Please help me get quick help for my depression.?
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the fundamental problem with severe depression, of course, is that it sucks everything out of you - hope, joy, energy. it is an excruciatingly difficult time just to be going grocery shopping, much less undertaking a life altering endeavor. so, first off, i commend you for making the effort.
now, to solutions. different methods work for different people.
medical/psychiatric/psychologi. are you calling independent analysts/doctors, or are you in a health plan, e.g., an hmo? if you're in a health plan, you can expedite the process by being more vocal, and making the request(s) in writing, making certain that they understand that you are doing so as to keep a paper trail. in the interest of avoiding liability, if nothing else, they'll find themselves considerably more responsive.
once you do see a therapist, for it to work, you've got to be willing to have an open mind, and to participate. most people don't seem to have too much difficulty with this part.
if possible, have this therapist also be a psychiatrist. he/she may be able to work with you in perhaps finding an anti-depressant that, in conjunction with the therapy, may be effective in alleviating the condition. anti-depressants do work for many people, and, if they do, there's absolutely nothing wrong with utilizing them. you'll need to work with an expert to find the right one/combination, at the proper dosage(s). if conventional pharmaceuticals don't work for you, perhaps you may consider consulting a homeopath. st, john's wart, a natural herb, has also been known to be helpful for many users.
point is, whatever works, use. at this level of acuteness, the priority is immediate relief of the symptoms. once the immediate danger ebbs, you can better concentrate on total recovery.
authors: depending on your predisposition, there are several books/authors that may be of help to you. i list some here as possible sources of constructive guidance for you, not necessarily as recommendations. again, the efficacy of any modality of therapy is individual.
david burns, m.d., feeling good
julia ross, m.a., the mood cure (somewhat more “alternative”)
if you’re the type to find motivational speakers inspirational, you may find the following authors helpful:
anthony robbins (of infomercial fame, but, again, if motivational speakers work for you, this guy will probably help)
les brown (later fell into a deep funk himself, but, during “reign,” was highly lauded)
norman vincent peale (if you are religious)
of course, if you are religious, and christian, then, the bible, church, etc. may be of help to you.
as far as suicide is concerned, this is gonna sound ridiculously simplistic, but, to be blunt, as you have a daughter who is wholly dependent on you, it is simply not an option for you. like it or not, you will have to stay alive, as long as your daughter is dependent on you.
unlike most, seemingly, i don’t happen to think that “suicide is never an option.” for some people, under certain circumstances, it is an entirely viable option. under ideal circumstances, one would hope for a world devoid of the pain leading to suicides. unfortunately, there is a severe dearth of ideal circumstances in the world.
for you, however, it simply cannot be an option, the primary reason being, again, that you have a dependent daughter. so, rule that out. period.
then, as you are clearly having difficulty coping by yourself, seek help, both psychologically and physiologically, in conjunction. as with anything, not all therapists are the same -- if one doesn’t work, try another. same with drugs -- some may work, others not, perhaps all will, perhaps none. through it all, always keep an open mind - open to the possibility that the therapies will work, that you will feel better. if exercises/routines are part of the program, stick to them.
there is a logic which provides somewhat of a respite from the darkest depths, and it is this: if, in fact, life has become so painful that you have concluded that the finality of death is the only “relief,” then you are at a point - at least in the mortal world - where you simply can’t go any lower. In other words, at this point, you have literally nothing to lose. Well, if you have nothing to lose, then try everything. do everything you ever wanted to do. take all the risks that you’ve always been afraid to take (because, as you can’t possibly “lose” anything, no matter what you try, you’re not really “risking” anything).
best wishes.
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Ok, what's the problem? Why do you want to die? I've found the problem is either someone had too many major problems in their lives or not nearly enough problems to know how to deal with them.
If you had too many guess what, it isn't your fault nothing you can do about it. Some people have more problems than others, unfortunately it is the way God works. Some people were adopted, some people lost a limb or their sight at age 2. I have a friend that I played soccer with that was in a car accident at age 12 and would never have another rational thought as long as he lived. Nothing you can do, just deal with it. Life is the gift, make the most of it.
If it is that you haven't had enough problems guess what, life is hard. Deal with it, I mean, why would you want to die if you have a child? How about learning to take things not always going your way? This is how most of us live.
Ok, I'll take my Dr's fee now - I accept cash, check, charge, or money order.
Wow you are stresed and overloaded. Do you have anything you can do to relieve stress quickly, like running or relaxing? you know you don't want to die, due to your daughter and all, you are just really overwhelmed right now, and i totally feel you.
I have bipolar l disorder and it it soooo hard to cope with life sometimes, I am a nursing student and work full time as a nurses aide, and have two young children and it gets to the point that i just want it to end, but it can't for you or me, don't let it get you, PLEASE! if you look for natural remidies online, maybe you can find something to add to your diet to help with the depression. Also know that alot of medication just helps, it doesnt make things go away, and alot of antidepressants make suicidal tendencies worse, believe me, i know. God bless
get chuck norris to round-house kick you Go to a mental health clinic in your area and tell them you need emergency care, and thinking of hurting yourself. they will get you in ASAP, possible right then and there. Please get help soon for you and your daughters sake.
I'm sorry you're suffering so much right now. I've been where you are.
You CAN do things right now that will help you feel better. First, you can and will feel better, so don't give up yet, OK?
I don't know how much of your depression is chemical and how much is from your behaviors, but you're probably dealing with a combination of both. So if you really want to feel better, you must address both.
A doctor can get you on antidepressants, but like you said, you're looking at a long wait. Meanwhile, try taking St. John's Wart three times a day. Stay away from sugar, and go exercise. All of these things will actually help increase the chemicals in your brain that help you feel good.
For the behavioral part, therapy may help, but if you want something fast and effective, AND YOU'RE WILLING TO WORK, then check out a weekend course called "More to Life" that is given by the Kairos Foundation. Yes, it's cliche, but this course changed my life and got me out of my depression cycle ever since I took it 8 years ago.
Good luck and remember, you will feel better!
http://www.moretolife.org/
Please see my depression page. I have suffered from depression and I know it's no fun. Hang in there until you can see a psychologist and try some natural remedies now.
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