How should I tell my dad to let me move out and live with my aunt, I cant deal with my bipolar mother.?

Question:

As I write this I'm in tears. For years I've lived in fear for my life, with a depression that has affected me for the past two years. I've always been quite depressed, but the last two years have been in utter hell. I'm going to be a junior this year, I was held back in first grade so I should be a senior. I can never remember a normal life. I remember as a child when I was in 4th or 5th grade my mother used to slam my head against the walls. She was well for a while after she was taking her pills. She was never normal by most people standards, but at least I could somewhat talk to her and the abuse went away. For the past 10 months she wont take her pills, but she is no longer abusive. I almost wish she was abusive, since the mental health unit can only hospitalize her if she is a danger to herself or others. Now she just tears up my insides with her words. I want to move in with my aunt in a whole different state, how should I get my dad to let me.

Answers:
My advice to you is to talk to your father and make him understand that your mother is affecting your mental health and you are afraid of having a breakdown. Living with a person with a mental illness is very difficult especially if she has a bipolar disorder. Your mother could be maintained on an even level if only she took the medication she was told to take. Bipolar, although very hard to treat, can be treated successfully but not without the patient's full cooperation. If your mother's actions are affecting your health then you must leave and it is necessary for your own well being to convince your dad that you must do so. I lived with a woman who had a manic depressive disorder for 38 years and it almost killed me. My advice to people who can break away is to do so, especially in your case because your father is there to help your mother when she needs support. Run for your life.

beg your dad. he's got it rough too. however, i wouldn't reccomend court action right now because you won't be a minor much longer. if the dad won't relent, stay the coarse, pray to god, and move out the day your 18...

if you dad wont "let you", you need to take matters into your own hands and go there yourself.

or try talking to your aunt about it and see if she'll come and help you.

worse case scenario go to the police and tell them your mother is mentally unstable and you are being verbally and mentally abused...

Sounds like you're in a really tough situation. Sorry. Bipolar patients generally do very well IF they take their meds. Unless they have an underlying personality disorder (e.g. borderline). Maybe focus on getting your Dad to really get after Mom to take her meds. Maybe your Dad (and you depending on your age) can go along on doctor's visit or at least have your Dad consult the docs on this situation. Depending on your age, you may have limited rights on leaving to move in with other relatives, and that won't solve your Mom's mental illness issues long term.

Talk to your Dad and let him know how you feel. Have him contact the mental health folks/docs and see if they can be of any help.

Good luck-hope things get better for you. Remember, you have to worry about your peace of mind. Eventually you will be old enough to live on your own.

first of all it became a law that once you reached the age of 13 you are allowed to chose who you live with... you r what 17 so you dont have to ask just pack your bags and leave... if your scared to tell him leave him a note you will or should be 18 soon so just leave a note and tell him you will call and let him know your safe , take a bus to your aunts or a plane if she is sending you the money to get there have her send it to a friends house so he wont know. i hope everything works out 4 u

Definitely talk to your aunt. You're lucky to have a caring aunt.

Also, follow the advice of the previous posters when it comes to talking to your dad and see if you can talk to her doctor.

How should I tell my dad to let me move out and live with my aunt, I cant deal with my bipolar mother.?

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