**Depression**?
Question:
*I started Cutting (but stopped, but want to start again)
*over came Bulemia
*started smoking (and quit but Addiction is killing me)
*Miss the girl of my dreams (we broke up in JANUARY)
*had sex with a guy who didn't diserve my Vriginity
*and came out about my sexuality (I'm Bisexual)
i tried talking to my parents, Councelors, teachers, and co-workers... but on one seems to be helping...
ADVICE!!!
Answers:
Hi Ellie,
Please don't cut your body anymore because it won't bring that girl back again. If you want to torture your body take a cold shower or run a mile.
Don't deprive your body of food because you want to torture yourself by wasting away.
Smoking cigarettes will make you look ugly. I picked up smoking in the Marine Corp 40 years ago and I look like a triple ugly old guy. Besides you burn $5 on a pack. Smoking illegal "whatever" will make you butt ugly by age 30 too.
Seems like now days you teenage girls can show each other more affection than girls in the late 60's. Any bond of affection hurts when broken. Learn from this and be cautious about forming affectionate bonds with anyone in the future.
Loosing you virginity to the wrong guy?? When it was over with him you were probably left wondering "what happened?" or "wasn't something supposed to happen?"
Thats my advice and it probably isn't very good or much help.
I've seen my boys 27, 25 and 21 into the happier years of their 20's. My girl turned 18 this year and in 36 months she will be 21.
Ellie, connect with your peer group of teens and it makes sense to listen to your parents. In your early 20's you will find where you "fit in" in this world.
Try to ride stuff out.
Best I can say.
Just think about how tomorrow things can change for the better.
If things start getting really bad then you might want to go to a doctor and maybe get on some meds.
Cutting is a sign of insecurity. You simply need to mature up.
Bulemia, once again, grow up.
Smoking? Peer pressure. Grow up.
Being bisexual is not natural, nor the way nature intended. If it was, bisexuals could reproduce, but alas they can't. On another note, stay bisexual, this way we won't have your genes in the world later on.
See depression, and self harm, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 2, and 4.
I think you need to seek psychiatric help, get your parents to help you find some, they should oblige considering you are causing yourself physical pain and obviously going through hard times
please dont cut..things to get better, it doesnt stay sucky forever i promise.and things like losing ur virginity to the wrong person happen all the time. just wait all this out and hope for more positive things in your life
http://dailystrength.org/support/teens/d...
stick in there u sound like a strong person!good luck
go to rehab
looks like you have some serious issues and depression is a real illness and you can get medical help for that.
I believe that most teenagers depression is cause by self conciousness but you really sound like you need some help (or maybe feel to sorry for yourself perhaps?). Just remember, you can be strong about things or you can be weak about them.
(hint* the weak one hurts the most)
At this age, you should concentrate on your studies. Spend more time reading, having fun with your classmates.
S T O P the rest of the nonsense!!
By cutting yourself, it hurts and in future you are going to regret for all the ugly scars left behind.
Knowing that smoking is bad so don't pick up again!!
It is unnatural to have sex with the person of your same sex. So don't fall for another girl!!
You are still young, so try to concentrate on your studies, don't get involve with a boy now, remember study hard and play hard!!
I wish that you are near so that I can guide you, but since I am unable, I hope that you will be good and I think you will since you can tell us your problems. Listen to your parents, counselors, teachers and co-workers, whoever that can help you. Be obedient to them, appreciate their help and you will be help!! All the best to you!!
I believe that it would help you tremendously to seek out a therapist and perhaps go on antidepressants to relieve the depression.
The self harm helps you cope with all the difficult feelings and emotions your experiencing. There is a lot going on with you all at once and you need the support of a trusted professional who can help you.
When I seen your question, my heart went out to you. Why? Because I can relate a lot . I may not understand everything you are going through because we are two different people leading two seperate lives. But I do have the answer. First, let me tell you how I can relate. I battled depression for years as a teen. And like you- it seemed like no one could help. I would have panic attacks, burst out crying, anger, overwhelming sadness and fear of life. My friends and family wanted to help because people really do care- but it's hard for them to know how. Their is only one answer and it's not psychiatric drugs.
