How can i deal with me hating myself?
Question:
I think of ending if all soo many times and i'm only in 7th grade.
I cut myself and my friends worry. I want to stop. no thearpy please i don't want my parents to get involved.
Answers:
what part of you do you hate? do you think that your the only one that thinks like that? what is the reason behind cutting yourself is it to get rid of anger,hate or just to feel alive?
if you ever need to talk e mail me and i will chat to you if you need, sometimes its good to talk to someone who doesn't know you and who you don't know just to get your feelings out. life does get better i promise!!
take care of yourself and don't do anything silly, xx
Gain confidence in yourself and the problem will go away with time, you could go shopping and get new clothes or start flirting with a certain guy you might like just a few of many examples.
well my advice is to turn to God... just pray and focus on the good things in life... God is always there to talk to!!
Find someone to talk to who has gone through the same thing, and see how they got through it. Or even talk to a friend..There is usually a reason that people hate themselves..and finding out why is the first step to finding a solution..If you need someone to talk to, I can try to help :(
Just look in the mirror and try to tell yourself that u want to kill yourself.
You said your FRIENDS worry.YOU HAVE FRIENDS!!!You're friends must like you ! If THEY like you..why can't YOU like you?? Sounds like depression symptoms. If it is..you need to tell your parents..or the school nurse. There is medicine that can help. You're not the only one who goes thru this. I know that feeling too. I had to get medicine for it. A long time ago I was being abused and couldn't get out of it so I banged my head on the wall. I guess that's similar to cutting. Don't know why..when we're hurting..we want to hurt ourselves more. I survived that time and life is better now. You can get thru this.you'd be surprised what "falling in love" can do for depression. Maybe there's somebody in 7th grade just waiting for you. Don't drive them away with your depression. If you were a parent..wouldn't you be hurt if your child was hurting and wouldn't tell you.? I'm sure your parents love you. PLEASE TELL THEM !
Well, I have to say, turn to God. He will make you feel so loved. He died for you and loves you very much. I am sorry you feel that way and I will pray for you, right here and now.
More people than not don't like themselves and their self-image. If they all committed suicide the population would drop by a good 90%. People in general are not as well adjusted as they would have you think. Just start observing people. The next time you see someone with jagged torn looking finger nails you'll know one this is for sure. They're constantly biting there nails. Why? They have some very deep seated problems. Some people are constantly cracking their knuckles. Some people are constant foot wigglers. Some people are constant table tappers. There's anonymous help out there for you. There must be a school counsler. Most likely they would not be required to contact your parents because you're seeking help with your own self-image. Go easy on yourself.
Realize that you have the ability to change your thinking any time you want. How you perceive anything, including yourself, is your choice. Make the choice to STOP viewing yourself negatively. You are a worthy human being who deserves your own love and respect.
Start reading positive self-help books and articles. Work on self acceptance. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by doing so.
you need to find something else to hate, like a teddy and cut that when you feel the need
hey up things will get better just takes time
big hug xxx
Why do you hate yourself? What's been gnawing at you? I'm sorry that you feel so bad, I know that just a letter over the net may not to too comforting but your words got to me. Why do you feel so bad about yourself that it has come to hate? Is it disappointment in the adult world? I have been there and felt disillusioned too. I hated it because I felt that it had lied to me, act a certain way and then this will happen, well not always , sometimes bad things happen to good people even when they don't allow it to. I want you to know that there are many beautiful things out there, many good people, something will grab you one day and you will be struck at it's beauty or how wonderful you feel about it. Try to find out what your real passion in life is, writing,helping people,art,singing ,acting, helping animals or whatever. Follow it. You really don't have too many years at home if the issues stem from there, just until your 18. You can in the meantime use school as an escape , go for your passions and try to get scholarships to get you nearer to them.Good luck and here's a big hug (((((((((( HUG))))))) ( dorky yea, but dorky can sometimes be freeing)
i sometimes feel the same way, as i am sure a lot of people do...u have got to think of your positive points, i am sure u have a lot of them, think of the people u would hurt? u should try to confide in someone...u need to love yourself before others can love and accept you, u have so much to offer and so much life ahead...good luck
It might be difficult but you should tell your parents. They might be abel to help you. They will be ver worried but they can support you through this. Also in Yahoo groups if you type self harm youshould find some groups you can join and talk to people there who are going through similar things. You should talk to your Doctor and see therapist they will be able to help you as well. Also no it can behard but try thinking some positive things about your self right them down. Think about what might have caused you to feel like this maybe some problem from the past etc.
