How do help out my depressed boyfriend who wants to kill himself soon?
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GET HIM TO A DOCTOR.
Chronic depression is treatable.
Event-based depression is also treatable.
Suicide is *NOT*.
Despite other comments here, someone who says they are considering suicide is MORE likely to actually do it than someone who does not say that.
Rebutting another myth seen here: Most people who commit suicide *DO* indicate that things are getting progressively worse. They may not actually say "Kill myself" but often there are other "tells".
The idea that he said something about it means he isn't going to do it is the worst fallacy on the subject you can imagine.
note: if someone says they are going to kill themselves.they most likely are not. they just want attention. find out what's bothering him and tell him to stop being a *****
ask God for help and read the Bible with him
Break up with him
Sex him up!!
Call your local crisis hotline. You are not equipped to help him.
To help him? Give him a gun.. Ofc..
Get him expert medical help immediately..a doctor/psychiatrist. speak about his concerns openly, and make him promise not to do anything without speaking to you.
Emma...I'm not trying to make light of the situation, but when you say "kill himself soon" that sounds like manipulation to me. People who are suicidal kill themselves, period. Tell your parents, his parents, call the police...tell somebody! He needs to get help.
He either gets the help he needs or just shuts up about it. This can be a sick way to control and manipulate you.Anything he does is ON HIM. His actions, his resposnibility.
you call and tell someone. keeping someone who is suicidal a secret is for one, illegal in most places. in canada anyways, its the law to notify authorities. 2, you need to tell him he needs to get some help. that you are not a counsellor and want to support him and help him, but he needs to seek professional counselling. tell his parents, tell a counsellor yourself. its not fair for him to put this on you to deal with. he is reaching out for help, but he needs to expand that reach a bit more now.
try talking to him. see if you can get him to open up about whats bothering him. if you think he is a serious danger to himself tell someone so you can get him some help.
First show him all that he would be missing, by giving him they funnest time he could possibly have, and then seek help of a profesional. Note: if you think he is serious or even if you don't, this is not a matter to take lightly!
call the police and tell them that your boyfriend is suicidal and you can't get him to go for help. in most states in this country suicide is against the law and he can be placed in the hospital in the psych ward for a 48 hour observation hold where he will be seen by a psychiatrist. if the doctor discovers that in fact he is suicidal then they can try and force him into the psych ward for a psychiatric hospital against his will. you might lose a boyfriend this way but you will have saves a life.
give him tons of complments! Kisses 2
Break up with him! Unless you are the doctor, you really don't need this.
Those who bark don't bite.well, sometimes they do!
Just sex the hell outta him and if he's still feeling down...break up with him. That's one way to find out if he's serious or just playing with you:)
If all fails, call National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-448-3000 and have sex with him while he's talking to the counselors cuz I think he's just horny and not getting any. I feel that way too sometimes and then I get laid and I'm a new man all over again:)
He's probably doing it for the attention, hell if I were you I'd ignore it, what a baby, besides IF he does kill himself, he is being weak and selfish, and the world didn't need him anyway. Survival of the fittest/population control kinda thing.
Find him some professional help, dont try to fix this by yourself. People do say that when they tell you they will kill themselves people are likely to not do so. You can never be sure, i would not risk it.
Find some help soon.
Contact: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area. With over 120 crisis centers across the country, our mission is to provide immediate assistance to anyone seeking mental health services. Call for yourself, or someone you care about. Your call is free and confidential.
Or call your local police department. If your boyfriend has a therapist or psychiatrist try to contact them as well. Make sure you take his threat seriously!
look, invite him to relax place where you can talk to him freely, and try to know what happens , i think he is your boyfriend. and say to him that if he loves you really, he shuld not kill himself . coz that ll hurt you . and dont push so hard. STAY BESIDE HIM . THESE RE THE MOMENTS THAT SHOW UR REAL LOVE . good luck .
I had a suicidal boyfriend in high school and he told me that he would kill himself if I told anyone so I didn't. That was the worst mistake I could of made. Its to much for one person to handle. You need to tell someone that can help. Tell his parents, sucide helpline, or someone that you feel close to. Its the only way that you can help him.
cant you kill him ??
You poor darling having to deal with someone Else's journey in life is hard and stressful especially when it comes to this.
Will he talk to you about why he wants to do this? If you are unable to help him sweetie then he needs to go and talk to a counsellor as it maybe that he has past issues that he is unable to resolve himself.
