How can I find purpose in life after learning that my friend comited suicide?
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Maybe she wasn't a quitter.
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We learn from tragedy, and someday you will benefit from this experience. Like learning how much suicide hurts others and how much it would have hurt the people that care about you if your suicide attempts were successful.
You haven't changed. Nothing about you or your experiences or your reasons for living has changed. Your friend, for whatever reasons, had a different path than you.
You need to live on your path. Mourn your friend, miss her, memorialize her, and get on with your life. You owe her memory that much.
you will neve find out if you commit suicide. Think about that, and look at all that life has to offer, even if some things are bleak
I feel your pain. My life sounds like a copy of yours. But, it was my little sister. Not being able to say " goodbye" is one of the worst parts of it, I believe. I have no answers to our pain and suffering. except , I think it's all a test. the world is a scary place.. we just need to someone "survive ". I'm not sure how other people seem to " Live "' and "" be happy "".. I wish they could walk in our shoes for a day or two. I'm sorry for your loss. If you ever want to talk to someone who feels as you do. please feel free to contact me.
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hi there, My name is Tina and I'm a cancer survivor who now has an ovarian mass and tongue cancer. I know how you feel, I have other health stuff going on too. Many times I've felt so awful mentally and physically I wanted to die, I even went so far as to think of ways to do it too but I realized I didn't come this far in life to give up, I don't give up on others so why would I give up on me? I think because you and I both know all the pain and suffering we have a purpose to fulfill. My best friend died of cancer while I'm here and lived, I ask why too as she had so much to live for and was so healthy. I'm not healthy yet I'm here.I have lymphedema one of the side effects from cancer.
I think your purpose here is to talk to others in the same condition and state you are in and help them. That's what I have done, I started a support group and it is very rewarding. We know first hand how others feel, how we feel, how we felt in the past, and I think it's our purpose to help them out of the pain and feelings we have been in and are in. When you help people, you help yourself too because it's a good feeling to have a purpose.
Maybe God guided you to the answers page tonight for running into me? running into others who will answer too.
Im so sorry about your friend and about your other problems, it's natural to feel so low, but why don't you try looking at what you have got , not what you havn't got, look at what you havn't lost, not what you have lost, start thinking more positive, life is a challenge , more so for others, so let it make you a stronger person not a weaker one,, take care.. :)
I'm sorry for lose and your friend, but pull yourself together. Maybe you can help others facing the same issues. Find a research group doing a study, and volunteer to participate in a study..Learn to make better choices. Do you want to put others through what you are going through? Don't hurt yourself and the ones close to you.
U need to be closer to God =]
Pray, read the Bible, and love the Lord and Jesus.
trust me he saved my life and has helped me always.
be strong and dont kill urself hun, remember killing urself is a sin which God does not like so Pray and Believe and ur life will turn into a miracle =] just be strong
hope this helps
Life has meaning even in death. God is merciful and only he really knows what is good for us. Please talk to a pastor/priest of your choice. Please do not think about suicide. Think about the good times your and your friend had. Pay tribute to her memory by living life to the fullest. Remember that even though your dearest friend is not with you physically, she will remain in your heart for always. God will not abandon you in this your moment of need. I pray for you and hope that these few humble words will bring you consolation. May God bless you .
This is so painful to read. I'm sorry that you have gone through all these things. Many people go through life not knowing there purpose. But there are many that you do every day. Just getting someone to smile, doing something out of the kindness of your heart! I am 47 and still don't know what I want to be when I grow up! Well I did the grow up part, But haven't figured out the rest! Maybe in time. Your not a murderer or a child molester right? Well your here for a reason! Don't give up! Please find someone to talk to. But don't dwell on your friend,Think of all the good times. Good luck. and my thoughts are with you!
I'm so sorry you lost your friend that way. My closest friend committed suicide three years ago, so I know it's hard. I went into a fairly deep depression for quite a while, but I'm sure it would have been worse if he had not given instructions for me to deliver his eulogy, saying that only I would know what to say. It was a heavy responsibility, but I think it saved me. Maybe you should sit down and write down what you would say if you were speaking at your friend's funeral. Don't consider your words only from a personal point of view, but also from her family's and friends'. What could you say that would comfort them and at the same time pay honest tribute to your friend?
