My poor self esteem is causing me to be a lesbian?
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Honestly! What is wrong with you people?!
For many years homosexuality has been a taboo. Now that people are coming to their minds, they are making a taboo IN FAVOR OF homosexuality. Can't you just see something without prejudice, or any feeling of guilt?
For a moment, look back at your answers. Can't you see they mostly lack any logic? She's asking if poor self esteem may push someone toward being a lesbian, not if EVERY lesbian is so because of low self esteem.
I think that's quite possible. I give you a couple of examples:
- If somebody has been sexually abused by a man during childhood, he or she is more likely to show homosexual behavior. An abused girl is likely to develop hatred or disgust toward men. While an abused boy has an early sexual experience with a man, and that definitely affects his mind-set and senses.
- If a girl is masculine, or for some reason is more attractive to lesbian woman than to men, she's more likely to try being with a woman. Isn't this obvious? Not being attractive to men causes low self-esteem and having homosexual women around adds to the temptation. One may think, why not being with someone who can appreciate my beauty. and so on. The same for a girly boy.
Not that my word has any scientific basis. But I've seen more than a few examples, and I try to use my mind!
No. It's very offensive to say this. Some women just love women. Has nothing to do with their self esteem, even if some might have lower self esteem, just as you'll find in any other group of people.
Rubbish. Your either gay or not. Bisexual yes, but from low self esteem-i don't think so!!
no your sexuality is nothing to do with self esteem! my self esteem was always low until i realised that i was bisexual and now my self esteem is sky high. it's about discovering who you are whether that be in the sense of sexuality, friends, clothes, music etc it could be down to anything.
So all lesbians have poor self esteem? I don't think so, sounds more like looking for an excuse for being attracted to the same sex.
NO WAY
if that was the cases then women would only have women as partners for the most part. after all we all get bad self esteem at times... why would it only be female for that matter?
Why in the world would anyone think that low self esteem would cause them to be gay? That's just absurd. You are either gay-or you're not. It doesn't have anything to do with self esteem. Most women with low self esteem just get with some low down and dirty guy.
Not any more than poor self esteem would cause you to be straight.
I'm going to pull a troll and disagree with the above people. Let's just put the nature vs nurture debate aside and realize that nothing in life is certain. "All lesbians were born that way" This statement cannot be true. Yes you know it as well as I do so shut up. Not saying that it's not true for most but 100% of lesbians being born that way is not possible. I can easily see a woman being rejected by men so she becomes depressed and switches to women. It's possible maybe not likely but possible
then improve your self esteem.i'm not against homo or lesbians, but it's best to be what you are, the normal way.
Low self esteem could be cause by the denial of sexuality. There is still the stigma in this society of being ashamed of who you are and what your sexual preference is...thank God a lot less than it used to be!! To accept who you are raises the self esteem and self worth...allow yourself to be who you are..and be proud of who you are! There is no one else in the world like you; you are a unique one of a kind work of art...and no one can define who you are as a person..only you can.
Boy did you pixx some people off with this question!
Congratulations! ;-)
The only way to really figure this out is to do some deep searching and possibly therapy.
Your sexual orientation and your low self esteem could be related... and they could be completely unrelated, but the answer is not to be found on YouQA.com because you are unique and we don't know you.
Here's hoping you find happiness no matter who or what turns you on!
Since when did sexual orientation become a by product of low esteem? Sexuality is a lifestyle choice and something that is to be respected and celebrated.
Low self esteem is more likely a product of concern over sexual orientation, its impact on you and those around you, other peoples perception of you, etc. I think the fear of how others perceive you is far greater than the actuality. Come out and be proud of who you are, and don't just define yourself by others view of you.
This is an unbiased view by the way, as I am straight and a man!
No. If you're a lesbian so what? As long as you live a decent life and you are happy...
Your poor self esteem is blocking your way to mature...
cheers!
No, that statement isn't true.
More like, the person with the poor self-esteem is using that as an excuse to continue not asserting herself. Being lesbian is genetic, and not in any way pushed or influenced by confidence factors.
i don't know, but when i comes right down to it, even thought rosie o'donnell is a high-profile, very famous individual, i don't think she has a lot of self-esteem... she is also a lesbian, but i don't think her lack of self-worth "caused" her lesbianism.
matter of fact, I WISH i could change my sexual preference from men to women now that i'm older... because it doesn't seem as though there are any REAL MEN left -- just mommy's boys.
unfortunately, i'm not at all attracted to women in a sexual way.
I strongly doubt it: most of us are born with the potential for bisexuality. See the self esteem websites, and read page 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... Then play the field for a while, before deciding on your final sexual preference (it may be lack of confidence with the opposite sex which results in you limiting your exposure to, and hence, opportunities with them).
Having poor self esteem can cause many things but lesbianism isn't one of them. That's a lame excuse to use in place of dealing with the reality of the inclination towards women instead of men. People need to just get real! I guess whomever might have said that could also come up with someone from their lives past who would be the cause of that low esteem too! As my daughter always remarks, " Oh Brother!" What unnecessary drama some people seem to thrive upon!
no way this can be true and very mean. If any thing ur poor self-esteem makes u want to be alone
Not a chance in hell, dear. Not admitting your sexuality can sure make your self-esteem plummet, though. I was MISERABLE before I finally admitted to myself that I'm a lesbian. I'm still miserable, but a bit less so now :P And my being gay is a total non-issue now. It has no effect on my self-esteem; why should it?
No, sweetie, that's not how it works. A low self-esteem can cause you to retreat or shy away from some social activities but it is not the cause to be a lesbian. To be attracted to the same sex is a case of gender identity crisis, which could be both physiological and psychological. But at your young age, I wouldn't worry about it coz it could just be a phase. Meanwhile, go out there and have fun. Just let your natural self develop to its full potential. Be happy, my dear child.
love you my friend!
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