Do these sound like signs of being molested?
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There is nothing in your question that would lead me to believe he was molested only the obvious comment that he made but if it was a joke then you have nothing.
i think he was
yes it sounds like he was molested...they tend to avoid things that was involved in some way of the past (the molestation)
yeah it sounds like its true
that may be true about the priest because many priests have been known to molest many kids at churches i really dont know what would be a sign but if he doesnt like talking about it thats a big sign of denying something that happened when he was a kid
I cannot give you a professional opinion, but it sounds pretty close to me. You should see a counselor and attempt to get this on the table and talked about. Good luck and GOD bless.
let me tell you. No one kids about being molested by a priest...i mean unless they have a really sick sick sense of humor. Chances are, what he told you is probably true and he got scared that he told you and took it back. I think that he can be depressed for alot of reasons...let me ask you, if he being affectionate, is he trusting of you...does he want to be physical...if the answer is no then he has some issues and I wouldnt doubt that something happened.
It sounds like he might have been. I just read a long article about priest molestation victims, and it's hard for them to admit it. I don't know what you can really do though, other than not force him to go. If he practices privatly that should make you happy. If you get a change to talk about it again, take him seriously and ask him if he's ready to talk to a counselor so he can move past it. Just be very very supportive and understanding- it won't be easy for him.
if u get molseted these are some sign.you wet the bed..are uncomfortable are a bunch or people.exspecially the family peaople who did it.afraid to have sex...and behavore problems
Well, to begin with, making molesting comments that are false is not a funny topic. He's not at all funny if he's saying things like that. I dont go to church but I believe in God, I don't feel I should have to go into a church to prove that to anyone, plus church's bring back a vision for me from back when I was a child, remembering my grandmother laying in her coffin, at that age I shouldn't remember that like I do, and church's are a turn off to me to this day because of that. I really don't think he was molested, I think it's something for attention maybe, and maybe since the two of you are so different, maybe you should find someone who is honest with you. Good luck in whatever you decide.
There is a good chance that he has. People that have gone through this might mention it, but say they are kidding because they don't want people to think something is wrong with them. Just be very supportive.
I am not a professional, but it could very well be that he was!
I think that would make sense.
If he was hurt by someone in the church he was supposed to trust, it would make sense that he wouldn't like the church. It also seems telling that he won't go to church, but he will read the Bible and pray.
If he was raised Catholic and has maintained his faith I find it highly unlikely he would tell you that as a joke.
Depression, anger, and trust issues are signs of molestation.
However, I am not an expert, I have merely read a few books.
Everybody deals with things in different ways. You say that at one time he said he was molested by a priest,this is usually something that somebody doesn't make up. And I think that it would be alot harder for a guy to admit to being molested by another guy. So take him at his word, don't push the church thing on him for now,when he is ready to talk about it more, hopefully he will feel comfortable to do so with you. I wish you all the best.
He may have said that initially to see what your reaction would be if he told you...to see how you would react. If he had some slight inkling that you didn't approve, then that's why he's not telling you. If he appears depressed all the time, then it may be something else in addition to that. My suggestion, although I'm not a doctor is to try to get him to go see a mental health counselor. Some kind of way, convince him that is a good idea.
He would not be alone in this...M A N Y people suffer from it and live thru it but refuse help. In most cases, it's because of what somebody's been hiding or been hiding from. Guilt, Fear, lose of loved one...etc. To kinda of knock around the idea of what it could possibly be, he would need to talk to someone who's familiar in assisting people everyday who go thru this.
Convince him to talk to a counselor about it. It will help!
He should be more open with you. This relationship of yours is problematic. If it is true that he was molested, then you will have a big marital problem if you marry him in the end.
Are you in a homosexual relationship? I can't tell from your name and you have no pic. Catholics don't believe in homosexuality, your boyfriend may just not go to church because he was raised Catholic and is now gay. It doesn't mean he was molested. If that's not the case, maybe this is: your not Catholic, once someone is raised Catholic, it makes it pretty hard to just go to some Christian Church... I know that sounds bad. However, the rift between Protestants and Catholics runs deep, a lot deeper than "Christians" think. Catholics believe that Christians fell away from the true Church, the one Jesus started, the Catholic Church. Well to me none are right and none are wrong. Good luck!
If hes mentioned being molested, it doesnt matter if it happened 1 time or a hundred.The damage can be there.I would consider looking for resources for both yourself and him.RAINN is a great place to start.Also there are several internet based communities that offer help and advice for secondary survivors.Welcome to Barbados , After the Silece and Aphrodite Wounded all have wonderful communities and resources.RAINN also offers an IM/chat based system where you can talk to an advocate.You cant force your bf to get help,but you can have resources available when hes ready to ask.Welcome to Barbados -Pandoras Aquarium, has a wonderful section dedicated to Male survivours.
Blessed be to you both.
My advise as a guy is just dont bring it up, Your boyfriend will open up and tell you in time. Just comfort him, and help him.
I would say he probably was...especially how you said he admitted it, but then said he was just joking. Molestation isn't easy for anyone to talk about, but I think guys especially feel more shame if it happens to them and therefore don't talk about it as much. If he brings it up again, talk to him about it and tell him as gently as possible that its okay to talk about it and that you won't judge him for it. It may take a long time for him to admit it for real. Good luck.
It's a possibility. Does he self-mutilate himself? Drug abuse? If you answered yes to these questions, they are also signs of trauma. As far as the answer above that said most priests molest children, thats crazy. Continue to be supportive and encourage communication. Ultimately it is up to him to get help if it did indeed happen.
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