Why am I always on the defensive? Whenever anyone says something I always take it the wrong way.?
Question:
Answers:
lol dont listen to the bipolars, its just that you are an emotional person. Do you have a lt of stress in your life? and are you doing things that you know that your family or friends to not approve of? If so that may be the problem. Otherwise i would find something to trust, who u can work with and talk to everytime you feel this way. Trust me it helps. My suggestion is God, bc he's always there no matter the time or situation and he makes you feel awesome!
Other Answers:
Get counseling in anger management
bi-polar....
http://kevan.org/brain.cgi?muffin8888
I am the same way...i think you are just protecting yourself from getting hurt of be put down...i was put down all the time when i was young so now I have become the same way you are
guilty concious
Thats just your personality. Start seeing things in a different light, and realize that not everyone is out to get you.
Sounds like bipolar.
You are frustrated and you feel out of control with your own life.
Slight paranoia, only slight because you are aware you are being defensive.
If you know you are doing it you could be well on the way to stopping it...try...it wont be easy...good luck
You must be a women. Also get off the coke.
Because you feel guilty about something you have done. You always think someone is accusing you of something, and they are usually right.
I used to be like you ( still have the odd day). I think I've just grown a thicker skin as I've got older, and learnt to bite my tongue.
maybe you are bi-polar. you should see a doctor
u are either a very sensitive person or u could be a bit depressed
how long hav u noticed it? all ur life or just recent? x x
you got a bee up your colon, fart it out.... then you'll feel much better.
try to be so sure about ur self ,try to have so me confidence , even some one tells u some thing so sillly u won't mind it coz u have enough confidence and so sure about ur self n don't care about any thing even if ppl reallly mean some thing
Have you been put down a lot by your family? Many times things like this start when we are young. Sometimes though, they start in the teens when our peers don't treat us right. You need to figure out why you are this way and then work to respond differently to people.
because your a hater
Insecurity usually leads to that behavior
I am very defensive as well.....just had to learn to bite my tongue (when I can) until it sinks in and I take the criticism
Just the way some ppl are!
Oh and I'm proud - which I have been told results in the defensiveness...nout wrong with sticking to ur guns to a certain degree...try and rem the biting the tongue thou !
It could be that in your past you felt that people were attacking you in some way and you are now always on the defensive.
Best to go to a counselor and talk it out, see where it originated and then you can better deal with it. I am glad you recognize what is happening, that is the first step to changing your behavior.
start thinking that the world is not always wrong...continue to think the same until your mind accept it.
You are probably insecure. Everyone has a right to their own individual opinion. Smile and they will never know what you really think or feel.
Because deep down you are gay, and you do not know how to deal with it or express your emotions and feelings. You should embrace your gayness and try to get a little bit more gay everyday. Cherish the things that make you gay, like kittens, teddy bears, your gay family, or the all of the gay times you share with your co workers and little gay friends. Oh, don't take this the wrong way, I'm not calling you a homo, I mean that you are happy and joyful deep down, but don't know how to show it.
It's common to people to have these outburst. The best idea is to take it in a positive way than a negative way. Best to realize what the person is saying instead of jumping to conclusions. Before you react to the statement or whatever think about it carefully. The relationships be like a domino's if one goes it would eventually take all.
Sounds like a security issue...Or an insecurity you may have with yourself...the question to that is why? What are you uncompfortable with?? Why are you holding a block up against your surrounding peers? Ask yourself......Good luck!!
You're not bipolar. You should realize that others may have important things to say, and it is ok to be wrong sometimes. My daughter is the same way. I think it is because she wants to be liked so much, that she wants a reason for all imperfections no matter how trivial. She actually thinks very highly of herself, and for good reason. Just relax, you can't always be perfect, and right. You will always be a good person regardless of what people say or think.
I can be like this sometimes, it is hard as people often react badly to it. For me it is a lack of confidence and self worth. Maybe councilling would help you. I'm not open enough to talk to people...another one of my problems. lol
Possibly........... Persistent Maladaptive Response.
ie. You 'go off on one' to anything and everything said to you - and you go the wrong way about it.
Try looking at alternative ways to respond to people.
Try asking yourself how other people might respond if *they* were asked/told the same thing.
Look for a way to respond that YOU think is a BETTER way to respond.
Look for a response that has a beneficial outcome.
Maybe go and get some help if it's starting to cause you to lose friends etc.
More Questions and Answers
- What is the MOST effective treatment for depression?
- How can you tell if someone is depressed?
- am i crazy?
- have you ever feel so lonely that you wish you could just die?
- does anyone know what a panic attack is.?
- does this poem relate to anybody??
- How do you live with someone who has Schizophrenia .?
- How soon will I feel the effects of Remeron?