Would u tell on someone if u found out they self harm.?
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You can go on wearing your skirts, long pants or long sleeved shirts to cover up what's happening to you, but you really can't hide it...especially from yourself, which is the most important thing! If you know this is happening to you then find help. In any form, (maybe because you don't get your own help, then maybe your friend is here to help you with this situation?)
Personally, I have over... geez... I really don't know, maybe about 1000 or so on my body, alot have recovered, but I still look a real mess! It's quite embarrassing to explain this problem aslwell to new people you meet and I promise it will be one of the biggest things you will regret doing to yourself because you eventually realise that there are many other things you can do to help you cope through whatever is making you do it.
In my past and my experience, I lost pretty much all of my friends because they didn't understand what was happening to me or really just didn't want to see it. This made me alot worse to think that there was no one out there for me or no one understood.
But you also have to see that you have a great friend that really wants to understand you and help you. She will do anything. If you don't want your parents to find out, then talk with your friend. She sounds great! She will help you to keep things discreet if you also promise to help sort out your situation somehow with her.
Just please get some help before it gets too late and you look back on your life and say "Why did I do this? Why didn't I get other help?" (You will be forever left with your horrible, carved memories, no one should live this way...ever.)
Good luck.
Yes I would that is a serious problem and could lead to other things that could be fatal ...please don't do that to yourself again.
Yes I would. Because I love my friend enough to get her help so I don't lose her later because of it. Even if I lost her because she didn't want me as a friend. I would feel better knowing she was ok, than I would If I lost her because i didn't say anything to help her. Guilt is an ugly friend when you lose someone. Its the same as getting a drug addict help and a depression or suicidal person help. You need to talk to your parents and get help. You may not have done anything for 3 months but that doesn't say you won't start back up. I fully support your friends actions.
at first i wouldnt want to tell ananyione because of our freindship bond . but i would try and talk to them and find out what was going on. But my doctor asked me. if i would tell on someone if someon had a plan to kill thiershelf, i said yes. So yes i would tell, but only to help, you wouldnt get in trouble, or put in a hospital or anything like that, your doctor and your parents would just try and talk to you.
An by the way, i can use the computer even though i am in a treatment center K? you and mrs Riptide_71 need to get that straight. i mean no hard feelings.
Get well soon!
She isn't saying she will tell to get you in trouble. She wants your parents to know because it's scary. People that self harm have deeper issues. You need to see someone, like a counselor. Just because you haven't done it for 3 months doesn't mean your problem is gone. Don't be scared, your parents won't be mad. You need help hunny.
I had a friend that told me she did this but I was too afraid to tell anyone. She eventually stopped (thank goodness). It's a very uncomfortable situation when a friend tells you things like that, you don't know what to do.
As far as making this girl not say anything, you have to convince her not too or just deny her access. Don't give her your phone number if she doesn't have it, don't let her come to your house, and don't let her anywhere near your parents.
I really hope you are not doing it anymore, if you really did stop 3 months ago then do what I said above, if you still do it, it might be best for her to tell or better yet for you to.
I do not mean to sound crude but there is nothing you really could say.
Anything you said would probably still sound like a lie or a way to avoid the problem. Also it seems that whatever issue you have has not gone away and as soon as you find a way around the situation with your friend you would start hurting yourself again. Basically from how you have put it. You only stopped because your friend is threating to bring this to light.
Also I can't make accurate judgments because I don't know you or your friend or how good of a relationship you have with either your friend or parents or what type of person you are.
I am only basing my assumptions on the way you have written the question.
Bottom line best way is to come clean to your parents before she tells them it will be less of a shock to your parents if it comes from you personally and not someone else.
You need to explain to her that you have not done in 3 months and maybe you guys could set up some kind of system to show her that you aren't doing it now. Maybe you could let her check for herself over the span of however long you want to do it so that she is convinced that you are telling her the truth. Only if you are comfortable with that though. Ask her what would make her believe you and feel comfortable not telling anyone. What do you have to do for her keep her word. See what she says.
She is trying to help you. If you don't do it anymore, then you have nothing to hide. I think you should tell your parents before she does. You have no reason to hide it anymore.
Also, even if you don't cut anymore, you may still benefit from calling SAFE. (I attached the information below.) They can help you decide what to do about your friend and family. They know what it is like and they are very wise and reputable. This way, if your friend does tell on you, you will already have figured out what you want to say or do. Please call. They really can help.
SAFE (Self-Abuse Finally Ends)
1-800-DONT-CUT (1-800-366-8288)
http://www.selfinjury.com/
if that person is really ur friend or really cares about u and u them u would tell though they may not like u ever again would u rather no that there hurting themself and them be ur friend or no that they are healthy and them not be? normally wen its all over and done with they will one day thank u for it. plz tell some one
speak with your parents about it. Has she disclosed she is being abused ?
If her family is anything like normal her parent need to know. If her family system is crazy family intervention may involve a report to Social Services.
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