Hi. I have trust issues, can you help me?
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This is an interesting question. You are trusting those that you have not met with a personal issue with trust. Ironic!
Anyway, I think that the first thing that you need to do is to step outside of yourself and evaluate whether the issue is with others or within yourself. Is your perception of people's motives accurate or are you having conflict within yourself that the trust issue is stemming from?
If you were to set your emotional attachment to the situation aside for a period of time and you still feel that the problem is not from within, but coming from your family, etc. than ask yourself why. Is there something to gain from their perspective by their behavior? Human nature, whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, is selfish. If there is nothing to be gained on their behalf by giving you reason to doubt them, than you need to look at the situation and see if they have motivation -- on your behalf or their own, to treat you this way.
The perception that you have may be correct, or it could be caused by paranoia and/or self-image issues.
Think about it.
First things first, most people aren't out to get you. Most people feel the same way as you, so they seem "sketchy". Relatives are always a sticky situation, but realise your loved ones just want you happy and okay. Just try to open up and see what everyone has to offer.
I've seen this in my family... it's a shame when you feel like you can't trust those you should be closest to!
Believe it or not, all people are not "up to something." There are good, positive, nuturing, well-meaning people out there. You just have to find a few and take a chance. Look for people who are positive. Stay away from people who gossip and talk badly about others. If they do this to other people, they'll do it to you, too.
I've made my life successful by moving far away from my family. I've been hundreds of miles away from them for almost 20 years now and my life has blossomed. I still love them and stay in contact, but for my own benefit, I decided to surround myself with more evolved, more positive people. You can do it too. Good luck.
Is it possible you are having just the regular gut feeling like when you feel something isn't right although you don't know what it is? That could be part of it, but if you feel everyone is up to something that isn't. If it continues or you feel like someone is watching you or something make sure to see a professional. Some people will not deserve your trust but as a whole most people are fine.
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