Computer Game Addict Brother?

Question:

My brother is a 17yr old computer game addict. He plays Counterstrike, Gunbound, MapleStory and chats on the computer for a countless number of hours each day. The computer has been ruining my brother's life. He has been indifferent about high school ever since his 1st year. He claims that he has a lack of motivation and is lazy. This coming fall will be his 4th yr in high school and he has been failing almost all his classes carrying along only 17 credits. My mom took the internet modem to work once and my brother went completely biserk. He threatens us by saying he will start smoking and doing bad things if we dont give the modem back to him. My parents and I just don't know what to do anymore. When ever he is playing games, he wears a headset with a built in microphone. This only makes matters worse because every so often he would curse/scream/ laugh with his online buddies while playing games. This causes a huge distrubance in our small home. Please provide some feedback on this.

Answers:
I honestly sounds to me like your parents aren't doing enough parenting. I am an avid video gamer, as is my husband, but we don't allow it to interfere with our lives. Our children get one hour of screen time (TV, computer or video games) per day, with rare exception. Allowing your brother to pitch a hissy fit and threaten to do bad things like smoking is ludicrous. I'd tell him to go for it, and the instant I detected he was doing something like that I"d ground him where it hurts - take away the car, after school activities, date nights, television, whatever. This problem is that your parents haven't done their job, and now they've got a monster on their hands. Time to tame the monster with a heaping pile of consistent parenting.

guys like video games as far as his lousy grades go maybe he is lazy, if i was your parents id tell him to shape up or get out when he was 18 could give him the needed motivation

i like to play my ps3 alot and this game i play online resistance i always get mad and swear at the people when i lose or the people who glitch the whole game still some people dont like school like myself i want to pass every class but i dont study and i always wait till the night before to do my paper then i turn it in some people dont like school cause of the fear of there past in school if they got made fun of or soemthing it will haunt them forever untill someone talks to them about it and most likely nobody would talk cause everybody wants to talk and nobodys ever wants to listen and the people that are good listeners the people who want to talk they wouldnt tak to them its a bad situation

I used to be addicted but not that addicted you have to take him out side more by force let him have limited amount of hours on the computer, you got to set him straight that playing counter strike isn't gonna get him anywhere in life,[he needs a courier and he cant be a professional gamer because too many people have that dream, he will need to be the best of the best of the best and those people arent really addicted]

I say take the modem away for a couple of hours at first and be with him in the house, while the modem is away,

I think he is just bluffing about smoking(he knows how bad it is), just to scare you

being lazy isn't and excuse and motivation comes from the inside

if you guys share the internet try abusing his gaming with you downloading something (its your internet too)

I agree with the one above me fight fire with fire, next year he might come with crap like I'm 18 I'll do what I want, (ground) isolate him from everything until he can think clear

It's just a stage that alot of boys go through the stage "i dont care about my grades or my life im cool cause i dont care about my grades" maybe you should get him a gf

Computer Game Addict Brother?

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