How do i train myself not to care what other people think... i'm having issues with self confidence.. plz help
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Hi- Sounds like you need to find a better way not to worry about what people think of you. Unfortunately, this is a very judgemental world @ times. I once went to a Therapist, as my ex's family had me under a microscope ALL THE TIME! It was brutal, very brutal, and hurtful. The one thing I learned from these sessions was the following: "You can't change the way people act, you can only change the way you react to them." May sound corny, and it took A LONG time to get this accomplished, BUT IT HAPPENED. I learned that I am a lot more thick skinned than I gave myself credit for! I FINALLY learned to let things roll off my back. These brutal people saw a change in me, and DID NOT LIKE THIS CHANGE IN ME. THE JOY OF PUSHING MY BUTTONS WAS NO LONGER FUN! They still try to attempt this, BELIEVE ME, they do, BUT, here is my advice to you. THINK ABOUT URSELF, ALL THE POSITIVES ABOUT YOU, AND CONCENTRATE ON URSELF, RATHER THAN THOSE AROUND YOU. YOU ARE THE ONE THAT HAS TO LIVE WITH URSELF, RIGHT? AS HARD AS IT IS, TRY TO STOP WASTING UR TIME AND ENERGY ON WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU, AND SPEND THAT TIME JUST BEING YOU- IT WILL IMPRESS PEOPLE MORE WHEN THEY SEE THIS GRADUAL CHANGE. I hope this makes sense. It took me a LONG time to get to this point, as I tried to impress people that only made me their doormat, and took great glee in this. I tried SO danged hard, to no avail. People who need "impressed" will never give you that satisfaction, as they are usually hung up on their own "downfalls", and attempt to make others feel badly about who they truly are, in order to make themselves feel better about THEM! WOW, I wasted ALOT of time trying to please those who would NEVER accept me for who I am, and in the end, I came out on the other side a better person for not continuing to "impress" them. It sure made me feel better about MYSELF! Again, hope this helped you out! Practice this, and good luck to you! Take care!! Have a great week!
Don't look to impress. Be humble. Charity and volunteer tim. It really works.
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I know exactly where you are coming from. With me it wasnt so much as MY self image as it was worrying about everyone elses image of me. If that makes since. I have been trough a lot lately and I just snapped. I have had enough worring about what everyone else thinks. I have to be me and enjoy myself for once. I had to recognise myself as a beautiful person. I also had a bad problem with letting people run over me so they would think better of me. Ya know. I dont worry like that anymore. I cant . I was driving myself insane. Just ell yourself that if they like you they will like you for who you are.
There is nothing wrong with trying to look the best you can a good portion of the time. In fact, you never know who you may run into when out.and you should dress for success anyways. Image is important in the working world these days and dressing nice and being clean cut has the added bonus of making you feel good. But don't dress up just for your friends, dress for the world around you. By no means.don't go broke on clothes for the weekend parties or clubbing. But get good set of quality clothes and look your best. Friends will come and go. If you feel a huge sense of being judged by your friends.take a break from them. Try going a week solo and go to restaurants, movies, and shopping all by yourself. Hobbies help, too. Learn an instrument, etc. Find something that makes you...you. Afterwards, maybe you'll come across people that like you for who you are and not what you wear.
Ignore all the negative stuff and only take in the positive stuff. Unless someone's trying to help you, don't concentrate on negative stuff. Be yourself.
Just be yourself. if people can't accept you for who you are then they weren't meant to be in your life. In all honesty, I would rather a person would be just themselves then try to be someone they are not.
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