How do you get over a mother's death?

Question:

I lost my mom about four months ago to C-Diff. She had other illness every audio immune diease you could think of. I was very close to my mom and I was also her cargiver. I'm also learning disabled and we could talk to eachother about anything. She ***** at me about things that bothered her and I ***** at her about things that bothered me. My sister is handling it okay. My brother is doing okay to. I alo saw her dying before my eyes in the hospital while being on life support and every now and agian have nightmares about it. Somedays are better then others and I think I'm back to my old self and other days I have a hard time getting out of bed. So my question is Do you ever get over this or what. Plus my dad passed away when I was foruteen so my mom has always been my rock and now I don't have it anymore. Please offer me any advise if you got any. I'm freaking out.

Answers:
Wow, you've been through a lot. I'm so sorry for your pain.

My biggest advice is to look into Grief support clubs that are located either at a local church or community health centers. Talking it through may help you in the healing process, and it is a process. You don't just magically become whole again.

You might also ought to consider realizing that in your pain you can help others with their pain. How about volunteering at a nursing home to visit with and communicate with those who may not have loved ones in their life to share with?

Hope this helps. I will say a prayer for you right now...that you will be touched by God's comfort and truly know his love for you and his will for your happiness.

God Bless

Jenn

Dear one, know this, that in the end , we all meet each other and come together forever.

Know also, when she passed on, she now sees all your intentions on life, and knows how you felt and feel.

She is all forgiving now, for when you are out of the body, the brain does not blind the spirit . And the spirit sees clearly.

Realize this and that you will end this journey one day and join her in your Home in the spirit world.

We all return to whence we came no matter our beliefs and thoughts.

Proof is, we arrive and we leave.

Be content that she is home now. and that you will go home to her one day too.

I am sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine how you must feel after losing your mother. It sounds like you took great care of her and I am sure she appreciated it. I do think that over time, it will get easier. It is still early in the process and everyone grieves differently. There are people out there that you can talk to about how you are feeling, support groups, etc. Call your local hospice center and ask if they have any bereavement camps or things like that. Just know that what you are feeling is completely normal. I hope that it gets better soon... God bless you and your family.

I don't think a person ever "gets over" any loss, especially a hard one. Although I can say that even though it won't go away it will however get easier with time. In time the sharp edge it has now will dull a bit.

My condolences to you and your family.

I can somewhat relate. Lost my dad who also had an autoimmune disease and saw him slowly dying over a couple of years (actually died from emphysema). He was also on life support every now and then, etc.

The way I handled it was to know that he's in a better place now, no longer in pain or suffering. And that someday I'll see him again.

It isn't easy to lose a parent at all. Just remember the good times you had with her, and know she isn't in pain anymore. That should help bring you comfort. It will get easier with time. It will always be hard, but it will get easier.

It took about a year or so before I could comfortably talk about my dad or him dying. Just allow yourself to grieve, but it will be okay.

Losing your mom, the person that you felt the closest to and poured your heart out to is not something that we ever totally get over. And seeing her die , as I did my own had to be very hard on you. I try to remember the things that made my mom happy, She loved Cardinals, and wind chimes, and these things bring her back to me each time I see and hear them. In my minds eye she is back here with me at those moments. Have you tried talking to your sister maybe she can help.

Brandi..
I m extremely sorry to hear about your mom.. also felt really bad after reading your study..
First of all my friend.. few things in our life are impossible to get over.. yeah it fades out with the passage of time.. i know you've seen a hell lot of tough time.. but friend i guess u should see this way..

You've seen your mom in lot of pain.. your mom had enough of pain so God removed all of her pain and called her to heaven.

I know it is difficult but cmon.. now you dont have to see your mom's face repleted wid pain..

To get over from those bad memories or nightmares you should keep urself busy with friends and work for most of your time..

Try not to be alone else those memories will keep haunting you..

Friends are a big gift of God :) we should humbly accept them.. and have fun time with them..

You haven't mention your age but a true partner(life partner) will take you to a new life, so try to find one soon..

I'll Pray to Allah for you to get over all bad memories of your life and your future's life to be a tension free one:)...

Where there's a will there's a way..

If you really want to get over with it you will..
so try to get over it and InshAllah you will :)..

TC and God Bless!!

there aint nobody like your mama. Stay close to your brother and sister, and remember your mama for all that she taught you. It will get easier with time, but truthfully i dont think you ever "get over" the loss of a loved one. And i promise you, your brother and sister are feeling the same, talk to them. They are probably wanting to talk just as bad as you.

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