Does anyone wish they could..?
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Absolutely. I had a friend who used to say this to me constantly, She had no concept of what depression is like and has never been ill in all her 68 years...so whilst as a sufferer myself I try not to dwell on it but by the same token I do not appreciate people telling me it's all in the mind and to pull myself together. I know that I do not need a sermon.
However, I do believe that a good well balanced diet and a certain amount of daily exercise does help as will taking the medication prescribed by the doctor.
All the best and try not to let them grind you down Oh make sure you get adequate sleep as do you know that sleep deprevation is one of biggest causes of depression.
i know what you mean but i wunt wish it on anyone
Yes but only for a day or two just so they get an idea of what it's like. I wouldn't want anyone to go through years of depression like me, it's sh!t.
I wouldn't wish depression on anyone but I know what you mean.
Yes, I know what you mean, and not just with depression - I with there were a way in which, just momentarily, you could totally share your subjective experiences with another. Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, one person just can not understand what another is going through.
It would be tempting, but no, that would be too cruel.
It is the most frustrating thing to hear. It just goes to show how ignorant they are x
bless you - I've only ever had it once before (luckily) and all my friends said similar stuff and were very against anti depresants, so I took them without anyone knowing and thanks goodness I got through it. I'm defiantely stronger now because of it - and I do still get times where its more than just feeling down, but I tend to deal with it quietly myself as talking to others just ends up making me cross cause they dont get it. I wish you well. X
I totally understand.
I no longer am suffering, but I wish it was as easy as 'pulling myself together'
Sadly, depression is still to a point a taboo subject and people still see it as weakness of mind!!
As us fellow sufferers know, that is not the case, and it can be a long hard struggle back to normality.
I hope you start to feel better soon...there is a light at the end of that dark tunnel XXXXX
It's hard for some people to understand depression - they assume because you can't see it - it's not there.
My Mother has suffered a lot of her life with it - some good days - some bad. But I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I know what you mean
Oh yes with you on that one, I am fed up with people telling me it is in the mind or calling me hypercondriac. It is difficult enough to live with without further mind games being played that I am doing it to myself. They really haven't a clue what it is like. It controls your life and really can get a grip, as for wishing it on others, not really. I think if they had it too it would drag me down further and they wouldn't really be able to understand your pain as theirs would probably be far worse..
hey i think you have suffered quite a lot ..i think i can understand you ...sit and think when and why you get depressed ...if its allways ,i dont know if you will accept this but its the truth try jesus ..ask him in your own words to free you of this mess...i am sure he would answer you.
yep, i've been suffering most of my life. Right now its been about 3 years, My family is use to it but just wish my husband could understand what it truely feels like for a day. That and panic attacks
Can't say i have ever been unfortunate enought to experience true depression. Although at times when i have felt quite low or stressed over things, i can see how easy it could develop.
I did read some advice once that said, If you are suffering from depression, please try and find one small thing that you could manage each day, be it walk the dog or just brush you hair. When you are in the habit of that, then build another habit into your routine. I don't know if that will help. You could also try flylady.net to help you build routines back into your life. Small routines and delegation help me from getting overwhelmed with responsibility.
People who tell you these things tell you because they are trying to help, I been suffering from depression for years so I know what you are going through, but honestly I wouldn't wish it on anyone it is a crappy feeling.
I've had depression but not for long bouts and I agree it's hell but I did get through it alone but I know everyone's different. No-one said that to me because I suffered in silence but I just decided to get a grip for my children's sake. There's usually a trigger and if you can sort out what's making you depressed there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know its an illness and I would never say "pull yourself together" to someone else but I do feel that it is cureable if you really put your mind to it. That's easy for me to say I'm sure but that's just my opinion. I hope you are better soon.
Just for a day, yes. Not long term though, coz i would hate to make anyone feel like i feel on a bad day!
I dont even know how to answer that.
I have been depressed for 16 years.. thats my whole life. No one has ever given half a crap. I decided today that i am going to kill myself tonight. No one is going to talk me out of it. But i did ask a question on here and got loads of people saying. 'oh no dont, cheer up' CHEER UP!! What the f u ck have I got to be cheerful about?
I hate people who have perfect lives (with problems like breaking up with thier boyfriend or hamster dying being the worst thing ever) they think saying cheer up and my 16 years of abanonment, beating, loneliness, unwantedness will just lift.
I have been through it, nobody said such garbage to me, and I would not wish it on anyone.
to be honest i know how bad depression is and how really rubbish and how much it is wrecking my life at the moment. i wouldnt wish depression upon anyone.
but i would like something to happen to people who say things like that. it really got to me when people said things like "Pull yourself together" or "Just get out and about you'll be okay"? it is them comments which makes you feel more worthless and more depressed knowing people might not believe you and you are unable to ''pull yoursself together''
as much as I hate their intolerance and naivety, I wouldn't wish my depression on my worst enemy.
Can see where your comming from, but the guilt would add to the anxiety and pressure I already get from worring how I get through the day feeling so depressed and pointless, the last thing I would need is worring about how someone else is
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