this case, you need to learn to believe in yourself. Counseling/therapy, support groups, or even a self-help book may be somethings to try, maybe even all of them. But, if self-esteem is the case, I'm sure that this is not the only are of your life being affected.
If it is the 2nd reason, you don't want to take the responsibility of solving your problems yourself, in case you don't make the right decision, you have to acknowledge that this is what you are doing, and consciously make an effort to make these decisions and take the responsibility. It is easier to blame someone else if something goes wrong, "It's not my fault, I was just following their advice". The only problem with that is that it IS still your fault anyway.you are the one who made the decision to take THAT advice! At least if you make the decisions yourself, you will have some things to rely on that are better than other people's opinions, like your gut feeling, your thoughts and experiences, and your conscience to help you make the decisions that YOU believe are right.and at least you'll have that to fall back on.

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duct tape

Maybe you need a therapist. Write a letter and then burn it.

Get a psychiatrist

Write it all down or go to a counsellor. Or you could phone a helpline such as Samaritans.

I do the same thing. Get a diary or journal or online blog. Instead of talking to someone, just write out everything. I find it helps me sometimes. But still i always want to talk to someone, so maybe what you can do is find one person who you can always turn to when you can't shut up. Or you can talk to me.. :-) write it down. Then later you can view it and see how far youv'e come and talk to someone after you sort it out, so you don't representyourself 'wrong' to them

you need to vent but make sure when you do, it's at the right place at the right time and to someone that cares.

Create a personal blog..like on blogger.com. People can read and leave comments. Its a great place to vent!

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