How can i turn back the clock and be different?
Question:
who can help me?? i want to die
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Sweetie-- you cannot turn back the clock but you can start from this moment and move forward. You are obviously depressed and when you reach this level of depression you cannot think clearly. Do not make any rash decisions right now. If you have to, call your local suicide hotline. There are people there that will support you in any way you need. They will just talk to you if that is what you want or they will give you resources for help or tell you how to get immediate help if you feel it is a life or death emergency. I worked at a hotline and it really does help to decompress and look at your problems with someone who is not severely depressed. God may not bend down and scoop us up in his arms but He has people out there who are his angels and want to help. Those at the hotlines are volunteers that genuinely care about your situation. God Bless!
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You can't, you have to live with what you did.You also have to trust God did what he did for a reson.
I currently wish I had the guts to kill myself right now so i wouldn't keep breaking my family's heart
Don't you think that would break their heart more then anything else?
I did Meth for 10yrs cause I liked not caring about stuff, but now that I am clean and got my head straight I think.......WTF, I wasted 10yrs on dope
1. You need to GET OUT of the relationship you're in if its abusive
2. See a doctor for the depression(If you're that broke then get on medicaid)
3. Maybe you can move back home long enough to get back on your feet(As I don't know your family this is a suggestion)
. dont know what to say.. id recommend finding someone who will be there for you
Turn to drugs, that's the only thing that will help you. They'll make you feel better.
I also like putting out cigarettes on my inner thigh.
Im sorry you feel this way about life. I can understand youve been through many hardships also, but most of us do too. Seeking to end your life will in no way help you or your family. Get some counseling, have some friends, organize your life a little bit better, and have patience.Good luck=) p.s. remember we are all gods children, believe in him and he will help heal your pain.
Are you in the United States? Look in the blue pages of the phone book and look up state department of mental health. They have income based counselling. The internet is not a good place for real problems. Know that you are not alone, good luck.
First of all, you need to stop the pity party, and get yourself checked into a hospital that will help treat you for your depression. (sorry for the dose of harsh reality, but no one is going to help you until you start helping yourself). You are suffering from a severe form of depression, and you need to understand that if you get help for that you will be able to begin a fresh life for yourself! It's only a phone call away, so make the leap of faith (it's only your own fears that are holding you back from having a happy life), and pull yourself up and get yourself some help!! Be good to yourself, and take care of youself. Happiness is just around the corner, and YOU know that it is!! Take care!
G-d is there, if you reach out to him. He helps those that help themselves. Sitting back whining doesn't help. If you aren't making enough to feed yourself, get food stamps. Screw pride. Get out of the abusive situation. Keep walking and don't look back. Talk to a clergy person. They can help. Don't give up.
Don't do anything stupid. There is help out there and you don't need money. If I knew where you lived I would search it out for you. Where I am I just the other day sent a woman to a charity for abused women and they helped her alot. Please check into it and don't feel bad about not trusting anyone, that is what happens to women that are abused over and over. It is normal. Get with me if you need to for support or help finding something. I will do what I can for I know what it is like.
Wisdom in person gives warning,look inside
i felt like you many times. but i couldnt do it cause because i dont let the feelings win. dont let death win its not the answer. find help talk to a professional. there are people out there who can help you.
It's alright. That was the past. Just wait for you future. Every thing will straighten out for you i promise. I will pray for you and lots more people will. This is what you should really true this is true. When you have somebody that you really loved and they passed away acsending and entering in to heaven when you in a terrible situation. Get on your knees and pray to god and ask him to bring down your angel. He will listen and do it. That loveable angel will be the person that you lived your life with and love a lot. ANGELS are real believe in them with god. They will help you i promise.
Please start thinking another way. You are SOMEBODY, you are here on this earth for a (GOOD REASON). Please, don't hurt yourself, go to a Church, Dr's Office, Police Dept or a Worship group near you and ask for help. Just REMEMBER, start loving yourself now. MUCH LUCK!
