What should i do?
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No...you can't help him. He can only get help, when he is ready to be helped. When he "gets sick and tired of being sick and tired" he'll do something to change and help himself. You on the other hand, need to get help for yourself. My husband is a recovering addict, as I am a recoverying alcoholic. The most help you can give your husband is helping your self. You can't change him; you didn't make him start using, so there fore you can't make him stop either. It is a disease like alcoholism and any drug addiction, whether it is legal or illegal. You might want to remember also that when he took that first pill, he didn't sit down and tell himself that he was going to become addicted to them either. It is like a diabetic. They don't choose to be diabetics. Addicts and alcoholics don't choose to be addicts and alcoholics. The only thing they can choose is to stop using and drinking. However, it isn't that easily done, and esp. without help of some kind; whether it come from ABOVE or from NA or AA. God knew what addiction is, as he describes it very well in Proverbs, the 27 th chapter, and the last few verses. But he also allows programs such as the 12-Step programs to exist because he knew us humans would need the help. Who can understand an addict any more then one that is recovering? But you my friend, need help, such as Ala-non or Nara-non. It helps you to learn how to live with your decision of either leaving or staying. But without the help, you only make his addiction last that much longer active. We learned dysfunctional behavior (or coping skills) and so now we need to un-learn them, just like they have to unlearn how to live without drugs in their lives.
No.you can't do anything for him. He's an addict who refuses to stop. It will just continue to get worse and worse. I am betting he is either doctor-shopping OR he's getting the hydrocodone illegally. The police WILL catch him either way. Then he'll stop using because he'll be in jail.
Kristen, you are an enabler. Don't let him use you in his problem! Tell him detox or he's out the door. Don't back down with him either. De-tox or on the street. I know you love him but the only way to help him is to let him hit rock bottom so he has some place to go after he is de-toxed. Love and aloha and lots of chocolate kisses, Ku'uipo
Its not going to be easy but it can be done..He is going to have to ween himself off of them..If that means you have to keep the pills under lock and key..If he does'nt kick the habit soon he may have some severe physical issue's..Good Luck Support,Support,Support is very important also..
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