I have anxiety and depression and I have been trying an alternative therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique and it has really worked for me and helped me a lot. Since using it I have been feeling a lot better. It's very good at getting rid of all kinds of negative emotions and dealing with all kinds of issues quickly. It does sound bizarre but does work. Might be something that can help you. These are some links about it. If you type self harm in the search engine of emofree.com you should find some articles about EFT being used on self harm.
The fact that you say "no therapy" means that you know this will help and there is some greater gain you get from not addressing the cause of your psychic pain (getting your friends to worry about you); there is no resolution without facing what you fear. Your parents do not have to know if you do access therapist as it is confidential but again the fact you want to exclude your parents means they may be part of the problem which you don't want to face/deal with - your parents AREinvolved as it is a lifelong commitment to care for you and help you grow into an emotionally healthy and independent human being - it's the job they took on when you were born.
Unless you are really depressed you need to stop yourself by telling yourself you are okay.
If you don't get help this could turn into a serious problem later on.
Anyone who wants to end it all should talk to their doctor.
If you cannot involve your parents, go to a nurse in school, talk to a teacher, talk to a doctor, go to your church and talk to someone you trust.
The best help is to go to a doctor and tell them what you are feeling and doing. It's not good to do this. You must stop it now.
You can stop it. All you need to do is want to stop.
Telling yourself over and over again that you hate yourself only feeds this further. You are so young. Just stop telling yourself you hate yourself.
Dear, you are too young to want to end it all. Please remember that, and there are many wonderful things that you will miss out on as you continue to get older! Cutting yourself does not end a problem, it creates even more problems as you have to give yourself excuses and to your friends as to why you are 'hurt'. That could cause you to be angry with yourself for creating lies to good friends; the circle will continue with more sadness.
You DO need to talk to someone...no one can answer all their problems when they only have a little bit of life's experiences to chose answers from and try to resolve your problem's. Questioning your young friends will create problems for the same reasons. Please consider asking a counselor from school, clergy, etc. They can be helpful!
When things are clearer to you, you will find that you aren't the only one cutting and hating themselves! Things are difficult for you to 'see' because you are going through a confusing stage in your life...I DID! Everyday of life is precious! :) You have to image that your family and friends do NOT want to see you in a casket! You DO give others joy and friendship!
Please get some answers for your problems... you will see that you are a very special person! I'm sure you would help out a close friend and wouldn't want them hurting either!
Take care!
DO understand that your parents are the ONLY people who will TRULY understand you. You could be the ugliest baby with terrible body odor and an annoying voice and STILL your parents would do everything for you. You're still young and that's a good thing. You have people who love you for who you are. Those are the people you need to lean on. Your parents are in charge for the time being, but that's not such a bad ordeal. If you need something, you don't need to grind yourself down more to get it. Your parents can make it happen. TALK to them. You clearly know WHAT it is that you don't like about yourself. Let them help you. What you need now is attention... not from the world, but from a select few that you can trust... the select few that can actually help you... You need to share the burden. It must hurt like crazy to bear it by yourself. I know. I'm 18. I've been EXACTLY where you are.
Hi Honey
I am so sorry you are feeling so sad, Please try not to hate yourself, sometimes we can be our own worse enemy. It took me years to like myself, I knew I was a good person but felt very insecure. Why do you hate yourself? You sound like a good person . Are you afraid to go back to school? Honey there is nothing wrong with you going to therapy so your parents find out, you really should tell them how upset you feel. It is not good to hold the pain in.I go to therapy and it helps, my family knows but I don't care.They know I am helping myself and there is nothing wrong with that. I am also on an anti depressant which really helps my depression. If you still don't want to go please see your medical doctor, he can give you an anti depressant or talk to the school nurse. If you do not want to do any of that please look in your phone book under suicide hotline. Please don't cut yourself either, it will only make you feel more upset with yourself.
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try telling someone exactly whats going through your mind... don't bother about trying not to sound "weird" or whatever as well, ive done the same and it helps so much, you can talk to me about whatever if you want babe, exactly how you see yourself, what you want to be like, what you think other people see in you... please don't consider anything stupid, you will come out of this phase x
Cutting yourself is not good, no matter how much better it makes you feel. There is help.
http://www.christiananswers.net/q-eden/c...
Self Harm 1-800-DONTCUT Help for "cutters"
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Suicide & Crisis Hotline
1-800-999-9999 Help for Troubled Teens
National Hope Line Network
1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention
i know your probably tired of hearing this, but turn to god, everyone i know that is involved with god has a happy life
U always hold a Little flower which is very beautifully and smelly. u try to watch a nest, and see how a bird feeds her child's . every night u watch moon and stars.u read history of the struggles of Hymen beings for living .u watch always the nature again and Again . u know the life is only once. at night start to sleep while opening your minds towards green gardens of the world .dint worry sun erased. wake up. your loosed dreamworld again.
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