Well, I pray God will help you find a way out. You can't go back, but each day is a new day to start over. Go to a church start attending and get to know people, you need their support. Can you get some counseling? A pastor might be able to help you find some, most have a sliding scale fee and you might not have to pay. I promise you God is there and wants you to reach out for Him, he loves you dear one. Please seek out a church, your life can change.
i'm not a therapist and this is a serious matter...so please! get some help..if you can't afford it go to your local county mental health....they will help you there....when i hit my "bottom" like you have..the only way is UP...i too had no help..was alcoholic..had a life of abuse since birth..so look forward to a better life..if i can do it so can you!.when i look back i can't believe that i hurt so much i wanted to die!! i'm SO glad i set aside my pride and got help! that doesn't even enter my mind now...you have more strength than you know!! this is from a woman who was there! good luck sweetie!
First of all, stop looking back. Looking back all the time will make you fall many times. Look forward, take a deep breath and look around you. There must be something that can make you smile, just for a moment. To forget the pain. Then, consult your local social services for free mental health. Most cities and counties have free facilities. Drugs is not the answer. Hope is. You need to find someone or something to feed you hope. God is there (here) and he wouldn't give you more than you can handle. This is a test of your faith. Make God proud for thanking him for what you do have which is life. No, dying is not the answer. Stand up. Be strong and pray.
I think you should be talking to people that have gone through what you are going thorough. Narcotic Anonymous group would be a good place to start. As far as God, I believe that God is here but within us and He put us here to learn how to overcome hardships - even ones as big as yours - and to find the strength within you. Sometimes you can't do it alone and that is when you need to reach out and seek the right kind of people to help you. youqa.coms is a first step for you and hopefully you will get many answers that will lead you down many more steps toward hope, recovery, happiness and strength. God Bless
I've been in your situation it only gets better from here leave your husband you don't deserve to be abused no one does I learned that the hard way try for a better job or get two if possible never let a man run your life GOD will help have faith pray and if you need someone to talk to I'm here spida_kat@yahoo.com i'll talk to you any time don't do drugs they wont help face your problems hunny life isn't easy and don't harm yourself it only leaves scars you'll regret talk to your family or try I know what it's like to not get along with them and to feel alone but your not i'll be here for you ok i promise it's not your fault get out of the position your in now get help if you can but i'll help you the best i can ok...
Ok, this is what to do.
1) Get off the computer and go to your doctor or hospital and tell them what you just wrote here. They can get you the help you need. If you are broke, they can help with that through the Hill-Burton charity or through a sliding scale. Let them treat you.
2) Lose the abusive relationship. Do not see the person again and take out a restraining order if you have to.
3) Go to NA (Narcotics Anonymous) and get some new, sober friends who can help you through this rough time.
Good luck; I will pray for you.
You are here for a reason and even though you are hurting right now you can start by calling the suicide hot line at 1.800.SUICIDE or 1-800-273-8255. Secondly, abuse is never the fault of the victim. You need to understand that the abuser picked you because they sensed you were vulnerable and they are predators who are responsible for their actions. There are crisis intervention centers for women in every state and community and it's important that you get out of this abusive relationship and get some help right away. 1-800-799-7233. You don't have to feel alone and helpless, and believe me - I've been there too. It takes some work to crawl back up from the bottom, but if I can do it, so can you. Please make these phone calls now, don't wait until it's too late. There are people who care and want to help you but you need to let them know where you are. They can take you to a safe house, away from your abusive spouse, and help you get back on your feet. The bills and your job are the least of your worries right now, so let it go until you can cope with those problems and take care of your depression and abusive marriage first. My family was dysfunctional too, but I got help and take medication that has turned my life around and allowed me to live with self respect and dignity. May God Bless You and hold you in his arms until you get the healing you need. Take care of yourself!
