My husband wants to try ecstasy and I am terrified?
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Thanks.
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So yeah,
I'm gonna tell you from my experience.First off I dabble in drugs from time to time(recreational), and there not something that you need to introduce to a drug-free relationship.One or both of you could get addicted to ecstasy, they have many different bases for the drug, and that's what makes them so dangerous.They have speed-based tabs,cocaine-based tabs,heroin based tabs(steer clear!).All of these bases are highly addictive, and can be potentially dangerous to sometimes fatal.
As for the relationship, If your a young couple and your "experimenting" together know this:
This could make or break your respect for each other. Some people trip harder than others and cant handle there self;which can cause some problems.I had a friend once that took a tab or two and 45 minutes later they were huddled on there bed with a blanket over there head...sad.
If you do decide to go through with this,make sure to drink plenty of water, and have your body stocked up on vitamin C,because that's what the ecstasy seems to feed off of.Ive heard that when you do x the fluid around your brain reduces and that's why you'd want to be stocked up on water.
If your terrified and you already think that it'll effect your relationship in a negative way that fallow your gut feelings.
there always right.
Mam...your husband is an idiot.
Umm wow, don't have kids any time soon. Your husband is defiantly not ready for it.
Ecstasy = bad
wat a idoit tell him to wake up or your leaving him. even if ur not that wake his ideas up tips from me.
its safe, just dont let him be an addict
Isn't it illegal? I'd also be worried about where he planned to buy it, and it if was the real thing-- who knows what these drug addicts put into their drugs and sell?
I think you shouldn't even consider starting a family with this man if he's interested in fooling around with drugs. Let's hope he doesn't get arrest.
Drugs are dumb and suck. Reasons enough. It's not about future fertility.
You should be terrified. Your husband wants to take drugs. Is he taking any other drugs already? You can't be thinking about starting a family with a drug user or a potential drug user. You two need counseling.
you two need to sit and have a talk about this. tell him why you object him wanting to take "e". and tell him the reasons why. you two are a married couple, so you should be able to have discussions about anything. and thats all i can tell you. so if my advice doesn't help, then so be it.
Just dump the loser. Your gonna end up going to jail if he gets cought with it. My sister was put in jail just for being in the apartment with her boy friend who at the time owned ecstasy.
If he doesn't listen to you then he doesn't care for you.
Even one dose can kill people.
I have never tried it but I have friends who have done it a lot. Nothing has happened to them but there are serious risks involved with taking it. My advice is to do tons of research on it and to let him know very firmly how you feel. I hope that goes well for you. I used to know a lot of facts about it but I don't remember them offhand right now or I would have mentioned some.
i have heard that some ppl can have a very adverse reaction the very first time taking it and sometimes deadly. if you're hubby is having problems in the bedroom then i doubt this will help it will only make him think it helps. personally i wouldn't risk my own health just to please him.
that's a "line in the sand" discussion for me. No way to allow it. A deal breaker
tell him no period end of story!!! what is more important, your relationship or drugs???
there is no way to tell some to stop ...you have the right to be terrified...not a good choice for him to do it..plead with him to stop.i have lost man a friend because they just wanted to tr it once,,,,,,,,,,,,,
No way would I consider having children with someone who wants to experiment with drugs such as ecstasy. Beyond the possible physical ramifications, there are things such as being a responsible adult. Think about this long and hard. Good luck.
The main risks are legal.
This is a controlled substance and getting caught buying, or using, can have serious repercussions.
As far as something like "genetic damage" from drug use ... that is utterly bogus and was a bogey man created to scare kids off from using.
The big risk is a record. Nothing to fool around with.
Your husband needs to find another goal in life besides trying a drug. You should get out of the marriage right now before you have children and find a real man.
Your problem can easily be solved by showing him that you desire him and can have great sex with him without use of the drug.
Find out what his fantasies are and try to make some of them true. Tell him what your fantasies are and try to make some of those true.
First of all, out government, in an effort to legislate morality and "protect" its citizens, has made this drug illegal. So if caught, he could get arrested for this non-violent personal decision.
Secondly, don't believe all of the mumbo jumbo scare tactics out there. You won't have children with three legs or anything like that.
