I'm afraid to eat in front of people?
Question:
it's just getting to be..idk, like whenever i have a bf i won't eat in front of him, and when i'm at school i don't eat lunch very often..
and for xc i have a spaghetti feed and really don't wanna go becuse i don't wanna eat in front of them..
well i guess my question is..what can i do to feel comfortable eating in front of people...? thanks for your help.
Answers:
I've felt this way too, but that's probably because I'm clumsy and messy. I don't really know how to help, just realize that the truth is nobody really cares what you look like when you eat. They're not paying attention because you're eating too.
Also, maybe take small bites so you don't look odd when you chew. Sorry I can't help more.
Well are you afraid that your sloppy? Just try to take your time and chew your food. Go to Mcdonalds, Panera Bread, or Subway ect. and try to eat near a stranger. Just try to focus on your food.
That happens to me at school i won't eat breakfast or lunch at school. Then after a long day i get a bowl of ceral and go to my room and eat my food privatly.
Maybe if you try eating your food really slow.
that's what i do when my family goes out to eat.
I have the same problem. When I go out I just eat really slowly and try not to talk with food in my mouth. Then I don't have to worry about looking like a pig.
I've known two people that had the same kind of discomfort about eating in front of [or with] people. One was my best friend all my life [our moms went to school together] and the other was of all things a clinical psychologist! My friend outgrew the problem and is now a big successful realtor having business lunches with no problems. The psychologist never got over it...so when he and his wife had us over for dinner, the wife would take his plate into the study and he'd eat in there and then join us later for coffee! I mean, the guy was a SHRINK, and never "shrunk" himself...just lived along with it and was a great success--even opened a school for clinical psychology and is much admired around the profession. So perhaps you'll be just riding it out as you get older, either you'll get comfy or you won't...but here are a couple of examples - one outgrew it, one didn't. Both are doing great in their lives today. Do what feels right for today, and don't worry about tomorrow...OK? OK!
hi Sweet stuff! Well, I have the same problem. Always been that way. However, there is a solution, and that is to just start doing it. LOL, I know that sounds stupid, but hold on a little longer while I try to explain. It is the same Principe as the "to take small baby-steps" at the time. Because if you set your first goals low, they are easier to do. So a little by little you will win over your scary feelings about eating around other people. It really is nothing to worry about you know, and I am more or less over it. However I have to go out from time to time, to eat dinner or whatever. I still can feel a little tension, but that is gone before I have sat down at the table, and instead gone to be excitement instead. To be honest, I have my woman to thank for this, as she helped me to actually go out with her and eat dinner together. I soon found out that the people around us, was way more interested in their own food, than actually to stare at me, I guess I am not as cool as I thought ha ha ha. Anyway, good luck girl, don`t worry, be happy, peace and love from Norway
I have the same problem. I'm not anorexic either and am real thin. It's just that I'm real shy.
The thing you need to do is just eat in front of people even if it makes you uncomfortable. Step out of your comfort zone and face your fear.
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