The answer is one that you know already. You need to STOP taking ALL drugs and alcohol, walk away from all of your old friends AND the lifestyle AND the jerk that's abusing you. YES YOU CAN. I have done it and I know you can do it too. If you have to, sneak away when he's sleeping. Don't stay with him because of finances....put yourself out there and make yourself struggle to do better. You can do this. Be strong....I stayed in a shed of my mother's for 6 weeks. Since your family members are also substance abusers, DON'T go to them Get yourself clean first....stay in a shelter if you have to. PLEASE do this....and ASAP. You won't believe how much GOOD life there still is to live. And STOP blaming yourself. You're a victim and always have been, and now you need to take the reins and take charge of your life and NOT allow others to suck it away from you anymore. Good luck to you....and don't underestimate the healing effects of the Bible if you're into that...it can really help those who believe in God. Buy yourself a journal, and date it the day you WALK AWAY, and write in it EVERY DAY...about your journey to a better life.
Your family is right you know. You put yourself in this situation. The hurts and the pains you're going through are a direct result of your decisions. I'm sorry for your pain and pray that you find peace.
I'm sure a lot of this is venting your frusstration. Just letting everything out...which is a good thing to do. I'm not sure if anyone can really offer sound advice for your situation though.
You know better deep down that drugs, alcohol and hurting yourself is only going to maek matters worse so use your better judgment with that. I know it feels good for a short while but you're left feeling even worse when you come to your senses again.
As for God, he's been there the whole time as you were the one who turned your back to him. So often, even myself, we try to take on life our own way without God and when we get in trouble we get all mad at him for letting bad things happen. What you need to do is earnestly pray, not for your own reasons or wanting a solution, but to allow God to take care of things in his timing. There are people A LOT worse off then you. Remember that when you're going through these trials. People watching their children die in war ridden countries, people starving to death and so many terrible things one can go through. I dont want to limit the sincerity of the hardships you're facing but put into perspective that others would be fortunate in your circumstances.
I used to never beleive it, but I do now and I can honestly say that God has a purpose and will use every situation , good, bad or indifferent to make it something good for those who trust in him. Not everything that happens to us is good but God can use it to make something good out of it. Look at Joseph in the book of Genesis. His brothers plotted to kill him and sold him into slavery, God used that to make Joseph high in power so that he could save his family from a 7 year famine. It's amazing the harships he endured but he kept his faith knowing that God had something in store for him.
I'm praying for you and I hope that things turn around to shine a little hope on your way.
You can't take back yesterday but you can choose how right now and tomorrow will be. Don't be so wrapped up in the past that you forget to move forward. Life is a race and you have to keep running forward
pls see a local church and get help especially from the monster of a husband ur with now. ur family doesn't deserve this, and u sure as hell dont either. u do mean the world to many ppl, u just dont know it yet. and pls dont hurt urself. u'll be in my prayers.
Cut and change course. Start anew.
Go to a place of worship, seek guidance/help from religious leader.
If no place, go to Free Clinic/Community Centre that helps poor people
But as in everything we do, before every step, ask sincerely for God's help. Works for me.
Start anew means letting go of old. Do it. Cut off totally. It only means that later on, you have the choice (when you are better off) to choose to come back(or not).
Am doing it right now. Hurts awful bad, but the alternative hurts more. So I do it, anyways. You can, too. You've got to admit to that first and then go do it.
Mental illness is worse if you listen to people talk about it, even if its with you. Silence it, also cut it out. Just seek direct help for your life's daily problems and see to it that you do things and are helped (in that order, and ONLY in that order). Let mental illness fend for itself. You go on with your business.
Pay less attention to subjects - the who of it (I, me, you, they, .... and all about how everyone is experiencing: in pain, sad, hurtful, sickening etc. etc.)
Pay more attention to objects - the what of it (what to do, what next, how does that work, why, why not, why so, its good/bad - never for whom but to itself )
Above all, realize that as a human being, only God is above you in real terms. Other "real" terms are actually meaningless as in God's eyes, what does it matter if you are rich, smart, beautiful? Only if you are good and do good. Right?
Doesnt matter that you are bad now, if tomorrow is for a better you, the past is passed. Where you're headed IS NOT NECESSARILY where you're from.
God is your family. That's why I wish to die alone (but with God), if I am to suffer badly, I wish to be alone. Because my pain is for God to help. If and when God wants to help me thru people, I will feel that it is not personal but by God's grace. So there is no mess of human family to contend with. Reciprocality is but platonic with other humans. Unless of course, ... there is a truly loved one who is also loving you truly, in your life. Then by all means, please let that person(s) in.