If you need someone to talk to I will be here for you
BS"D
first of all, my heart goes out to you. this is not your issue, and he needs a distraction. it is something that i heard works.
but what i really wanted to say is, what i know is the jewish view of suicide according to the Lubavitcher Rebbe.
to paraphrase: "if someone Gd forbid commits suicide. he/she should know the following: upon completion of the act, his soul is immediately sent back down into a body. his life will be the same as the one before, and will also be put in a position to decide if he/she will commit suicide again."
in other words, there is no escaping the fact that we are here to make healthy choices, and we need to get it, or we get to repeat it, till we do get it.
There is so much to appreciate in this world, it is all a matter of perspective.
he is so lucky to have you, you obviously care about him.
there are so many people in the world, and children in the world who do not have someone in their lives that they feel care.
the point is really, that even with family and friends, ultimately, it is Gd who truely understands us and cares about us. if there is family who is supportive and caring, you are truely blessed, not all of us have that luxury.
remember, this world is the preamble to the real thing. this world is not the ultimate world, it is only the work before the real existence.
if interested:
seven laws of noah - for all mankind to abide by
lazerbeams.com
chabad.org
good luck
diet can also help? yes.
does he have a chemical imbalance?
does it run in the family?
My sisters boyfriend has threatened ot kill himself if she broke up with him. Please, if hes really serious about killing himself, tell someone! Save his life! If you don't, it could be something you regret forever and ever. Please, listen to me from expeiriance.
You don't say whether or not he is taking any medication. Depression is relatively easy to treat with anti-depressants particularly the SSRI class of drugs. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him of your concerns. If he is resistant to taking medictions then you need to educate him. Depression is a life threatening illness that can be treated. I know first hand. I refused to take medications or get any counseling. I was going to a psychiatrist but I lied all the time and told him what I thought he wanted to hear. I wasted his time and mine and ended up spiraling out of control. I lost everything and ended up homeless. Today I am on medication and I feel stronger and happier than I have been in my life.
be supportive. don't force him to not he has to make that choice himself. but be there and support him and tell him you care about him
JUST E-MAIL HIM DIS
Sai Ram. Pronounced as Saayee Raam, it is a greeting, a
mantra and also a blessing to you.U show the intellectual aspect of your psyche and your real need to know. Happiness is the only purpose of life,.I feel as if you are tired of life so i guess your question is how to get happiness? Search deep within and try to know who you are. Who is seeking the answer to the question? Who is that you? Find that real you behind all the layers that are heaped upon by society and its conditioning.
Believe in yourself
Be brave...but it's ok to be afraid sometimes
Study hard
Give lots of kisses
Laugh often
Don't be overly concerned with your weight, it's just a number
Always try to see the glass half full
Meet new people, even if they look different to you
Remain calm, even when it seems hopeless
Take lots of naps..
Be weird whenever you have the chance
Love your friends, no matter who they are
Don't waste food
RELAX
Take an occasional risk
Try to have a little fun each day.
...it's important
Work together as a team
Share a joke with friends
Fall in love with someone..
...and say "I love you" often
Express yourself creatively
Be conscious of your appearance
Always be up for surprises
Love someone with all of your heart
Share with friends
Watch your step
It will get better
There is always someone who loves you more than you
i found out the longer you sit there and feel bad about yourself, the longer your gonna feel depressed. You wonder why nobody cares, why nobody wants to be around you. The reason why nobody wants to be around you is because YOU ARE DEPRESSED. you bring them down when you come around. You git ti get up and fight your through it. The minute you get up and change your attitude about what's going on, the other stuff starts to change. whatever is kicking you and trying to push you down, i say kick it back. The first thing you got to do is open uo the curtains, put on some good music, take a shower, put on a good face, and open up the door and go out and see the world.Your sitting around hoping someine will fix it but, it's got to be fixed through you. You can't say "please, god help me." God is not gonnaa do anything if only try and help yourself to.Don't hold things back. Say it.Deal with that emotion
These are the same principles I go by for my own, and the same I am teaching everybody. Always look to the positive. There is a positive in every situation, even the bad ones. They are learning experiences. Look to how you handle a bad situation, and learn from how you acted, and see how you can turn the negative into a positive next time. Every situation helps us to evolve, so every situation is good. Life is not worth wasting any moment on depression. I did for far too long, and I'll never do it again! But I don't regret my past, it has made me who I am, and I have learned a great deal about life from the way
I used to be. You can overcome anything. Nothing can stop you from enjoying life.
ONLY YOU CAN STOP YOU FROM ENJOYING LIFE
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