I am phsically disabled, bipolar, gad, dependent on my son for help, he is joining navy soon?


Question:
he will be gone for 8 weeks w/o my being able to contact him. i am terrified of dying and no one will know until i am stinky. i will be able to be his dependent when he finishes basic but do not know what to do for those 8 weeks. since i became disabled and had to retire my friends have slipped away. i feel very scared and nights are the worst. i try to concentrate on where we will be moving and the good stuff in the future. i really have no one but him. its always been just him and me. i know i am lucky to have such a great son. if anyone has some serious answers to help me i would really appreciate it. thanks julianne

Answers:
First off, I would like to tell you just how sorry I am for the problems and strain that you and your son have going on right now. I have a friend who has been like a sister to me for 15 years and she has also been given a very big load to carry. After reading your story, I immediately thought of her and what she is doing to help her to cope a little easier.

Because of the future that your son has been brave enough to begin, I am sure that you being his mother would like for him to be able to continue with his dreams long after the initial 8 weeks is over. So why not look into a service that has lists of qualified caregivers who would be willing to move in with you and take the role of a permanent caregiver in your home? Im not sure what you are and are not able to do on your own, but if you are fairly able to care for yourself without assistance, then he/she wouldn't even need to be an RN or special needs nurse, maybe just an assistant. I came accross an advertisement in the local newspaper a few years back that was similar to this. This man was a widower, and his daughter who had been giving him some help on occasion had gotten married and then relocated due to her new husbands line of work. He only needed me to come over from 7am to 5pm, 5 days a week. I would cook breakfast, do laundry, run errands such as dropping off the payments of monthly bills, getting groceries, or running by the pharmacy. But as far as his personal needs, such as showering, taking meds, and such, he could do all of that on his own. So I didn't need to be a nurse, period. Just an assistant. =)
I know that you may not have the funds to hire an assitant, which is why a service would be perfect. Most of them are able to get paid by the state, which it sounds like you would have no problem getting approved for that aid.
I truly hope that this helps you in some way. And I wish you and your son all the best in the future! Good Luck!
Contact social services.
You need to contact your local mental health advocacy outlet because this is too much for a young man to worry about while going off to training. Did you bring him into this world to be your care taker? I know you have problems, but it is unfair to make them his as well. Find another source for help, It will be good for you to reach out beyond him and find out what is available. It is too easy to rely on him, and grossly unfair.
Go immediately to the nursing home for those 8 weeks since no one else is going to be able to assist you.

Sell your house, furniture, and everything else immediately to use the money for the nursing home before it is too late.

Think about yardsale, E-bay, or Craiglist to sell the furnitures and everything else.
there is an organization that provides trained dogs. they are trained to be the companion of those with difficulties like yours.

it seems as though you aren't aware how unfair it is depending only on your son.

he does have a moral obligation, but so do you in making sure he is a happy individual.

here is the information regarding the pups. it sounds like a fantastic program.

good luck and i am sorry you are so sick. i am thinking you are taking medicine and go back often for adjustments. that is your first responsibility to yourself as a mentally impaired individual. no one can take care of you if you don't.

PSDS Address:
Psychiatric Service Dog Society
P.O. Box 754
Arlington, VA 22216
(571) 216-1589
wel i am here to help you thru my friend dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. hold on ok?
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