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You dont sound like you have alot of self confidence. There may be a bit of depression and anxiety in the mix. I'm never myself around anyone.my whole life is an act. If people saw the real me.depressed and withdrawn they probably wouldnt like me. My Doctor is helping with the chemical side of the depression but only you can come to peace with your lack of self confidence. Talk to one of these girls that think your cute and get to know her as a friend.dont play games be honest. You may find out that girls and relationships arent really that scary
imagine evryone naked except you! really! it will work cuz you'll be laughing!
I've never found the naked thing to work...but maybe for someone else. :o) As for the overall shyness...I have found that it helps to be a bit prepared. What has ALWAYS worked for me when younger and now as a 'maturing' adult... ;o) is to have questions ready in advance to ask someone. These are general questions you can ask to get someone to talk about themselves. Works every time.
I may start with " I was wondering if you're from around here and if so...asking for a good place to eat, or to get a good burger, or good coffee shop nearby - or if at a party or function, ask how they know the host - or if they live in the area- if they think there's lots of jobs in the area etc - what sports teams they like and if it's expensive to get tickets..blah blah blah... basically it gets someone talking and lots of times depending on what they say, you can ask more questions or hopefully they'll ask you. Bottom line...don't be afraid to be yourself - not all of us are social butterflys...I tend to stick to small groups or one or 2 friends - I've always been that way...nothing wrong with it - and I have no problem just sitting or standing and watching people...I've watched many others do it with ease...so it's all in how you project yourself. Let yourself off the hook at being something that makes you uncomfortable..and suddenly you won't care and you'll start handling it easier and easier.
OH.one last thing you can practice anywhere anytime...give someone a compliment - every day. Even strangers...going to the store? Tell the clerk you like their hairstyle or earrings or shirt or something. Tell your mom you like dinner, or a waiter you appreciate quick service etc etc. 98% of folks respond positively to a compliment (I know I do) so it's a great chance to get some practice and not expect anything in return except maybe feeling good! Talk about a perfect way to put someone else at ease...and it will rub off on you. :o)
It does sound like you lack self confidence. I have the same problem... But it is more of an anxiety type ordeal. Again I have that. Tell your self that you are going to be positive. It really helps... if you want to approach a girl tell your self the worst that could happen is her saying no... it will be hard at first, I'm not going to lie to you. But once you accept yourself it will become a breeze... Good Luck!
your anti-social. You need to BE CONFIDENT.
How? make your self look like the crowd you want to fit in with.
jeez gurl. I dunno. Just quit BEING SHY! PPl will just be like "oh shes not shy anymore!"
Some positive coping methods include:
-Banishing negative thoughts about yourself
-Practicing relaxation exercises
-Adopting stress-management techniques
-Reaching out to people you do feel comfortable around
-Engaging in pleasurable activities, such as exercise or hobbies, when you feel anxious
-Getting enough sleep
-Eating a well-balanced diet
-Setting realistic goals
-You may also want to consider joining a support group. If you're uncomfortable around strangers, that may seem impossible. But a support group can put you in touch with others who can closely identify with your situation. People in the group may also be able to share tips and insights for coping with social anxiety disorder that you hadn't considered.
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