Find someone to talk to. A professional. If you can't afford it, check with your local health department. Sometimes there are counselors who do pro bono (free) work. Consider doing volunteer work at a suicide hotline. You have the kind of experience that could speak to someone considering the same decision. Or volunteer for a local Meals on Wheels program. If you reach out to other people, it helps keep you from focusing on your feelings and gives you the kind of gratification that makes life good again.
Hang in there. Life is worth it. Feel free to IM me on yahoo as bikerpjb.
All of us have a purpose in life, we have to find what that purpose is. Living a life of depression is not easy. I've suffered depression for many years. I've tried suicide, however God is not ready for me yet.
I had to pick up the pieces of my life when my 26 y/o son committed suicide. My son left without say goodbye. It's not been an easy road to travel. We have to go on in life no matter what the circumstances are. Read Proverbs 3:5-6
Believe that there is a God, as all the symetry in life is that divine. It sounds like you know the pain of love & loss. We all suffer, and grow from it. never give up.
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It sounds like you've had a rough time of things, and I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Listen, though. life IS worth living. You said yourself that God protected you, even when it was from yourself. While it's terrible that your friend is gone, YOU are still here. That means that your purpose in life hasn't been fulfilled yet. God still has some special job for you to do, some special person to influence, some special task that only you can finish. Hang on and take life one day at a time. Sooner or later, you'll find that purpose God has set for you, and through it you will come to know happiness again.
As for why you lived while your friend did not, I'd suggest taking a look at the book of Job. Job was a truly righteous man who wouldn't hurt a fly, and yet God allowed his life to become a living hell. Job, who was angry for obvious reasons, demanded to know why fate had been so cruel to him. In the end, he came to realize that sometimes humans can't comprehend the actions of God. There are times when we simply have to have faith that "the Father knows best."
This happened to me. A friend committed suicide. There is no grief like suicide. The good news that there is grief support for suicide.
And each day the pain get lighter.
Once a year I go to her grave site and I leave a flower or a poem..
You will get better..
When my friend took her life.it made me wonder if I would do this. all of her friends wondered..
You will enjoy life again..
Your friend is in heaven and she doesn't want you sad.
1. try to walk every day.
2. every day write down 10 things you are grafeful for
3. write down 10 things you fear.(watch them disappear)
4. Find a grief support counsler (who has experience with suicide support) in your town..do it today.
5. Remember suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem,
6. Love yourself
7. Find your higher power..God and ask God to help you.do it daily.
8. I felt guilty that I could have stopped her..I now know I could not have stopped her..
9. check out this website..to help you understand
www.suicidology.org
10. Repeat after me.. I Will Never Give Up.say it ten times a day.
11. Be gentle with thyself..and smile..
Each day the pain will lessen. You will find Joy again..
Homeopathy :-
Please take IGNATIA 30C thrice a day half hour before meals for three days and please report back with your progress after three days. You will be feeling better and happy.If your depression still persists after three days of IGNATIA please take AURUM MET 30C Thrice a day half hour before or after meals and keep me posted about your progress!
Take Care and God Bless you !
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Have you ever wondered about the reason of our existence? Have you ever wondered why we die, and where we go after death? What will happen to us in the end? Have you ever asked yourself why God made the earth and all that is in it under man’s dominion? Why were the night and the day, and the sun and the moon created? What are we supposed to do during our lifetime? Were we created just to eat, drink, and enjoy ourselves before we die? As one poet put it:
“I do not know whence I have come.
I saw my feet walking on the road.
As they please I go and stop.
What am I doing here?
How did the road find me?
