How can I help my wife, I think she has Post partum depression, she has also told me that she feels suicidal?
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get her some help got with her to the doc's and tell them whats going on asap I would not leave her alone with the kids for there safety
GET HER TO A DOCTOR! she will feel so much better with some help- and maybe a part time job- i know from experience i take depression medicne and feel like my self again- i have a 3 yr old and an 6 month old
hi and i am sorry you are going through a rough time and happy time all together
i think you should get outside help; it is too much for yuo to handle alone
maybe a social worker, maybe a nyurse, even talking to the doctor...there is good medication for it as well...sometimes thereis a hormonal imbalance that could lead you to think that way on top of the overwhelming pressure of having so muhc responsability over your shoulders...seek help it is my best advice...all the best!
Take a load off her and let her get some free time. Her emotions are very normal. She should talk with her ob if it doesn't get better. The only way for her to feel better is if she has plenty of help. That's where you come in. Good luck! Tell her it will get better as time goes on. Having a 2 year old and a newborn is tough.
2 months is a hard time, they cry alot more at this age.
First of all, Post Partum depression happens to many women and it is a TREATABLE illness. Get her to an MD quickly. You can call her OB/GYN, or if it is more urgent take her to the nearest Emergency. Suicide CAN happen. So take precautions to keep her and the children safe.
PP Depression is largely a hormonal illness. The other issues of changing lifestyles from work to no work etc . can be worked on in therapy long-term.
Get her help and don't make her feel badly that she isn't doing a perfect job.
Don't ignore this!
Tell her you're concerned about her, and you want to help her be her best not only for the kids, but for herself. Tell her to call or go back to her OB and explain how she's feeling. The OB won't call anyone, won't flip out; he or she's seen this before. Perhaps therapy, relaxation, and help around the house is all it will take; maybe the OB will prescribe a low-dose antidepressant.
I had twins last year, and five days later my younger brother was in an accident and became paralyzed. I told my OB, and she said, "I'm writing you a prescription. It's not a big dose; and just because you take it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Sometimes we all need a little help. And just because you take it to help you function now doesn't mean you'll take it forever." I didn't; I took it for a month. I'm still struggling with things, but if I hadn't had something to help me (I was home alone with twins and a 5 year old all day, did all the household chores and cooked, my husband worked 50+hours a week), I would have lost my mind.
As far as things to do around the home to help her, let her have a break when you can sense she's about to lose it. Let her go grocery shopping (to get out of the house), or for a walk (to be alone), or fold clothes (repitition), or take a nap, or read a book, whatever helps her calm down. Let her have a little distance. Don't leave her to herself all day, but give her an hour to do whatever she wants or needs. To go from having lots of adults to interact with everyday to a toddler and a helpless infant can be difficult enough, without the hormones running around. Plus her body isn't back to what it was yet, and she doesn't know when or if it will be; and there's so much else going on in her mind it'd take too long to write down.
Take comfort in the fact that she's told you she's thought about suicide. If she's told you about it, she's asking for help. She doesn't really want to do it, she wants your reassurance that you're there for her, that you do need her, that your kids need her. Logically, she knows this, but she needs to hear it and needs to feel like it (even if all she does all day is keep the kids alive and make you a sandwich for dinner).
And remember, depression isn't your fault, it isn't her fault, it isn't anyone's fault. It's a chemical problem. Sad can be fixed with a joke; depression can't. She needs help, and you can be that help, and the support. Your marriage will be better for it.
Good luck to you and your family,
-Kat
Your wife is going through a lot of changes. . .hormonal and work/lifestyle changes. This is very difficult. Sounds like she could benefit from meds until her body gets back to a homestatic state. In the mean time. . .Have you talked with her about work and child care? Do you help her when you come home? She needs respite time to do something she wants, if it is to walk, exercise class or just to sit and read. Time usually takes care of this unless the depression was present prior to the pregnancy. Good luck. Just make sure all avenues are persued to insure the safety of all parties.
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