I think of death.. dying. someone close to me dying . WAAY TOO MUCH! :'( PLEASE HELP!!!?
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PLZ help me!! I'm tortured! by my own thoughts :'(
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Sweetheart...death is so certain, dont get panic with it...try to realize it that u too have to go, thats the ultimate reality.get prepared for the life after death.only that can give u peace that at least u r ready for ur death.
What makes you think that all these people around you are going to die? When you wake up on an average morning do you think YOU are going to die? You are suffering from a phobia, undoubtedly related to bad experiences in your past.
Whether you like it or not you DO need to seek some help, most likely counselling.
calm down death should not get creepy... you go to a better place when u die u get a second life! just think that the close ones are really happy. if u love them let them be happy!
just getaway for a while and think about things hope this helps
Its normal to feel afraid of losin someone. But u are letting it consume ur life and thats hurting you alot. Understand that we all are going to pass and there is a reason for it. But dont live in fear of death and people dying around u. If u need someone to talk to let me know. Dont stress on it so much u will get better with this.
We all die sooner or later, but there are lots of other people that we can make friends with. Some will die and some will seem to live forever. Enjoy the ones that seem to live forever.
Just tell yourself, that u can't keep worrying about because if u worry about, I won't keep it from happening, it will just make u so sad all the time. I know it will be hard, as I have to do that, but it really helps, trust me.
You are consumed in fear. Fear of losing something you have or not getting what you want. You are not getting to enjoy life because you are afraid of what will eventually happen to us all. We are all born to die, in the end we will all die. Try to focus on spending quality time with the people that you are afraid are going to die. Maybe when someone pops in your head as the person you are afraid of losing that day you should call them and talk to them (don't tell them you are afraid they are going to die), maybe have lunch with them or something. If you change how you handle the thoughts you will find that you get to spend time with them and when they do die you will have so many more memories with them.
If you're expecting someone to share a trick with you that will keep your mind off that, there isn't likely to be one. I could throw in the usuals, I guess: get hobbies, exercise, do volunteer work, do whatever it takes to get your mind off that stuff.
Not really likely to work. I personally deal with something similar but not as extreme rather frequently. I've been married for four years and my life, thanks to my wife, is awesome. I could not be happier. But, it also sometimes makes me worry if she's late coming home from work or something. I start easily to think about the worst, like, what if she's been in a car accident or something.
While there are probably many possible causes for this kind of "anticipating the worst" line of thinking, I'm willing to bet that stress and depression are the more common ones.
I think that what causes you to fixate on the deaths of those close to you is an underlying issue, examining which is beyond the scope of this website.
first of all RELAX.
i remember i went through a faze where i thought of death way to much.
first of all it helps me too think like this:
1. when people die they go too heaven - they will be happy FOREVER
2.they wouldn't want me to be unhappy
3.its alright to cry, it apart of the process
4. and like that stupid song says "whatever will be will be".
5.you cant enjoy life if you don't live it
6.you'll miss them more if you don't enjoy your time with them now.
btw i realise how cheesy i sound.
Whoa there,dawg, frist of all death ain't the end there is always the afterlife. You can't stop people from dying,let alone you from dying, that's why you should enjoy life while it last not only with yourself but also with folks that you are with.You know what dawg, I bet you that there a lot of thing that you would like to do or places that you haven't gone before - don't you think you should be doing it while your alive? Think about it, dawg.
Acuna Matada
Or something, it is a circle of life. Get happy with the ones that are here now and focus on mutual happiness or shared moments of joy that are only in and of the living.
Dead dont sing or dance , anymore, so share a smile with the ones that you care about this day.
Life will go on with or without you and many others, so try to make it a good moment while you are still aware that you are able to.
Is it that you fear they will die?
Or do you fear that YOU will be hurt?
Is it them you are thinking about or yourself?
Stop focusing on your feelings.
Go help them enjoy their lives.
Then when someone does die you will have pleasant memories to carry you through.
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Honey, You have OCD and it's very common. Alot of people have it, it just comes in different ways. Yours is a fear of death around you. It could be from childhood and seeing someone you love die, or from now and seeing someone you care abour die and going to the visitation and funeral and all the sorrow that involves. Every time a thought comes in your mind you have to switch your brain, and it's hard to another topic to think about it. Take a walk, write a letter , do something nice for someone. You are wasting precious time worrying and that doesn't fix anything, nor will it help whatever God has to give us in the future. Live one moment at a time thinking of the postive side of things. Yes, death is part of living but it shouldn't overtake our every thought. If you believe in God, or if you don't try talking to Him anyway about peace and understanding and the tranquility that only He can give you. Faith, hope, peace and love NOW. Okay, you do need to be on meds also, not a big deal, they can change your life. trust me I know. I have the same problem you do. Sometimes you just have to give in and see your Dr. in order to start a normal healthy life. Good luck.
you have OCD and you do need to seek HELP
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