How to tell..?
Question:
Should I show her the cut marks on my arm 'cause they will just be uncovered sooner or later. Do you think it would be too much of a shock? I have been wearing long sleeves since wednesday when I cut and it is looking kinda weird now.
How should I bring it up and what should I say to the doctor when I eventually get there?
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Also, please know that on wednesday I was in a really bad state, I took seven tylenols, four caffeine pills, drank some alcohol and cut myself. It was then I decided I needed help for real and I haven't done anything like that day since, but I need to do something or I know it will happen again eventually. I am 18 years old
Answers:
You are 18 and can seek help without needing a parents consent. Breaking that news to your mom could be better handled by a professional. Do not let the fear of her reaction stop you from seeking help though. With or without her there is no maybe about it-YOU NEED HELP!
Be honest with your mom and tell her all the problems you have . Then show her the cuts and ask to see a doctor and also be honest with the doctor becuase they r making you better.
Be honest with your mom, so she can see how much you really need the help and she can help you get it. If you're not completely honest with a counselor, they can't help you properly. Good luck, you're taking the first step in getting well.
The beauty here is you want to get help and that is good! I have known cutters one a very good friend who cut too deep and she died:( Please go to your family doctor and get him or you to help you, you deserve to be here and well like anyone else...
I use to cut too.
It's best to just tell your mom, don't shock her, and just show it to her, but ease into it.
Trust me after you get over that big hump, it's a lot easier, and you feel so much better.
Counseling is really good, especially if you get a good counselor!
It's all worth it to get better
I hope that helped!
yeh really tell youre mom/ go to the doctors. i dont know if you go to a pyschiatrist but try to get on an anti-depressant. i use to cut myself, and i didnt do it for like a year and i thought it was the dumbest thing ever, and then i did it recently when i was drunk and felt like an asss but really tell her because you dont want to end up gettin locked in a psych ward, shyt sucks.dont tell them you were taking pills, hah they will prob accuse you of trying to kill yourself.
well you should try to get help from your friends first to encourage you not to and if that doesnt work tell your mom
to stop cutting be around friends alot youll be embarased to do it infront of them and when u cant be with friends and you want to hold ice in your hands or draw red lines on your arms with a washable marker and for drinking go tell your mom dotn tell about cuts unless you want to be put in a mental hospital lol which really sucsk trust me
You're absolutely pitiful. Grow up. You're eighteen, go get help on your own. Don't put your mother through your mindless melodrama. It is absolutely nauseating for me to see emo kids do this crap. It's terrible, I'm sorry you can't get attention in any other way, or you're too infantile to deal with your lack of popularity. Honestly though, cut the crap. So what, bad things happened to you, bad things happen to everyone, I promise you're no exception, as far as how much you took for the Tylenol, caffeine, and alcohol. What do you think happens when people drink too much? They wake up the next morning drink a bunch of coffee and take some Tylenol. It's not like you took an exceptional amount, get over yourself.
Go to the doctor and tell them everything, because they need to know everything to help you properly.
If you wanna email me anytime, go ahead. I'm going through a lot of this too.
Please tell your mom. Cutting yourself is a signal that you are having some kind of psychological pain. My daughter's friend used to cut herself, and she told me that it was a way to "take control" of things in her life that were bothering her. BTW, since you are 18, you do not need to get your Mom's permission to go to get help. Most counties have a Mental Health Center that will help you, for free or for a small fee. The important thing is that you get the help that you need. When you do see a doctor, tell him/her what you have told us here. Be completely honest about how you were feeling then and how you feel now. Try to identify things that are bothering you so you can air them out and try to solve them. Sometimes just talking with someone about things that bother you can make you feel so relieved that you feel better immediately. I think that when a person cuts themselves, it is a cry for help, because as you said, people will see the cuts eventually, and (hopefully) will take you for treatment. Hope this helps.
I might tell her after I got help, so you won't kill her.
It's so hard to hear such things from your kids.
You are a man now, you need to figure out why you do these things, find the underlying problem.
Take care.
It would be much better to tell your Mom about the cuts before you go to the Doctors since she won't be as shocked then when the doctor sees. My parents caught me cutting on my arms and pretty much lost it, though they did nothing to fix the problem except yell at me. If your mom's fairly understanding tell her that it's important that you go to the doctors. If she refuses to take you then you're old enough to be considered an adult and you can go to the doctors without an adult with you can you can get the perscription without your Mom being there. When you get to the doctors I would suggest that you just tell him right out that you think that you need mental help. Say that you believe that you're depressed or you have been self harming. The doctor will then ask questions and decide what to do. They might just reccommend a theripist but th theripist can also perscribe meds. Good luck. ^.^
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