Help! I feel like such a screw up... my car got towed last night from a club parking lot.?


Question:
I didn't know that about a week ago, the owner's of this business started towing people who used their parking lot after-hours to go to the club next door. I usually can cut myself slack by chalking it up to an honest mistake. But this sort of thing seems to happen to me more frequently than usual. About a month ago I got a ticket for turning right on a red light, totally legal in my state but just not at this one designated intersection in town. I'm such a cautious driver because I'm a nurse and know better, but this car is costing me a fortune in lessons learned. Not to mention the fact that I was attacked by 2 dobermann's in my sister's neighborhood 6 weeks ago & was mauled so bad I ended up with 14 stitches. Came out with hundreds of dollars in E.R. bills even after insurance covered most of it. I'm starting to think I can't leave my house without screwing up and paying greatly for it. Could this all be part of life? I need a way to learn how to quit screwing up!

Answers:
It is part of life - and it doesn't particularly sound to me like you are a screw up. How in the world did you cause those dogs to attack you? That was the dog owner's screw up. Speaking of which - if you can locate the dog owner you should present them with your medical bills and if they don't pay then you should file a claim in small claim's court or sue for damages if it is over the small claims limit. If my dog had done that I wouldn't be able to sleep at night until I knew the person was completely taken care of.

And the two car violations - total learning experiences. Too bad they were costly mistakes, but not an indication that you are a screw up.

Sometimes you go along in life and everything is fine until you hit a run of this kind of thing. Take it for what it's worth, but I usually try to find the 'cosmic lesson' that's in it for me. For example - all of my 'cosmic lessons' revolve around a reminder that I am not in control of everything. The more up tight and 'controlling' I become the more things that happen that I absolutely cannot control - all I can do is keep managing and moving. When I 'let go' of everything uncontrollable, things usually go back to kind of normal :) Geez, you'd think I'd get it, but it's quite the cycle.

Hope your cycle ends soon!
That's life. Okay, so you made a mistake and parked somewhere where you were not supposed to, ah well. The traffic ticket, that too happens. Maybe you just weren't thinking. Be more careful.

The dogs? Sue the owners of the dogs for your medical bills.

You know the saying, "Shite happens," it is true.
Getting mauled by the Dobermanns weren't your fault. Parking in a lot where you shouldn't is your fault, but normally wouldn't have had such a consequence. You are going through a string of bad luck and perhaps not thinking through everything you do (most of us don't). Quit beating yourself up. It is a bad time for you. Learn from the mistakes you can do something about and let go of the rest. By the way, those Dobermanns. The owner could be responsible for what they did to you. Did you ever check that out?
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