Help. Problems with myself...?
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everyone has some self-consious periods, but this doesn't seem normal. talk to your mom or a friend about this. you may want to seek help now, before this gets worse,(if it does). You wouldn't want to develop an eating disorder, so you need to get help to realize you are beautiful the way you are and should eat a healthy amount of calories and stop worrying about it. good luck.
1st of all, no is is "perfect" either physically or mentally.
Its okay to feel such way. I guess everyone feels something like that once in a while but you've got to have self esteem.
Don't care what anybody else say, just be happy who/what your are.
No it's not normal. But at your age you can at least make a change. Right now, I think you have insecurities in your life caused in your childhood, and now they are traumatizing you at a later age. Look up some Tony Robbins videos on youtube or other daily affirmations and just keep telling yourself that you are a beautiful person, everyone is beautiful in their own way no matter what.
Also, if you don't start doing this, you'll begin to start hating yourself and thats not something anyone should do.
Hope this helps. =)
Well this sounds familiar =)
I feel exactly the same! No matter how many people tell me i'm pretty/beautiful etc, It does nothing!
The one thing I can say to you is to see your doctor =) I went to see mine and I'm having blood tests to see if i'm anemic, cuz it may be just more than you disliking yourself and actually be to do with you body and hormones etc... He may refer you to a psycologist, gives you someone to talk to, But don't go thinking you're a psyco or anything!
When you're 14, your hormones are all over the place, especially with periods and stuff like that so the likelyhood is you'll grow out of it but if it's a really big issue then seeing someone about it is definately a good idea cuz not being happy with yourself could lead on to other things, self harm, eating disorders and trust me I know all about that.
I'm sure you are absolutely gorgeous! That's why you get compliments =) I hope this helps!
BE STRONG..you are 14..stare at yourself and look at the things you do like..You do like somethings about yourself? Right? You need to compliment yourself...dont wait on others to do it for you....and you should be cautious of what you eat just dont be so crazy over it.you can eat healthy and still sont have to be so cautious and concerned...I wonder what type of living enviroment you live in..? Just be you and a very healthy you...stop the obsessing and be a kid...cause you are technically a young adult but you are so young.
This is not normal. It is normal to think about how you look, etc. We are so inundated with images of what looks good in our society and magazines showing flawless people (forgetting that they are airbrushed) that it is a very anti everything culture in that NO ONE IS Good enough. Instead of rebelling against this crap... girls are buying these magazines in droves and giving madison ave more cash in their pocket to continue to tell each and every girl/ women and now even getting to men that "you are not good enough as you are...so you better get -oh pick one..."mac makeup, sephora products, liposuction, botox.etc. It is a disgrace and I think that it would be in the best health welfare and interest of our young people for their to be a boycott to all of this crap. They are not harmless...they inflict an insidious pain into their audience.
So..back to you...are you normal...yes/ no. It is not normal to eat 1000 calories a day- that is not conducive to growing int a healthy young woman. Further...looks fade and your dependency on compliments etc. is a very dangerous one because if that is what you depend on for identity...it is transient. There is a name for this called Body Dysmorphic Disorder. It has nothing, really, to do with vainity...despite the fact that it may present as such...It is more to do with a very deep issue at the core of your being in which you don't feel present (visilbe) unless someone notices you. YOu better get treated for this ASAP. There are severeal books written on the subject...and while books are great in that you know you are not alone...the treatment is imperative. One boy...because he did not like the way his head was shaped...hung himself in his bedroom. He was about your age. I think the vunerablility to this begins at puberty..when it is no longer about skateboards and bikes and it begins to be about the cute girls and guys in school.
Ask me why I know so much about this. I suffer from it...and just before writing this...I threw up my breakfast...cause if I overeat I feel like a piece of crap...so i make myself throw up. I am going through a bad period right now...lost my job...my depression is back...and this is when the purging starts. I have a handle on it most of hte time..and they are changing my SSRI- which I took for Years and it helped. I had acne on my face and wouldn't leave the house...this was several years ago. I would look in the mirror for hours and hours and cry. I wanted to commit suicide. I swear to you...this is NOT a joking matter.It is a very hard thing to deal with..a
and the person that (while I am sure she was trying to help) said that you are probably absolutely gorgeous was probably trying to help...thing is...that is not what you need to be told...or that is not what needs to be your point of validation or reference. Start researching...Tell your mother...and if your mother is stupid and says "aw honey...all girls are like that" then tell someone that has more sense than that. A lot of times the mothers perpetuate this crap. I don't mean to make a disparaging remark about your mother...don't even know her...but GET help. you are not flawed and weird...and there is nothing per se "wrong" with you...but do you want to live your life like this...
Hi! I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so frustrated and feeling so down on yourself. I first want to tell you that you are going through one of the biggest changing phases in your life -teenage years! Your hormones are probably different from time to time and you doubt your appearance but also you doubt yourself on the inside at times.
I was once your age and I wouldn't go back to it if I were given the chance because it is so rough. The best advice I can give you -aside from previous answerers who may have some right ideas but wrong impressions for you, is to enjoy your youth. Try not to get caught up in things that are not in your control.
Regarding your dietary issues, it is also very common for girls to be so self concious about their weight -maybe because their mothers are overweight and they don't want to be like that or maybe because of other influences. You are you! It is okay to eat pizza on weekends and drink soda sometimes. There is nothing wrong with you and you should enjoy yourself now as in the future things will change more and more with added pressures of adulthood. I am not saying it is all right to binge eat or anything like this but it's ok to enjoy yourself because you still have several years before you'll be grown. Take my advice and don't bother counting calories until you've become a mother because by then you will have too... until then, enjoy being young -these are the brightest days of youth.
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