That being said, if you really don't want him doing it, then he shouldn't. That's what being married is about.
Ecstasy is illegal and is very very bad for you. It can cause holes in the brain after long term use.
OMG! don't let him do it!! My husband and I did it before we had kids and it's so expensive and after what i seen on the news I swore I'd never do it again... This 17 year old girl had the brain of a 80 year old Alzheimer's patient.
people mix all kinds of bad stuff to make that... You are his wife and tell him you don't approve and not to do it... this could save his life... I know a person that died from E!! SERIOUSLY!!
Before me and my wife said i do we actually tried it together once, but before meeting her i tried it myself 3 times. There is nothing wrong if u try it once but don't get hooked on it. And as for dangers we now have a 4 year old daughter with no health problems. So its cool to try it was actually a great experience for us.
I don't know who has less sense...your husband for wanting to use drugs (he needs to grow-up and realize he is a married man with responsibilities)...and drugs are a dead-end road anyway.
Or you, for announcing this to the world, the over-see'ers on Y! Answers, and the government who takes note of what takes place/is said on the web...where NO info is confidential...
Besides, I would never, ever be married to someone who uses drugs. Nor ever contemplate having a child with a drug user. If he gets arrested...dont bail him out either!
If he starts taking E regularly, I'd leave him. I'm not going to live with a drug abuser and get caught with his stash in my house. Further, I'd turn him in. And I'd tell him this before he makes his decision.
Maybe the police or Narcotics Anonymous have someone who can come and talk to your husband, recount some of the stories he's seen about people on E.
What kind of a knot-head man wants to get hooked or high or dead with ecstasy? That's absolutely stupid! What does ecstasy have that your husband craves? Is he looking for adventure, abandonment of the real world, what? Is there someone at work or someone he hangs out with who is peer pressuring him to try it? You better get that relationship cut off, now.
Call Narcotics Anonymous and see if there's a counselor who can help you through this. Honey, I just can't express how upsetting this is to me, let alone to you.
I really thought that kids that made it to the marriage age would be responsible upstanding not-stupid citizens. I thought they'd be mature enough to know what drugs could do to you. My thoughts are with you.
Debbie
TX Mom
Not a medical professional
I think that is illegal. If it is is another argument.
You can talk till you're blue in the face, you won't convince him. You can try crying, but he'll just rebel against you.
Instead, let him figure out how bad it is. Rent the movie "Requiem For A Dream". It will scare the cr@p out of him! Read my review below.
I once saw a movie reenactment of Abraham Lincoln's Gettysburg Address. At the end of this short, yet powerful speech, there was no applause. People were so profoundly touched by the wisdom and insight of his words that the whole crowd just stood there transfixed, like statues, in quiet awe and contemplation.
This is how I felt after seeing "Requiem For A Dream".
In this movie, four people get involved with drugs. At first, drugs actually appear to be improving their lives. I thought this was going to be a lighthearted, pro-drug movie. However, that is just a clever lure because soon after, drug use takes a very, very ugly turn in these peoples' lives.
Just as "Fatal Attraction" would make someone think twice about cheating on their spouse, "Requiem For A Dream" will probably scare the hell out of anyone, whether they have taken drugs or not. It's like seeing "Jaws", and never again being able to dive into the ocean without a little tinge of fear.
If High Schools showed this movie, drug use would plummet. The effect of seeing these lives forever and completely ruined by drugs is shocking and tragic. You will never think about drug use the same way again.
Forget horror flicks. this movie will REALLY SCARE YOU !
Hey Girl, I am a recovering drug addict who has done allot of E...I've been sober for 3+ years... and the side effects and damage I've had to deal with are NOT fun..
Panic attacks, depression,liver, kidney damage..,.and those are just the physical effects... not to mention all the emotional damage caused by my poor decisions while on E...
I cant even begin to explain all the negative results!
and dont forget that E is made from MDMA...but b/c the cost to make pure E is just too expensive most pills are cut with anything from meth, rat poison, ant-freeze, laxatives, LSD...
not a good idea i have know many a people who have tried n it ruined their life drug use is not a game and should never be taken lightly!!
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