How to deal with the death of my mother from cancer??
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Grief is a tough life experience I lost my mom too, but I did go to a grief counsellor you might not want to but they are great. Also on yahoo their is a group called motherless daughters, you could join. Also write your mom a letter I was told to do this also and haven't yet. You can't help that you had not gotten along, you are feeling guilt because of the grief process this is one of the steps, you will also have crying, anger and this is o.k. I still cry and it has been almost 2 yrs this is very normal and is part of your healing process, so you are heading in the right direction. Believe me your mom knew you loved her just as she loved you. She would probably tell you it is o.k. and I am sure she has forgiven you, just as you have her. I believe they are in a happy place were their is no anger, pain just peace. In time you will feel this too. And don't worry no one comes back from the dead only in horror movies. Also, talk it out as much as you can with friends and family they shouldn't get tired of you talking about her, I still do. You will be o.k. and cry as much as you want to. Lot's of hugs!
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IT LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE TRYING TO CONTACT ME I WILL GIVE YOU MY E-MAIL ADDRESS pkskuce@telus.net
at the moment it is down though and I will have to figure it out to get it up again. I also have a yahoo email address which is working reddeermoms@yahoogroups.com as I run a moms and tots group so you might want to try this one first.
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I am sorry about your loss. My father died from cancer so I understand what you are going through.
First, and foremost time is the greatest healer. As you move forward, you will be able to cope more.
I would go to your bookstore and look in the psychology section and look at books about surviving the loss of a love one.
You say you dont want to go to a doctor, then talk to a trusted friend, a cleryman, someone whom you can confide in. I promise you, that over time it will get better.
If you have a family minister, go to them and have them pray with you. If you don't have a family minister, go to the local priest and tell him what is going on and ask him if he would pray for you. If you don't believe in God, that doesn't matter. He believes in you, and loves you very much and doesn't want you to go through this pain without help.
just put it in a place in you re mind that will allow you to come back to that later
This a situation that apparently, you will get over. I've lost many I love too. A few pets, a grandmother, and a baby brother. Just over time you will feel a little bit better. Just remember it is not your fault. She didn't die because of you and I know that right now, this very minute, she is looking down on you. She knows you are sorry. Just try and keep your mind off it. Go out and do things. Don't let your mothers death control your life. I feel you, dude. At least, It will teach you to hold on to everything that you still have and love. Enjoy it and cherish it.
I am so sorry for your loss. Watching someone you love dying especially for a person as young as yourself must have been tremendously painful and frightening. As you mourn for your mother please take the time to remind yourself that you are a good and caring person. If you were not you would not be feeling this incredible anguish. I am not sure how you will find the peace you seek, perhaps you could speak to a minister.
My heart goes out to you.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him. Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation, and qualifying us to Heaven. Just pray to God with all your heart confessing your sins, and you will find peace, hope and meaning for your life. Do go to church to study Bible. Jesus' love is unbound and undying. We all have to die, sooner or later. Heaven is wonderful beyond descriptions!
I can sympathies. My mother died of cancer too. But I was much older - the trouble was we didn't realize it was lung cancer till it was too late and we blamed ourselves even though the drs told us that in these cases nothing really could have been done. I can only say that time heals please believe me. I didn't deal with it at first - just left it on the back burner so to speak but the rage and the tears finally came out. You have to let go and move on. you have your whole life ahead of you.You have to be selfish and just think of yourself and your well being. Visit the graveyard. There's nothing to be scared of. Get it out of your system. Take some flowers and say your goodbye. Remember the good thing no matter how insignificant they are. The sick person wasn't your mother. Illness changes people- mine became different too. she wasn't the same person anymore. it's been six years and I miss her badly and i'm much older than you are. But I moved on. Again I am genuinely sorry fory our loss.
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