How do you get your self-esteem back... after losing it?
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Well, first off three weeks is something to be proud of. Congrats. Secondly, are you single? If so try one of those online dating sites like match.com. It may fill the missing pieces in your life if you find someone to share it with.
You are already regaining your self esteem when you stop drinking because you know for yourself that you can't go on like this. Try joining a support group.
Congratulations! Self-esteem is achieved, not regained. What makes you feel good, besides alcohol? Are there certain hobbies, pastimes, activities you enjoy? Do something you KNOW you enjoy, of course, besides drinking. It will not only keep your mind off of it but it will also help you regain your self-esteem. Find a new job, new place to live, that is, if this is possible. Start all over and make yourself proud. Go on vacation. Give yourself a new fresh start for everything! Good luck!
This will just take time. I'm sober 3 years and it just builds over time. You'll have good times and bad. Just don't go back to the bottle when they are bad or you will likely have to start over. If you are ashamed, try not to be. Shame is a damaging, emotional state. We are all human and have done things we regret. The important thing is you are taking steps to get your life back in order and I congratulate you. However, those steps often follow a pattern of 2 forward, 1back. Just never go back to that bottle.
If the cause of your need for alcohol is low blood sugar (my addiction was carbohydrates, but for the same reason), then www.hufa.org has a library link that has some books that may help you keep your low blood sugar under control - which may eliminate any craving for alcohol.
Knowing that your body can/has/and can again betray you is enough to give anyone low self esteem. The trick I learned to help myself out of that I call "Threes". E-mail me through my profile and I will send you info on that for no cost. I learned it in assertiveness training class, and Zig Ziegler teaches a version of it in his "success" classes.
1. Don't drink.
2. Make new friends who are sober.
3. Get a new hobby: Fitness, reading, photography, etc.
4. Take a class in something new.
5. Go to church.
6. Go to AA.
Good luck. I think the longer you don't drink, the better you will feel, and your esteem will grow. It's a self-destructive cycle to go back to something so bad for you. You are worth more than that but no one can make you see that but yourself.
Don’t deprive yourself of your self-worth!!
You are not alone in this world..
Don't deprive yourself of your self-worth!!
You only need a HELPING HAND,
just like anyone else out who does at any point of their lives!!
Look no further than where you are already at!!
Go to a support group like AA. They'll help you feel not alone. I don't recommend dating right now, you need to take care of yourself for a year before trying for romantic relationships. But, you could get a pet. It will help to have someone with unconditional love and that has to rely on you for everything. Start working out regularly -- it will help positive feelings and let you do something good for yourself. Talk to your doc and a therapist. They can give you more support and hold your hand while you recover. Get involved in your church. Volunteer your time (homeless shelters are great places to interact with people that have lost everything looking for their next fix).
Good luck!
It's not easy, but anything worth having is worth the effort. Just start thinking to yourself (and say it out loud sometimes, too), "I am a great guy and I am worthy of every blessing that life has to offer." Just repeat this to yourself as much as possible, especially when you start feeling negatively about yourself. Eventually, you will start believing what you're thinking and saying. In addition, be grateful for everything you have right now. For example, be thankful for your three weeks of sobriety. These two actions are simple, and absolutely free. I've found that they have helped me through tough times. I feel that self-esteem is a gift that only you can give to yourself. Good luck.
every day you wake up is a new chance to try again.
trust God and do the right thing in all situations,you can't go wrong.It also helps me to do for others,it does not have to be anything elaborate.Just a smile or a hello can give someone hope.
The longer you keep plugging away at doing the right thing,the better you will feel about yourself.
Taking care of your body also helps but remember if you stumble you get a new chance in the morning.
don't give up the alternative is no good.
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