I do not know! I do not know! I do not know! ”
God has emphasized in many verses of the Qur’an that He did not create us without purpose. He said: “What! Do you think that I created you simply in jest? And that you would not be returned to Me?” (23:115) He also said: “What! Does man think that he will be left to roam at his will?” (75:36) In addition, He said: “Do people think that they will be left to say: “We believe,” and they will not be held accountable?” (29:2)
Indeed, God Has created human beings for a purpose and with a purpose: TO WORSHIP HIM ALONE (Monotheism). He said: “I have not created the Jinn and humankind except only to worship Me. I don't require provision or feeding from them. Surely Allah is the All-provider, the Possessor of all strength, the Firm.” (51:56-58) In fact, all prophets told their people to worship God alone (Monotheism) and shun worshipping His creation (Paganism). God said: “I assuredly sent among every people a messenger with the command: Worship Allah and avoid worshipping false gods.” (16:36)
Prophet Abraham, for example, believed in One God, who had no partner. Anyone who holds a different understanding of God than this has contradicted the religion of Abraham and follows falsehood. God says in the Qur’an: “Those who reject the religion of Abraham make fools of themselves.” (2:130)
Prophet Jesus was reported in the Gospels to have said: “It is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God and serve Him only’.” (Luke 4:8)
Prophet Jacob also said (in the Qur'an) to his people: “Indeed, those which you worship besides Allah are only names that you and your forefathers have established, for which Allah has sent down no authority. The command belongs only to Allah. He has commanded that you worship none but Him. That is the right religion, but most people do not understand.” (12:40)
Read more about the TRUE BELIEF which supported by the Miracle Holy Quran :
http://www.islam-guide.com/islam-guide.pdf
http://www.harunyahya.com
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God, the Most Compassionate, didn't leave man to go astray without an unadulterated reference. Indeed, He revealed the Qur’an and promised to preserve it as the final revelation for humankind for all times. It is the word of God which He revealed to Prophet Muhammad (mercy and peace of God be upon him) through the Angel Gabriel. It was revealed in parts over a period of 23 years. The Quran deals with the basis of creeds, morality, history of humanity, worship, knowledge, wisdom, God-man relationship, and human relationship in all aspects. Comprehensive teaching on which, can be built sound systems of social justice, economics, politics, legislation, jurisprudence, law and international relations, are important contents of the Quran. The Prophet Muhammad (mercy and peace of God be upon him) dictated the revelation to his companions who wrote it down during his lifetime on palm leaves, parchments, bones, flat stones, etc. In addition, the Qur'an was committed to heart by many of Prophet Muhammad's companions. One year after the death of Prophet Muhammad (mercy and peace of God be upon him), the first Caliph (Ruler), Abu-Bakr, instructed the Prophet’s companions to collect the whole Qur’an in one volume. The third Caliph, Uthman, prepared several copies from the original text and sent them to the major centers of Islamic Civilization. From that time onwards, more than 1400 years ago, the same Qur’anic text has been in use with the exact wording, order and language (Arabic). Not a single word from its 114 chapters has been changed since it was revealed. Indeed, God promised in the Qur’an to preserve it forever. He said: “Verily, I have sent down the Qur’an, and indeed, I will guard it from corruption.” (15:9). An essential point to understand about the Qur’an is that it is a miracle both in its revelation and content.
I advise you to see the following links which show the evidence that the Holy Qur’an is a miracle.
http://www.jalyat.net/
www.miraclesofthequran.com
At the time of the revelation and since, there have been those who have denied the divine and miraculous nature of the Qur’an saying that Muhammad (mercy and peace of God be upon him) was either taught by others or that he wrote it by himself! In order to counteract this claim, God lays down a challenge to the whole of humankind saying: “ If you are in doubt concerning what I have revealed to My slave (Muhammad), then produce one chapter like it and you may call on your helpers beside Allah, if you are truthful.” (2:23) .These are from the prophecies which the Qur’an foretold as no one from the time of the Prophet (mercy and peace of God be upon him) until this day has been able to produce the like of one chapter or even a verse of the Qur’an.
This link for the Holy Quran translated in English language:
http://www.harunyahya.com/Quran_translation/Quran_translation_index.php
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Real happiness and peace can be ONLY found in submitting to the commands of the Creator and the Sustainer of this world. God has said in the Qur’an: (Truly, in remembering God do hearts find rest.)
(Qur’an, 13:28)
On the other hand, the one who turns away from the Qur’an will have a life of hardship in this world. God has said:
(But whoever turns away from the Qur’an, he will have a hard life, and We will raise him up blind on the Day of Judgment.) (Qur’an, 20:124)
This may explain why some people commit suicide while they enjoy the material comfort money can buy. For example, look at Cat Stevens (now Yusuf Islam), formerly a famous pop singer who used to earn sometimes more than $150,000 a night. After he converted to Islam, he found true happiness and peace, which he had not found in material success.
To read the stories of people who have converted to Islam, please visit
http://www.islam-guide.com/stories
At this web page, you can read the thoughts and feelings of these people, who are from different countries and have different backgrounds and levels of education.
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