I'm so depressed?
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I envy pretty much every person who is younger than me and in school. God I wish I would have stayed and kept in touch with friends. I really see no coming out of this depression I have. I don't think I'm the slightest bit attractive so I can't imagine ever having a girlfriend or anything. I feel like I now have to be an adult and I'm just not ready.
Sorry to ramble but I needed to type out of my feelings real quick lol. Thanks.
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I just finished my first year and iam moving onto my second. Iam 24 now and felt horrible and depressed around 22 thinking i wasted my time. I believe in myself though and i know rather that whatever i chose earlier was because i wanted to live my life and didnt miss out on anything because i was having some personal problems. I might be late 5 years in comparison to others but i dont care because i would rather live my life how i want it. I dont want to be 50 and have regrets that i didnt have enough fun in my life. I am generally more expressive than others and more social than others. Some of my friends in university are as youung as 17 but they like me still because i can mix in totally. I needed to have more fun than others do - i think to satisfy inner self myself and i did. If you go to community college or wherever it does not matter. If you actually work hard and "learn to create the pattern" of working hard nothing is impossible. You can do what you want. 19 is an extremely young age. My psychology professor is probably one of the best profs or even as a person i will ever meet - i think. She told us that she woke up one day and she was 27 and said "iam going to do it." ... and she did - she has completed her Ph.D in Neuro science and is a professor here at University of Toronto. You are still young and as for the friends that i have from High School who have even graduated they still love and respect me for who iam because they know that i can do it and iam just taking my time. If you believe - the same people will see through you and wont judge you either... and for those that still do ... they probably get through life because its a norm and everyone does that at their age... it doesnt have to be like that. Take your time and have fun no matter what.. you can get there when you want to ...lifes not about rules its about fun and accomplishments for me - i have the fun part down .. accomplishments are not far for me either .. I have been offered Managerial jobs in high school (an actual manager job not one at McDonalds - no offence McDys ppl) and i recently got offered a few more starting 60k... its not necessarily all talent its the perception and thinking to a large part.
I think you need some therapy, my friend.
You need to stop thinking about yourself, and go out and help others with anything. Volunteer, anything. If you focus on others your depression won't bother you as much and you will start feeling better and making friends.
people that live in the past never change .go to college meet new peeps and be yourself cause no one deserves anything leess then to know you for you be a good person treat other the way you like to be treated and things will get better .and as an extra touch go for a make over and find your inner self .whats attractive is a person who likes them self and is proud..
I don't know if you are rally looking for an answer... but if you really want to help yourself, I suggest seeing a therapist. They really can help you work some stuff out sometimes. :)
aww thats really sad and trust me even if you did miss a lot in highschool college will be so much better!! PARTIES lol and as for the fact you think you to ugly to ever get a girlfriend well
thats deffinatly not true everyone has a soulmate and there are people that probably think your pretty cute
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The best thing to do short of therapy is to try and not think of the past and concentrate on the future. All the things you thought you missed out on can still happen if you allow youself to. Dont allow yourself to get stuck in a rut.
It's good that you are typing these feelings out, mate! I have similar thoughts before too. And as time goes on I found out that most of the people will have these similar kind of thought, its just the way that each people responds to it. Personally I'm a very sensitive person and looks like you're one as well, and we tent to suffer a bit more in this kind of feeling, if you can find someone you feel comfortable with to talk it out you'd feel much better. Other things like exercise till you're tired, join some school/uni club to enjoy social events all helps. I also pray a lot when I feel down. Put yourself together and use your sensitivity to enjoy the world instead:)
You didn't miss much. Think about it. High school age is about 14-18. During those years, people are IDIOTS. Why do you miss being friends with IDIOTS? Get on with your life. The past is over and done. Forget about having tons of friends and partying and girls and all that. That will just bring you down. Do well in your studies at college, and focus on being the best YOU that you can.
Love Jack
i worled with kid in ur spot for a long time at job corps and they were proud of their geds is nothing to be ashamed of is harder to go back so congratulations. I am glad sucide is not an option 4 u. i have had bad bouts of depression and medicine does help lexapro i take now my brother takes zoloft and there are a bunch of others go to dr there no shame in that my friend, once u do cc u can go on to 4yr and get regular ba/bs like everyone else and ur cc goes toward so u gave same degree and less debt wish i had done that
hope this helps
You are still so young, and you have tons of time to do what you really want in life!
Just think if you felt this way after 40 or 50 years? Even then, it's not too late, but definitely quite a bit harder. I hear that you're feeling depressed, but you really have quite a bit more going for you then you realize. And just because you got your GED doesn't make you any less "smart".
At least you got your GED! And that's something to be pround of. I know of successful professional people that started with a GED. This is not a death sentence. Just identify your goals, and do your best to try to attain them. Looking back at choices, circumstances, etc. from the past will not do you any good except to recognize how you might want to change your future. Like I said you still have time. Here's what I would do if I were you:
1. See a Doctor or Therapist to help you cope with your depression. It can be very debilitating, and really can hold you back from doing what you want to do.
2. Make an appointment with your school's advsior or counselor. This is what they are there for! They can help suggest/guide you down the right path in terms of your education. Perhaps if you had a solid plan, you would feel more hopeful. Sometimes it helps to actually see it mapped out on paper.
The only major mistake you would be making right now is to cheat yourself by believing that you don't have some great options ahead of you!
Oh, and about the gf thing, don't sweat it too much.
It will happen. Just make sure to get out and participate in activities in your community and/or school, always look your best, be polite and practice having a confident smile.
People are always attracted to someone who exudes confidence. Take my word for it, the right person will come along.
talk to me man been there. dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. it will get better. i will be here as an older freind to guide you thru this.
See depression, teens, and socialskills/dating, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 2, 13, and 9 (read those pages). When you attend college, start study groups; approach people: smile, and introduce yourself: "Hi, I'm Jeff, and I'm trying to organise a study group for Ancient Peruvian Pottery, and I'd like to know if you want to join?" Got the idea? Also join clubs and associations. Many girls don't rate looks that highly: those who do are shallow: forget them! No-one is a good judge of their own looks.
getting some GED is no problem man, education itself is rewarding. as for you classmates or you see young ones in your class... you are not obligated to have a contest- match with them, true, some of them is most prolly intelligent, true that some of them is more athletically- active than you... your classroom is an even field, though everybody is a student, but each one of you has his/ her own special attributes... each one of you has views and intelligence. you can use your maturity and collected wisdom to even out the palying field. bein attractive or not, is solely in the eyes of whose looking at you... try smile, who knows, your smile could mean a whole world to someone.
all people, everyone of us, have shortcommings. self constructive critisism is essential to a good and healthy image. don't be overly critical, but honestly recognize your shortcommings. write them down if necessary. recognize and admit to yourself that as time passes you can work on them. then move them to the background. it is not necessary to keep your faults up front. put your best foot forward, lead with the good stuff. how dare we believe that our brand of misery is any worse than anyone elses. image is everything. be a good friend. show your friends that you care. find something, anything, that you enjoy doing and do it well. i have met physicaly attractive people who became uglier as time passed. and not so pretty people who are now the most beautiful i've ever met. the beauty comes from within. stay up, smile, be happy. laugh and the whole world laughs with you. cry and you cry alone. ----mchlbrink--- good luck!
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