Isolated while I struggle with unemployment...need advice?
Question:
I attended the typical unemployment workshop to keep my unemployment benefits, opted out of COBRA b/c I cant afford the monthly payment for medical assistance, joined four temporary agencies, and am constantly applying for retail related jobs just so I can make ends meet in the meantime.
But I feel very isolated and I don't think its healthy to struggle against life's hardships without a kind of support system. I recently ended a friendship that was strained b/c of my anxiety and depression. And while I am on anti-depressants and am in weekly therapy...I still feel totally isolated and anxious to the point where I need a xanax to help me fall asleep (sleeping pills scare me).
What else can I do to not feel so isolated? Socially I have no life b/c I have no money. Any advice is welcome.
Answers:
Loosing a job can knock you for a loop. It knocks the fire out of you. First, get over it. Revamp and get your fight back. Isolation won't help much in this "unemployed" situation. Go to the agencies that find you work or help prepare you to get a job or provide leads. If you mingle with and tell people about your situation, they might provide leads. Or, you just might go somewhere, anywhere you would desire to work and ask for a job, or check out what they have available.
Anyhow, you don't have time to sit around brooding. You HAVE work to do. Get out and find yourself a job. Don't settle too soon.
Good luck in your job search! Send money when you get one. (lol)
go for walks to the park just get out of the house
First join a jobs group. They study different job search methods help improve your Resume' etc.
Also, there are lots of social groups and clubs that are free or low cost. There are book clubs that read different genre's of books for almost any type of reader, from mysteries, to popular to History etc. These can be found at the Library, Schulers or Barnes and Noble, they read a common book and get together to discuss it. You can borrow yours from the Library.
There is lots to do in Church groups. In some larger churches there are singles groups that may not require you to be a member of the church.
There are hobby groups through your city parks and recs dept, and local neighborhood offices in the inner cities. Check the Local and state page of your local paper on the 2nd or third page about activities in and around town.
You could even try out for a local play or musical.
Also, it is never too late to go back and get a degree or a further degree-I am living proof.
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look into what your community has to offer, maybe a support program for hard times or maybe you can volunteer to do things that can keep u busy and make u feel better about yourself !! or you can just talk to someone and vent thats always a good thing to do !!
Hello I have some comfort for you maybe some advice too. There is this sane even in the hardest time we must remember "This too shale pass" I will be OK. You need to be optimistic and use the secret. You will find a job and will be happy and maybe find a nice guy too! Hope I helped. Love Mikaela
Find a good cause and do some volunteering. It will make you feel better about yourself and you'll help others who are less fortunate that you.
HI there, try attending a church where you can meet good people who will care about your life. Also, check out volunteering. You do not need money for that and you can also meet virtuous people who will become potential friends. You are totally correct that you need to connect with others--but make sure those others are good, healthy and will care about your well-being. Last, read the excellent book "Happiness is a Serious Problem" by Dennis Prager. Write me if you want to talk about this more. Best to you,
I have been in your situation.
Please get out and go for a walk or a bike ride or some sort of exercise...get moving.
Go to the public library and read some of your fav magazines or check out a book you may like to read.
If you keep your mind active and your self moving and eat as sensibly as possible you'll better cope with your transition period.Please know it WILL get better!
good luck to you
Unemployment is a stressful thing to have to deal with. All of a sudden there is so much time during the day .And it is extra hard when knowing that everyone else is working.
Maybe you could volunteer at a school or animal shelter? Keep yourself busy and occupied. It does not take money to visit a nursing home or hospital. Give time to others and try being there for them .I guarantee this will help you feel better.
I am sorry that you are going thru this but keep working any job you can until you get back on your feet or get th job you want a little job to you is better then no job at all. I don'yt know if you believe in higher powers such as god but if you do the best thing to do in this situation is prey!
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