If anyone who has been sexually abuse and had to recall and remember it how did you do it?

Question:

I have been working with a therapist and Ive let her know that I have been having dreams where my father is sexually molesting me. I also dont remember seeing him much when I was in elementary school. My counselor says its possible that since he had a detached way of interaction and I dont have much memory of him in elementary school and the dreams. Its just a lot to take in and I just want to remember it and get this over with. So if you have any experience please share if you would like. Thank you.

Answers:
As a child my father started molesting me at 11 he would
touch me when I was sleeping. He fortunately never actually penetrated me but I spent many years suffering physical,mental and sexual abuse. As you get older the smoke screen starts to lift and yes you will have Flashbacks etc. It happened and you are a victim!!
Doctors will try to sedate you but you must get this stuff out
you are starting to. Famliy members will deny repress info.
and even try to place the blame in your lap..ITS NOT
YOUR FAULT! Just be ready for this pain and shock focus on what is good in your life and be glad that he was
removed from your life before he hurt you further.

God Bless you

get your dad arrested

well, sometimes dreams aren't reality. You could be afraid he did, so therefore you dream about it.

Don't accuse your father of such a heinious deed unless you are 100 percent sure that he did this.

Let your memories come on their own, don't force them. You could conjure up some false images and start a mess you will regret. Dreams are just that, dreams.

It's more likely that the dreams you are having are a product of your imagination and nothing more. Any "work" you do to "remember" something you forgot is only going to result in false memories. It has been proven that hypnosis and drugs used to "recall" suppressed memories are more likely to produce false memories. If you do a google search on Elizabeth Loftus, she is a psychologist who did a lot of research on false memories. Going down this road with your therapist will only cause you more problems. If you look for trouble, you will find it whether it is real or not.

you will know the answer when you stop trying. i went into total denial for 20 years and i'm still remembering- but it's not like remembering, it's like it was always there... don't push yourself or dwell on it too much. at least you're in therapy and you seem like you are ok. peace,sister

If anyone who has been sexually abuse and had to recall and remember it how did you do it?

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