I can't stop obsessing over a friendship gone sour...?
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You can't make someone love you.
He may feel pretty well betrayed, ripped up, spit out, and there's little you can do to remove the offense.
It IS up to him to forgive or not, and he may have in fact forgiven, BUT, he certainly won't want to put himself in the position for that to happen again. Maybe he was burned before badly.
Maybe there was some particular thing you said that he cannot get past. You may never know.
You need to back off.
The more you relentlessly pursue, the more determined he will become to get away from you.
You have done your piece. You apologized. You made it clear that you are interested in resuming the friendship. You need to realize, however, that just because you apologize, the offended party is not obligated to accept it.
Give him time to process this on his own.
If he wants to revive the friendship, let him do it on his own terms. You are the one at fault here. Continue to push it, and you are virtually guaranteed to lose his friendship forever.
You best study the mind of the outcast male. What is attractive to him is not the same as what interests the winner-player male. Got to his friend and ask him what he likes. You may have stepped on one of his social fears.
It's time to move on. It appears to me that this person was looking for an excuse to break it off, which is the reason why most relationships fall apart early over the simplest little argument. If you ever did get back with this guy... the relationship would be too one sided, with him acting like hes the king and if you ever stray from what he want's he'd just break off the relationship again. Sometimes after a relationship end... give it a couple months... soon you'll be wondering why you ever put up with him for so long.—good luck and good riddance.
We all say things we wished we could take back but we can't. Your friend doesn't have the capacity to forgive whcih is very unfortunate for himself, as well as you. You did the right thing, by sincerely apologizing. Don't beat yourself up over this. It sounds as though he's getting even with you now by giving you the silent treatment. If that's the case, there's nothing you can do. Time heals & if he never speaks to you again, so be it. Since he can't forgive, you surely wouldn't want him in your life as a husband to say the least. Let him be & move on. He knows how badly you feel & to some men, that boosts their ego. No need to beat your head against a wall any longer. Move on in your life. If he should contact you, act as though his actions don't bother you anymore. See what happens next on his behalf. Go out & make new friends & it will get your mind off him.
Allow yourself time to mourn over the loss of a friendship.
Then move on. This experience may be telling you that you need to look at how you are thinking and behaving.
You cannot control his thinking or behavior, only your own.
You need to start thinking independently. You are only responsible for your own thinking and behavior.
Go join a club somewhere to meet other people.
If what you are doing now is not working do something else.
Visit my website as a start.
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honey, don't be that rude to yourself.
the friendship was truly and dear to you
he found a reason to stop the friendship and not be rude, or be blamed
it may not be easy for you since you don't have that much friend, but go out for what ever and be open, you'll see that some one will speak, greet or make any kind of contact, grab that chance and make other friends
we are social beings, we need friends, we need people around us to be"people"
to be social you need a social network, on your own you can't be. it's like almost you don't exist.
if you have other friend, you won't easily obsess over 1person. leave it be!
You need to give it time, it really is the best healer. You did your part and tried your best and if he's still not interested then honestly he's not worth it. Maybe he will come around but if he doesn't, don't waste your precious time on him.
The thing most important about what you've said is the fact that you hurt someone while you were, in your own words, "drunk". This could become a serious issue for you. You should heed the warning and learn the lesson of losing this friend.
Drinking to excess is harmful to you and those close to you. If you can't drink moderately, you shouldn't drink at all.
Tell your friend that, for the final time, you apologize and that you won't be contacting him again--and don't.
Move on and be sure to pay attention to your alcohol intake. If you can't drink moderately, then stop drinking altogether.
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