Could she be faking her alcoholism for attention?
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First things first: alcoholics lie. A lot. And they're good at it.
I highly doubt she was ever able to quit without any problems. She was probably trying to prove to herself she was okay, but failed and was still drinking when she was alone.
Please support her through her recovery. The last thing she needs is people doubting her.
Definately faking!
i wouldnt hang out with her if its that bad you could take her to a AAA meeting or something like it
You should feel bad for questioning whether she has a problem or not. How F'ed up is that. If something were wrong with you would you want them to question whether you were faking it or not. Maybe she told you she hadnt drank in a week but was doing it when no one was watching trying to convince herself she didnt have a problem. Obviously you are not that good of a friend to be asking that.
I hate this, but, I am going to do it anyway.
If she has a problem she has to figure it out for herself.
If you are a true friend you will support her throughout her problem.
She is trying to get sober or whatever. She would not be able to fool anyone at the clinic.
It is possible to give up alcohol for a while and then take it up again and have trouble giving it up again.
Try to give your friend support no matter what.
Well, think of it like this. Was she always like this, I mean with the "acting" even before all this? Kind of look in her history, that always helos some.
A big part of figuring out withdrawal is finding out how the person stops themselves---did she quit cold turkey, or wean herself off the booze? However, in most cases, if someone is a chronic drinker with DTs, then that will always be the way the person reacts. Severity of abuse directly correlates to the reaction upon quitting. Please see the link I have added.
Actually with detox it sometimes takes alot of time before detox symptoms kick in depending on hopw much is in your system, how much stress you are under etc. Sometimes addiciton is phycological. Take this person at their face value and dont assume they are faking it for attention.
If you think your friend is faking you really don't know the seriousness of alcoholism. So she's self absorbed. Self absorption has nothing to do with alcohol dependency. Just cut your friend some slack and support her or cut her loose if you are sick of her. Dependency can be a lot more than many people are prepared to handle but it sounds like you are criticizing her effort to get treament and that's not cool. Bail if you feel you need to but get out of her way and let her find her path to recovery without criticism. This sounds more like this is about you resenting the attention she is getting and being sick of being outshined by her dysfunction. This is very common with friends and family members of addicts. You might benefit from a support group for families of addicts to help you deal with your feelings. A few things about dependency. Relapse is almost a given, noone kicks alone, people have to have help, and addicts lose a lot of friends. It's a long, hard, lonely and humbling road. It requires support, patience and understanding from friends and loved ones to get on the road to a happier, healthier life. There are also probably other things going on with your friend, painful emotional or mental issues you may not be aware of complicating the situation. Issues that will be there waiting for her when she's sober and will be hard for her to face without a drink. That is one of the reasons why people relapse. Sometimes their issues are just too hard for them to face. People drink for a reason. Consider yourself very fortunate that you are not addictive or dysfuctional and have compassion for your friend. Would you want to be in her shoes? If you are really a friend then pray for her. Her addiction will never go away. She will always be fighting addiction every day of her life as long as she lives.
No she isn't faking it. I had a friend who drank a lot mostly when he was by himself. He went to two detox programs which didn't help him at all. He lost his job and his friends. He started llying to his parents and to me about going to AA programs. He started taking all kinds of pain medication along with the alcohol passed out twice in my home which I had to call 911 and leave my guests in my home while trying to find out what had happed to him since he lied and said he was not drinking. His parents called me one day because they had not heard from him for two days. I went to his apartment since I had keys and let myself in.There he was sitting in front of the tv passed out with no clothes on. I thought he was dead. He was in a deep sleep from everything he had taken. The final straw was he went to church with my father and me, smelled like he had spent all night at the bar and on the way home from church he popped two pills and all most passed out again at my house He is 48 years old. I called his parents who live outside of DC to come and get him. His mother is 74 and his father is 79. He is now living with them and doing much better. I applaud your friend for asking for help. It means she is reaching out for help, which my friend didn't do. I hope you give her a lot of support. I hope things go well for her and you..
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