How can i be more talkative?
Question:
HELPP!!!! group meeting is making me so nervous and desperate!
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You already write in English better than a lot of people, so chances are your English skills aren't so bad. I had a friend from the Netherlands who was always concerned about that, but he spoke better English than most Americans.
It might sound like a lame and obvious answer, but start off by forcing yourself to be more social. It's one of those things where, the more you get out there and do it, the more comfortable you're going to be. Don't expect to go from shy to the life of the party overnight, but start being a little more talkative with people you're comfortable with and then build up more and more. Expect some awkward moments, expect to not know what to say sometimes or feel embarassed, it's going to happen, but it happens to everyone so don't let it get you down.
It's hard at first, but it gets easier and easier. You'll get there!
don't worry about it. Some people are the quiet type.. You might be considered a good listener. If you have something to say, say it if you don't don't worry about it. I am the same way. I feel people don't really want to hear what i have to say and many times they are missing out.
Wow, I am the same exact way. I feel embarassed when surrounded by people who are all talking to eachother, and I refuse to talk to anyone. Also, when I talk to people, I get so nervous and have to be holding somehthing, whether its my own hand or in my pockets, and I cant make eye contact. I also sweat alot and stutter when I talk because Im so nervous and I try to talk fast. Just know your not alone is all the advice i can give!
I am a shy person too, but not lately. If you care what people think, don't. I know it is easier said then done, but it really helped me out. I didn't really know if what I was saying would even matter to anyone either. Try to find a topic that you know about or are interested in and jump in. And if you do say something stupid deal with it, usually people won't care or they'll forget about it. Hope this helps. :)
There are some tricks to make the talker keep talking. Repeat the last word the person just said and then wait. You can develop a series of simple questions to ask every person you can get eye contact with. Practice a few before hand in the mirror. I knew one lawyer who had a rule at work he wouldn't talk to anyone before noon. Also take the positive rule for friendliness. Ask questions until the person says no then leave them be and excuse yourself.
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