All the best to you and good luck.
No I'm afraid you can't turn back the hands of time, you have to face your demons head on. If you're in an abusive relationship leave, I know that it's easier said then done. But it is possible, drugs never solve any problems, they just add to them. My husband is a recovering addict, he's been clean for going on 6 years, and he spent 20 years as an addict. He even got so down and out that he lived in a junk yard, when we took a break from each other. He went to about 20 different rehab centers and none of them had any long term effect on him. Yeah, he talked the talk and walked the walk while he was in there, but when he would get out it was a horse of a different color. He stole from us, he didn't work, and he even rented out our car for drugs. I was the only one working and I was 8 months pregnant. I worked until my water bag broke, and had to go back to work 10 days after our son was born. By this time he was back in rehab in another state. Let's just say that he and I went through a lot while he was in never, never-land. When I finally asked the Lord to help
me and I put the problem in his hands, things started turning around quickly. Everything is possible with the help of the Lord, we just have to ask. If you were ill and needed to take medication everyday, you would right. Well, that's the same thing with prayer, each and everyday. Then stand back and watch God's smoke. He will always have your back.
God Bless
If mental illness runs in your family, you need to see a professional.
Alright for starters it sounds like you are crying out for help and it is a shame that no one is there to help you.
You need to speak to someone I am not a therapist of any kind so I am not going to step over my boundaries and suggest anything that may cause you anymore harm.
You need to get away from the abuse though. Don't blame yourself for what your family thinks. They are not you. Don't be ashamed of who you are either. You are what God made you.
I would even suggest turning to God for guidance go to church. Get involved in something positive and uplifting and you will find your way back.
I don't believe in suicide and I won't tell you what I think of it exactly. Some people I know get stuck and they can't get out they don't know where to go or how. They surrender their over to God. I don't think that is the answer. Don't run away from life its one big test.
Take a deep breath and like I said turn to God for some guidance. He has helped me many times. I was in that situation once before being beaten, cheated on, no money, a child, no friends i could trust, I was unhappy with my job, my health wasn't the greatest and I was being treated for massive depression. And you know what I did I tried to throw myself off a 14th floor balcony. I was alone on the balcony drinking it felt like my hundredth drink that night and just as I went to go over a hand grabbed the back of my shirt and pulled me back over. That person began to cry and held me for the longest time.
I knew then that no matter tests lie ahead of me it wasn't time for me to go. That person was there for a reason and I will never forget them.
If you need someone to talk to please feel free to contact me tweetypie23ca@yahoo.ca
The sooner you realize that God helps those that helps themselves, the better..and also,...that you have to depend on no one but yourself...it also makes you a better stronger person...He has probably been giving you the answers all along...I don't think you have mental disease, you just sound very abandoned and hurt and don't have the money to get out...and that is usually what it takes, money...sorry, but just the truth...Forget about what the family says right now...you need to get a good escape path going....go on line, you can go on line and read up on all the places you can get help in your neighborhood...I don't know where you live,..you are in a postition it sounds like to me, that you make enough to barely get by, but too much to get help from the government maybe..anyway, don't blame God and Jesus for what satan has heaped on you...Satan has a way of doing things to break our faith in God...see how he does it? Be strong, regroup and go on line like a mad woman and start researching all the places that have women like yourself and have been there and done that...don't ask the family any more, they have enough on their plates...forgive them, and have faith my friend...the Lord has something better waiting..surround yourself with good people...these programs have seen it all, and I think you can trust them...good luck dear, and please dont die...you won't know what tommorow would have brought, and you might have won the lottery...God Bless, be Strong in your faith and rebuke satans nasty show...
Life isn't over yet. You need to try. Get happy. its hard to get over depresion but it's worth it. Living is worth, their are so many moments you need to live. You need moemnts to look back on and smile. Writing a diary really helped me because i didn't trust anyone trusted those pages. I started writing like stories. Then I gained a lil self-confidence and helped others w/ depression. Just try. Email me at Cedez92@yahoo.com. You'd be a good writer. That title you wrote was good. Writing stories always makes me happy.
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