I cant stop cutting how should i?
Question:
i have tryed everything but nothing works
& i HATE that i cut something comes over me & the i cut
the last time i cut was 1week ago but i was goin 2 last night but some how i stoped my self
WHAT DO I DO 2 STOP I NEED HELP!
PLEZZZ
& i dont want 2 tell my parents or call some #
Answers:
isnt it a horrible feeling, when you want (have) to cut so badly that you cannot stop yourself, when you feel out of control and cant stop yourself from slicing yourself open? i started when i was 14 and now im 18. i did stop for 1 1/2 years, because my parents caught me and threatened to send me to a psych ward, lol. in order to stop, YOU have to want to stop, if you dont fully want to stop, you will never be able to. i still cut today because i really dont care about stopping. if you truely want to, you can do it. i personally think that telling one's parents is a bad idea, but if you feel that you need to talk to someone, there is always a "trusted adult", like a teacher, or especially your school guidance counsellor. you know that you have a problem, that is the first step in stopping your addiciton. the further you get into this, the harder it is to climb back out of it. good luck!
doesnt it feel good? yea, i used to cut when i was 13 too, n wow the feel. Im sure u'll get over it sometime soon. its stupid. after a while it gets super embarassing, and it makes u look real dirty. Don't do it. Its gross.
You need therapy really no joke i saw this type of dsyfunction on Dr. Phil it is the only way!
just keep away from sharp objects
well i have the same problem nyway theres help anytime u want to cut jst go the the links below and call thsi # 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288) hope i could help feel better hun
where did you get the idea that cutting yourself will help you in life. think about the scars that you will have a the awkwardness of someone asking you what happened. its totally weird. stop it now.
First you need to get hold of yourself. It's difficult but you can do this. If your not comfortable going to your parents...you should be, but if not, go to a favorite Uncle or Aunt. You need to get help and there is no magic words to say that will make you stop. You need to get help and please...do it right away.
What Does and Doesn't Help People Who Self-Injure?
Understanding why people hurt themselves is an important step toward healing. Equally important is understanding the components of good treatment: what works and what doesn't (Miller 1994).
The reactions of family, peers, medical professionals, and others to self-injury have an impact on the self-injurer. Self-injury brings out a variety of feelings in people: shock, frustration, sadness, guilt, revulsion, anger, and fear, to name a few. When facing the physical evidence of the extent of the self-injurer's pain, people often realize their own helplessness in being able to stop the person self-injuring. It is not uncommon for this helplessness to be expressed as frustration and anger.
Shame is an incredibly powerful emotion that will keep the self-injurer feeling negative about their self and their behaviors. Although self-injury is not the most typical behavior, there is nothing shameful about self-injuring. Through self-inflicted injuries they were able to cope and survive. The scars are testimonies to this survival. Shame and secrecy go hand in hand: openness and honesty are the antithesis of shame. The courage it took to survive the difficult time in their lives is something that can be a source of pride (Alderman 1997).
Self-injury exists whether it is talked about or not. Keeping the silence reinforces the sense of shame that many feel about their SI and it maintains the isolation and alienation that can lead to SI. Whether you know what to say or not, letting the self- injurer know that you are willing to talk about SI is one way of providing support. An important factor in being able to provide support to someone who self-injures is being able to regulate your own reactions, keeping any negative and judgmental responses to yourself while providing support, although it is necessary to find a time and place where you can express these responses.
It is important that if a self-injurer makes the decision to stop hurting themselves, they make it for themselves and not for someone else. Stopping is only possible when they are ready and they have developed other ways of coping. While most attempts to force, persuade, or suggest that a person stops self-injuring are based in a genuine desire to help and in caring for the self-injurer, if the self-injurer is not attempting to do so for their self failure is a most likely outcome. The self-injurer may also interpret your attempts for them to stop as being judgmental and demanding. This may serve to make them more secretive and to further break down communication. SI is a way to cope and if the self-injurer had another way to cope at that time most would use it. Trying to get someone to stop self-injuring is more about your needs than theirs.
