ATTENTION MEDICAL: What is wrong with me?

Question:

I have problems talking to girls, just as friends and also people in general. I sometimes think that they dont like me and I dont wanna talk to mean people. I was invited out to a bar and restaurant, but was basically ignored, because I am really quiet. i do much better talking with one person, at the bar there was about 10. I also have suicidal thoughts, because the girl i like doesnt like me back, I thought. That thought was confirmed when she brought a date to the get together, which made me really upset. What really upset me was when she was gonna be there at such a time, but arrived an hour and a half later. I think I may have social anxiety disorder. I am on celexa right now. I just dont feel like i fit in anywhere exept when I am at home. Please tell me if theres help I am at the end of my rope.

Answers:
Sounds like social anxiety disorder which can be helped alot with cognitive behaviour therapy.
Your worst enemy is your thoughts - do you realise that this disorder starts with skewed thinking and then just takes over from there and is a vicious cycle.

Cognitive Behaviour therapy works exceptionally well at looking at these thoughts, challenging them with fact and ultimately changing the way you think without even realising it, It takes some effort but is well worth it.
I have overcome anxiety disorder by usiing it.

Therapists usually deal with this rather than a psychiatrist, Sometimes meds can help (antidepressants/celexa) but you need to start some therapy. CBT is meant to be the gold standard in treating anxiety disorders and has the highest sucess rate.

Goodluck

It's hard to tell from your story, but it sounds like you're pretty young...life is a roller coaster and the teen years are the worst, as you and everyone around you is working through a lot of changes. Don't give the girl a hard time...it sounds like maybe she doesn't know how into her you are because you've been so shy. She's carrying baggage too...give her, and yourself, a break. Shyness can only be overcome by a great deal of effort on your part...no one can do it for you. Swallow hard, walk up to a stranger, and stick out your hand. It's the only cure.

I agree that it sounds like social anxiety disorder. Of course, if you are able, it would be better to get diagnosed by a professional rather than just making assumptions. As you know, Celexa is an anti-depressant and can be helpful in this situation. However, it sounds like you might benefit from counseling...maybe cognitive therapy even. It can help you change the way you perceive things.

There is definite help. Like I said, if I were you, I would check into cognitive / behavioral therapy.

Best of luck to you! :)

run away, run as far as you can, then start a conversation with a random person, ask them how their day was. sorry this answer probably sucks but it's what I feel like doing. I can't say much about your problem except you need change in your life, and I think meds are scary, maybe you should get a dog

Yeah it sounds like you have social anxiety disorder, but I'm no doctor. I'm a shy person, I think you should really think positive and try your best to be outgoing even in difficult situations. Maybe spend a lot of time with a friend, you may open up to them; that's what I did. Try joining a club that interest you. If you have anymore questions email me at jamaica1140@hotmail.com Best of luck!

I think you are ok there is no reason to think people dont want to talk to you.You are just cautious.You protect your self better than others,and thats good in different ways.Not all people are like that and they get hurt emotionally or physically,so they become hard on the out side.They might not know it but they make them selves only approchable to others only like them.Dont think your not tough .You might be wiser to stay in the back ground.watch out though because someone will notice this about you and may approch you kindly .they seem like a nice person but some sick people are just trying to find out why you are so quiet.Its easy to feel liked so they take advantage of you.And this girl is one of those i speak of shes trying to tell you she doesnt like you true.All the more reason you shouldnt want her.You can do better.Try being a little more social even if its hard .Like when your in crowds talk to others once and a while dont stick to one person,that will keep away girls like her.You only need you .You will find some one like you someday.Its hard but you will.Dont feel alone either,your rope just needs a another tied on to it life gets better,tears and all.remember your anxiety might also be instincts,telling you something is wrong with your enviroment. Your at your best when you are aware of your enviroment.

YOU ARE JUST SHY.

WHY DON'T YOU FIND A CHURCH OR CLUB THAT YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE IN?

YOU NEED TO VISIT AROUND TO PLACES WHERE YOU CAN FIND PEOPLE THAT YOU ENJOY BEING WITH.

YOU ARE EXPERIENCING SOMETHING THAT A LOT OF PEOPLE HAVE PROBLEMS WITH.

GO WHERE YOU FIT IN.

THE BARS MAY NOT BE THE PLACE FOR YOU.

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