Pleaseeeeee helpp otherwise i'll commit suicide?


Question:
PLS READ THIS PATIENTLY AND HELP ME. Ours is a conservative Indian family. I know my mom shares a spcl. relationship with one of our neighbour who is a married man with one child. Now I'm 26 and when I was 14-15 I am sure my mom had sex with this fellowwhen my father was out of station. Still now whenever he visits our house my mom tries to impress her sexually. I've nothing to do except silently witnessing this. Even this fellow visits my mother when I & my father are outside our house. My mom tactically says me to remain outside. My father is an idiot and I sometime wander whether he is blind. This kind of relationship of my mother had adversely affected my studies from the very beginning of my carrier. Now I feel very lonely. I proposed to a girl 2 yrs ago but she refused. I sometime lack motivation and feel like going to an ashram. I have to bear the infidelity of my mother as long as I live and strangely I can'nt protest. No one loves me. PLS DON"T SUGGEST 2 VISIT A DOCTOR.

Answers:
You need to talk to your Mother about it. You could at least go to a support group that could help you understand. Your Mother seems to be a sex addict. There are support groups for this as well as depression groups to help you learn not to let your Mother's behavior affect you. If you attended one of those or one online, you may could learn to talk to your Mother better. There is a better way.

You don't have to go to an ashram to learn how to calm your nerves and meditate. There are many who do this in their own life as a part of their daily life to help them. I know it helps me. You are very important and your studies are important to you. You are worth the effort.

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I would talk to your mom about it and how it makes you feel.
About the girl that didn't marry you. Just be glad she said no if she wasn't ready. that is better than saying yes and then finding out she wasn't ready. Count your blessings.
you need to confront your mother and tell her what she is doing is wrong. you never know, maybe nothing happened between them and they just like to flirt. but the only way you will get closure is if you talk to your mother.
ok u shudnt let ur momz problem lget to your head.have u tried talkin to her..and u really dont need a doctor to solve this.just talk to her shez ur mom wats the worst thtat can happen.good luck..hope this helps
theres only one thing to do my man

go see a doctor.
Your dad already knows. Seriously. You may think him a fool, but this is simply one aspect of your mother that he doesn't want as much as the others.
Please don't commit suicide. You sound like a very nice person, I am so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunatly you are old enough to live on your own and you might just have to face the fact that your mother isn't who you want her to be. Maybe try helping her, but if that does not work you will just have to carry on. Try letting her read your question you just posted, or show it to your father. Beleive it or not, that might help! My prayers are with you.
Maybe you should move away (it doesn't even have to be really far). But you could get a new start in a place where you are not there to witness your mother's behavior. You could meet new people who interest you and try new things. Perhaps you could find new happiness.. Good luck to you!!
confront your mother and tell her what you know
I do not know how to help you. wish I did
Why do you feel you have to bear your mother's infidelity? She did it not you. All you can do is make sure you don't live your life that way.
What is more important, the love for your mom or your shallow mind not to overlook her weakness? Her faults are hers . not yours. You carry no sin but that of failing to love the woman that loves you unconditionally.

You do not have to bear her infidelity, she does. Besides, you only suspect . what if you are wrong? Does confronting her carry such a burden of truth?

To forgive is divine.to include yourself.
well sir. u are not the only one it always seems like someone wants to break up a happy marriage. I am in the same situation but kind of different. see this man only calls my mom. but I am bold enough to ask her why she still talks to him and has a husband. I will tell her if it goes futher that when your husband is gone what will u do. it hurts to see your mother do such stupid things. you should not be caught in the middle I suggest youtalk to your mom and tell her how u feel shell get over it if she gets mad. tell her dont she know that she is committing adultry. you have to say something. sitting around and knowing what is going on is only going to add to you problems AND COMMITING SUICIDE IS NOT GOIN TO MAKE HER STOP LIKING YOUR NEIGHBOR. TEEL THEM HOW U FEEL.
You can't let the acts of your mother bring you down, it's her choice to cheat on your father. One thing you shouldn't do is tell your father, you should talk to you mother about it if it bothers you this much, she is your mother and she loves you she will hear you out. Trying to get ride of your mother's boyfriend won't help because if she cheats once with one person she'll cheat with someone else. To help you deal with the deppression and anxiety of this situation you can take some over the counter herbal remedies for Anxiety that you can find in you local Nutrition store or pharmacy the medicines are St. John's Worts or Kava. Going back to the issue though, it must be very distressing to see this and I think the best thing to do is move far away from your parent so you won't have to be exposed to it. Make sure you don't let this situation effect your future relationship I don't know how you can do that other than seeing a therapist to explore just how deeply it's effected you. but you said yourself you don't want to see a doctor


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