About being abused as a child.?
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While these answers above sound great, the science tells us that there are a couple reasons why one child turns out fine, while another may not:
1) Personality ~ children who are naturally more sensitive are going to be affected more by abuse
2) Type of abuse ~ sexual worse than physical worse than emotional
3) Was violence involved
4) Age at which the abuse started ~ younger more likely to cause problems as the personality is still developing
5) How long the abuse continued ~ longer the child learns that he/she is nothing more than a victim
6) Did the child have someone they could connect to ~ another adult such as a mother
7) Did the child feel some level of control ~ the child could hide sometimes
Studies have shown that these are the major issues that make up how a child will develop.
I know exactly what you're saying. My sister and I were both abused. I turned out just fine, she's messed up on drugs. I really don't understand it either.
well when some are abused they dont feel that they are loved and dont know the meaning of life. sometimes they dont know what is out there in life. some find that there is a better life out there.
Some people have a built in mechanism that can just block everything out and move on without it affecting them. Some seek help to resolve their issues. The ones that are dysfunctional obviously have not resolved the trauma they suffered.
It has more to do with how the person confronts the abuse. Sometimes people are inately better at coping with child abuse and sometimes (many times) they need help. Child abuse can cause post traumatic stress disorder. This disorder can develop immediately after the abuse or later in life.
There are many factors in ones life that can cause emotional damage and disfunctional behavior. I would be careful as to what you atribute the behavior to.
everyone's capability of dealing with being abused is different and is mostly determined by the level of abuse and the pain of the abuse some who are terribly abused physically and emotional ie: bdsm / snm / anally for example will 9 times out of 10 be more damaged then someone who is touched ocassionally or used sexually I have done an answer similiar to this previously hunt my answers it describes emotionally why some continue the abuse and some end the cycle..
Some people use it as a crutch and a excuse to justify their failures. The ones who overcome it simply have the opposite attitude. They decide at a certain point in their lives that they aren't going to let it be an obstacle anymore and they put it behind them and move on.
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