It is important that medical professionals, doctors in emergency departments; therapists; and other care providers, who give assistance are aware of their own limitations and take steps to increase their awareness, understanding, and education of self-injury. Whether these professionals have feeling of disgust, anger, empathy, fear, frustration, or any other reactive feeling, it is necessary for them to recognize and control these emotions while rendering their care. It is also important that medical professionals are weary of not overreacting. SI is rarely life threatening and seldom requires involuntary hospitalization.
Although some medications are being tried with some success, there is no magic pill for stopping self-harm. Psychotherapy approaches have been and are being developed to help self-harmers learn new coping mechanisms and teach them how to use those techniques instead of self-injury.
Here's a page online from someone who was able to stop cutting.
The thing is, it might be a lot easier to quit with some real hel0p. If you have been doing this 2 years and you can't stop, why would you suddenly be able to do it now?
If you have a lot of anxiety, then there are meds to help lower that anxiety so that you have a chance to get control over this. I know you don't want to tell your parents, but is there another adult in your life that you could talk to about it? An aunt? Grandmom? Friend of your mom or dad's? If there is an adult who understands, they might go to your parents for you. Do you know any kids who have already gotten help for cutting? Maybe their mom or dad could help.
I hope you make the right decision and let some people in your life help you! xoxoxo
i know how you feel, cause sometimes when i'm really really sad or mad i lock myself in my room and cut, but one day my mom found a cut on my leg and i kinda stopped, but its really hard.
when you feel like you're going to cut think about the good things that are happening in your live or about that cute crush; think about what your crush would think about you if they found out you cut yourself. you know you could have a chance and if you really can't stop you might have to talk to someone you really trust like your best friend and let them talk to you about the happy, funny things.
awww :( i have been a cutter since i was 11 also. i am just about 23 now.
trust me, you want to stop cutting asap. it only gets worse. think about these things - the scars you make, will NEVER go away. wherever you cut, you'll have to deal with people looking at them, and wondering what it is there for.
its tough to stop. ive tried on my own, and ive gotten therapy. but nothing fully helped. you, yourself has to really want to stop.
please think about the risks. infections, scars, emberassment. try something else, like pinching yourself as hard as you can, or screaming into a pillow. call one of your friends right away. try your best not to be alone.
good luck, and try to feel better. email me anytime if you need someone to talk to. :)
I went an wrote a list on the times I cut myself, (I used to be a cutter I have cut myself 14 times) and I wrote out my motives on why I was cutting and how I was feeling when I cut. Then I took it to my psychiatrist. I then asked him why I cut myself. He explained it to me that I had a lot of mental pain built up on the inside and when people have that after a while they can't deal with the pain so they will take it out on themselves physically. He then put me on meds and it help with the thoughts. I have not cut myself in a year now. Plus I told myself if I did it again I would have myself lock up in a mental ward. That stopped my in my tracks.'
im a cutter too in the same situation i don't want to tell my parents telling someone who can help you is the only way you can stop so find someone a counselor or a docter whoever but when you feel like cutting go to www.healthyplace.com go to chat and there is a room just for self-injury/cutting it really helps a lot to talk to people trust me and if you need to talk feel free to e-mail me
I have cut myself before. Way before I was 13. And it was not because I wanted to know what it felt like. It was because I hated the world.
It felt really good. But I knew it was wrong.
Therapy is needed.
You have to tell someone in order to get better. But whatever you do, DON'T tell a teacher or friend, even if they are your closest friend. They will call the authorities, and they will sue your parents because they think that your parents are abusing you.
I was going through puberty. But this is obviously different, right? See a doctor. Tell your mother.
Yep ive been there before, it sucks. I totally understand though, because it feels so good. Im 18 and i just recently stopped, i hate that i have scars from doing it though. I snapped rubber bands really hard on my wrist to stop. I guess it kind of helped. I also started writing in a journal and that helped alot. Eventually i think you will realize that its leaving scars and that it will be embarrassing if you have to show them. If you want to talk you can email me or im me.
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