i have bipolar & im very embarrsed to tell people, i feel like im not normel. what should i do to get over it?
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What I've learned as I've gotten older is that everyone has at least one problem in life. When it's you, you feel like it's ONLY you going through a personal challenge like this - but it isn't. Many people don't talk about what's really going on with them, but if you could see behind their doors you would know.
I look around me at people I now know who have eating disorders, drug problems alcholism, and other major issues, and probably wouldn't trade places with them. (I don't know. being an alcholic would most likely be more fun than what I've got.lol.)
I have anxiety disorder and get panic attacks. I know it's not the same thing that you're dealing with, but it's pretty bad and I've had it for years. It comes and goes from year to year, in severity and frequency, but it has definitely changed my life and made me a different person. It keeps me from doing normal activities at times and I avoid things I fear. It has driven people away too.
I have so often wondered why I've gotten this (which feels like a living hell in so many ways) and have finally decided that it is so that I can help other people who suffer from this, or another problem. It makes you stronger and gives you a different perspective, that's for sure. I think that often people with emotional problems are just so much sweeter and more sensitive than others. :)
It helps me to journal my feelings and to talk with trusted friends. There are some really good counselors out there as well who specialize in your problem and can help you. Prayer helps too, if you're so inclined, as does regular exercise, good nutrition, meditation and relaxation, and one of the best things you can do is help someone else, even in a small way. It makes you feel better!
I don't know if I'd go announcing it to everyone you meet - but if you feel like letting someone know, then just do so. Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed. Sometimes it just helps to talk. You are a good person with wonderful qualities. You just have a problem that is beyond your control. So hold your head up and BE the strong person you are.
Blessings!
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Don't worry about what people think. Nobody is perfect. everyone has something they also try to hid that they feel is embarrassing. Once you accept that you have it, then others will accept it. Even if they don't accept it, it's who you are and there are other people in the world who will accept you for who you are.
just ascept it and make the best out of it,. and count your blessings, then.. u'll be fine. Bipolar is a disease.
Would you feel any more embarassed to tell someone that you had cancer, or lupus, or the flu, or parkinsons?
We are who we are, and no matter how hard you may try to hide it, you are who you are. Be the best at who you are, be a good person, be honest, and if you think it's appropriate to tell someone or if it comes up, tell them.
They'll either understand and be a stronger friend than before, or they won't and you will have learned who your true friends are.
Oh, and you are as normal as everyone else, which means that you are unique like everyone else. :)
Hope that this helps.
Buddhadan
It's nothing to be embarrassed about. Many people are bipolar. They have meds for it, also a therapist or counseling can help. I wish you the best. Relax. You can live a normal enough life that you don't need to tell people. Manage your disease responsibly and don't feel like you need to make dramatic announcements.
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Just remember no one is normal. Brain chemistry is a fascinating subject. I was able to buy medical textbooks on eBay and they were not that hard to understand. Not that I understood everything but I felt better knowing the wide range of "normal". Also knowing more gave me a better sense of control and helped me understand what was being corrected by the melds.
Maybe saying,"I have deeper mood swings than most people but I take medication to help even things out." is a better way to explain your situation than offering a medical diagnosis. Don't think you owe people an explanation unless it impacts your work or relationships.
Remember the ways you are strong. Remember what you do that makes you feel worthwhile. After all you are NOT burnt toast.
You're private medical info is nobody's business. Share this only with people very close to you that you can trust. Some famous people have come out about mental illnesses, but there is still a lot of discrimination in and out of the workplace. There are lots of great meds now that can keep you on an even keel - much better than trying to white knuckle your way through life zooming up and down.
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