How can you conquer insecurity? and low self esteem? please help me...?
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Have you ever heard of the book "I'm Ok, You're Ok" ? I have to admit I've never read it but I've been around some who have, said it worked wonders for them.
Main thing is, pinpoint what exactly you are insecure about, tell yourself that you are fine, you are worthy and if anybody has been telling you otherwise, most cases they're just trying to drag you down to their level. Rise above that.
I can't help you much further than this because for 1, I'm not a Therapist, 2, I'm not directly in contact with you to know you well enough and 3, I don't want to say anything that may upset you. The best thing is to tell yourself you are ok. Whatever your interests are, seek people out through those and if you do go to a church, a pastor is usually a good place to start. If you don't, it wouldn't hurt to go and speak to a pastor & know that God does accept all of us and our frailties. God bless and I'm saying a little prayer for you, ok? Good luck and you'll be fine. Barbara
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Well, what helps is this. Stop caring what other people think of you, what they might say if you do this or say that. Just stop caring. Do what YOU like, not what everyone tells you should like. Just remember that you have your own likes that you should concentrate on. If people don't like you or don't want to get to know you then just say "**** them".
That's my best advice I can give.
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Be proud of yourself, your heritage, your feelings. Stand tall.
Join a group, military, etc.
Or the easy way out - take zoloft.
I had, well still do a little have low self esteem.. what helps me is when I'm in a situation that I feel inferior or self concious, tell myself, " no one can pentrate my self esteem armor" or I tell myself things I wish I'd heard from my parents as a child like, "you're doing fabulous Babygirl!" I'm so proud of you! and I tell myself, I love you.. it really works.. in you is a child that needs love, and I do it myself.. and it works for me and Bob Griswold is great.. download him
The answer for me was to pretend I was confident, and after awhile people started to believe that I was. This gave me the self esteem I needed to actually become confident.
realize others are like you. go to more-selfesteem.com, helpyourselftherapy.com, selfgrowth.com, innerself.com, holisticonline.com, beliefnet.com for spiritual help, wikihow.com and search for confidence, go to motivation-works.com
Honey you need a good dose of learning to like yourself. Everyday look in the mirror and find something good to say about you. I heard an old saying once that when you look in the mirror you should like that person so much that you would want them to be your best friend. I used to be the same way because I was so poor that I thought other people were better than me. When I learned to like myself that all changed. I'm still poor, but that doesn't matter because God made me unique and no one can be me. Don't forget Honey, go find a mirror.
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