I may be on the edge of a nervous breakdown...?
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i would eliminate some of the financial stress. if the house is too big / too much money / sell it and get something you can afford comfortably. cut back on non essential spending. start saving at least 10 percent of your money and get interest on it. when you see your bank account start growing , you will feel better/ worry less. you have less pressure this way . once you get started , you will love the changes that you made. learn about managing your money instead of letting it manage you. figure out if your credit card debt is too high. change cards every six months to get lower rates. pay off balances . ask your banker how to use a money market account / checking account every month to maximize your interest. get a few cd's.
next i would address my job. if it is too much stress / i'd get out of there. when you are financially secure you can take more career risks that can benefit you. when you are stuck just making it paycheck to paycheck you get stuck in ruts / you can't make changes because you can't take a risk something might not work. risks can really pay off . you won't get that opportunity if you don't position yourself so that you can take a few.
maybe change your routine a bit , get involved in something you like to do , look for new things to enjoy with your family / activities you could do. volunteer for something.expand your network / meet some new people . keep up your relationships - build and sustain them.
if you need someone professional to counsel you , get the help that you need. we all go through rough patches in life. find support and solutions. good luck
Believe that God has guided u all through
I'm not sure if it's a financial possibility, but I would certainly meet with a psychologist, especially if your medical insurance will cover it. A lot of times we get lost and just don't know what to do, and it can be a relatively easy fix. Perhaps the monotony of life just requires changing some little morning habbits, or taking an extra weekend day of golf once a month.
Perhaps it's actually a specific problem causing it. Trouble at home, some jerk at work really stressing you out, what have you. It really can be any number of things.
Think of your mind as a puzzle, and psychology as the art of putting puzzles together to make a picture, or make sense of everything if you will. That may be just what you need. And remember, they are only people, and you may have to try several before you find someone that you can really work with. Same as a housekeeper, a personal trainer, even a doctor.
Best of luck with everything, and remember, there is always help out there.
hard work always pays off. Maybe now your life is a living hell, but as you age your children will become older and they'll notice your needs. As you provided for them, they will start providing for you. You'll be able to kick back in your retirment and sit somwhere in cuba and whatch the sunset on a beautiful beach. Perhaps you'll even see the sunset in the mountians of Italy, or you may see it through the rainforest of Brazil. Your glory years arn't to far away. As your children will get older they will take responsibility for themselves so you won't have to. Meanwhile try reducing stress in your life. Life doesn't have to be horrible before you get elderly. Take a vacation because you are much need of one. Throw away the world for a fough days and go party and have fun. Try some hobbies such as dancing, yoga, jogging, singing, or reading. I find swimming really relaxes my mind and my muscles. Don't let everyone take advantage of you eaither. If somone asks you for a favour tell them to do it themselves. Maybe your to kind and generous. To be a caretaker you must take care of yourself first. Buy food and put it in your fridge, the type of food you only like. Buy a footmassager for yourself. Go to a spa on your own time. Relax and rent a movie for yourself. Don't let everything be about your family. My father was working 16 hours a day to hard labor in construction. He worked 5 days a week and was barely ever home. After work he did everything for himslef. The only times he payed attention to us was on Sundays when we all gathered as a family. On saturdays he spent time with my mom or his friends. My dad eventully opened his own buisness when he turned 45 and i was still in highschool. Life only got better from there. He was happy, but somtimes work took it's toll on him. Don't let your familys needs revolve around you. Have them do somthing for you since your the boss and the money maker. I'd do my dad's laundry and my mom would do his food and cleaning. My point is he gave us somthing so we gave somthing in return. Open an account dedicated to yourself. When your older you could use that money to get things just to satisfy you.
This may sound corny, but I worked for me. Meditation can calm your mind and body if done consistently. You can start by inhaling through your nose for 7 counts.Then hold your breath for 3 counts. Then exhale out of your mouth for 7 counts. I would do that at least 7 times until you feel your mind relaxing. You can also try St. John's Wort which can calm your nerves. Its all natural and herbal. I would recommend looking it up before you try it to make sure it doesn't interfere with any health conditions you have already or medications you are taking. But I've used both of these methods with success. This will calm your nerves some and will help you sort out what your next step will be whether its counseling from a pastor or psychologist. I would not recommend having yourself committed unless you feel the situation is extreme. You can sign yourself in but you cannot sign yourself out if you don't like it in the hospital. I would try meditating and counseling first and think of in patient care as an option for later on down the road if all else fails. But again you know your mental state better than we do so only you can decide about commitment. Hope that helps. :)
It's natural to have "nervous breakdowns" because human beings have to deal with life. We all have our stressors that accumulate over time that an event can trigger or just become overwhelming. Sometimes people have genetic predisposition or maybe environmentally caused reasons for someone to become overwhelmed faster or have less tolerance for stress.
Perhaps having your self "committed" won't be helpful at all. Please talk to a therapist and figure out if there is a situation that is immediate for you. Set a course of resolving that issue and pehaps you won't be on the edge and be able to address whatever other stressors are in your life. Wish you the best.
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