I don't know how to behave around people...Makes sense?
Question:
Any other social anxiety sufferers get the same?
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Yeah, I hate the feeling. Try seeing a therapist, they always help. Also, i used to have that around certain people and not around others. So i just chose to hang out around the people i felt comfortable with. Those people were usually the ones that i felt liked me no matter how smart, funny, fun or boring i was.
Also, you can try focusing on your surroundings and your interactions with the person you are around. It can take the focus away from your thoughts and into the situation. Usually you feel more anxious at first when doing this, but sometimes you end up forgetting all the worried thoughts and have a good time!
yes im a 16 male and the same way, i got anxiety, and im paranoid, just see someone, im seeing a physcologist.
To build friendships, you need to be kind and considerate, patient and understanding, warm and friendly, & demonstrate love, compassion, care and concern.
There are many people who have high IQs and specialized knowledge who are unwilling or unable to do this. They walk a very lonely path.
Don't be insecure about your intelligence. We all have strengths and weaknesses. I would not hang around people who do not appreciate my sense of humor. At the same time, there is a time and a place to be funny and to be serious. And if you try to be funny during an entire conversation, you run the risk of alienating people who think you just want to be the center of attention all the time.
I do tend to suffer from a bit of social anxiety at times. At times, I swing back and forth between extremes of being trying to be funny all the time or too serious. When I have gotten called out on it, I look at it as a reality check and consider whether there is any truth to the matter.
It's only because you think ahead to what could happen, that you're fearful.
Let it happen however it happens. Put trust in your nature.
I used to feel that way all the time. I hope that is good news for you, because it means I don't feel that way, anymore! Really, I felt like such a clutz, who didn't ever know the 'right' thing to say...got nervous, felt ugly..oh, it was pretty horrible. Then, I realized that most people feel that way at some time or another! I wasn't the only one who felt that way at all! So, I just started by being a rather quiet person, then, I had people who wanted to talk with me. Once I had someone to chat with, who didn't make me nervous, I was fine. Now, I make speeches and do all kinds of things I NEVER thought I'd ever do!
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