Freedom from depression begins with you-all of these things you've stated are not a matter of growing up or getting through it. You are bound by these things. Chained in your emotions and circumstances of life. The problem is sin. You may not be religious and I do not expect you to be. It's not about religion. Sin is a disease that every human has. Why do you think you are having these problems? Just because? No, we all have choice- sin is the natural choice. You have the free will to continue in the destructive direction you are headed (all sin leads to death) OR you can have faith and believe on the one that created you-Jesus Christ- ask God to forgive you of your sin and let Him live in your heart. Jesus died for you and loves you. The bible says: "If any one be in Christ, that they are a NEW creation, old things are passed away and ALL things become NEW!" That is the best thing that you can hear at this point. Jesus is who gave me true freedom from hate, anger, jealousy, and depression that was going to lead to suicide. He is the only thing in life that has given me lasting peace and joy. Life can change- and it starts in your heart. Life may not be perfect, that is not what I am saying, But with Jesus you will walk through life a whole lot differently . For me that was a wonderful thing, I think it's safe to say that for you as well. I have been free for almost 5 years now. You will never know what I mean until you do it. Ask God to help you! Try and let me know. I'll be praying for you. Smile- you are loved. Have a good day!
It's a common thing to turn to excessive or destructive behavior, such as over-eating, in order to distract ourselves from painful memories and despair.
I also was severely depressed and sometimes still am. I also lost all my friends when I was very young and when I went to a "center" instead of a high school I only made two friends, and neither was very good, although one of them was somewhat decent. I also lost them in a few years.
These are the typical reasons for a person becoming depressed and turning to suicide:
1. Not getting your way. For example: A non-Christian being prevented by a Christian from getting something they want because that Christian is obeying God. For example say your friend has just become a Christian and you haven't and still hate God (whether you believe you do or not), and you want him to spend his excess money and watch some time-wasting movie with you but he won't because he's decided to spend his excess on spreading the gospel: You will become depressed at either the wrong idea that he hates you or angry that he is hating the things you love. Basically it's anger at God that leads to depression.
2. When a Christian sees others breaking God's laws, especially when they break the more important ones deliberately, and often. Scripture gives us some insight into one ancient Christian's emotional life, whose name was Lot:
"he rescued Lot, a righteous man, who was distressed by the filthy lives of lawless men (for that righteous man, living among them day after day, was tormented in his righteous soul by the lawless deeds he saw and heard)" - 2 Peter 2:7-8
3. Others mistreating / being unloving to us.
4. False thinking such as thinking we can't do much to help anyone else in life or, after God has forgiven you, wrongly thinking that he hates you, and losing faith in his love for you.
5. Worshiping things other than God:
"The sorrows of those will increase who run after other gods." - Psalm 16:4
You may not be worshiping "gods" however, if you are not worshiping God, or worshiping other men, metaphorically or literally, more than and especially, in hatred against him, then you will become more and more filled with sorrow.
If you have not yet asked God to forgive you with sincere sorrow towards him for breaking his laws with the desire to stop breaking them, then according to Scripture you will not live forever with God nor will your mind become perfectly logical, but will remain in a tormented and chaotic state. To solve this problem you must not trust in any opinion over God's facts. For example if he said, "Do not lie" but in your opinion it's good to lie now and then, don't trust your opinion. Yes, it is good to lie in some cases for quick profit, but God will punish you for it, and if you are not forgiven yet, and you end up dying before you are forgiven, you will be punished forever for it.
He who trusts in himself is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom is kept safe. - Proverbs 28:26
You should also not listen to those who are not forgiven for spiritual / moral wisdom:
"He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm." - Proverbs 13:20
That is common sense advice as well. For example say you want help understanding a hard math problem, are you going to get the advice of a hateful impatient idiot who doesn't understand math?
If a person truly wants to know and understand the God of the Bible in order to please rather than find fault with him, God will allow it and will let you know how to secure your future forever.
In order to get eternal life and an ever-increasingly logical mind you must also humble yourself rather than arrogant and stubborn towards God:
"whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted." - Matthew 23:12
So, willingly, without hatred, do what God asks you to.
Another problem may be your diet and comfort level. For example if you have high arches, the pain from walking around and not having good arch support may be causing you to be easily irritated. Or your sleep may be hindered by light coming in from under a door, a clock, a humming sound coming from a computer or clock, irritating bed sheets, or an uncomfortable pillow or bed.
Also, if you are not getting enough saturated fat you may have poor health and feel miserable, and so again, will be easily angered. It's a myth that saturated fat is bad for you and all those "skim" products are inferior foods to those with the fat in them (when both are both unspoiled that is.) A quick fix is to start eating hamburgers, whole milk (goat milk is the best known), whole yogurt, coconut milk, steak with the fat on, and salmon.
Finally: "don't worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? ho of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." - Matthew 6:25-34
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