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There are also several really good internet resources. I like Welcome to Barbados,After the Silence & Aphrodite Wounded.All have sections for secondary survivors - meaning those who support survivors of rape & sexual assault. -All can be reached just plug them into Yahoo & they will come up.Theres a wonderful community there as well.
Its fairly common for someone to keep it inside.Its good that shes told and she has you to listen.
Also RAINN has an internet based IM/chat based system where you can talk to a counselor/ advocate online.Please dont forget to take care of you.
Bless you for caring.
Just keep talking to her, encourage her to get professional help if she needs it. If she is willing to report the guy that's a good idea as well because when his pain from the beating wears off he'll still be a predatory a@@hole in need of serious mental reformatting. In keeping with his cowardly way of dealing with people personally, I doubt he will say anything about his beating
I'm so sorry this has happened to your friend. You are a good friend to ask for some help in figuring out how you can best be a support to her.
Get out your phone book. Flip to the blue pages. Go to the section that includes your county. You should find a phone number for a "rape crisis center". Most have groups (almost always free) where survivors get together and support one another (typically led by a professional).
It will be important for your friend to get involved in therapy/treatment. The long term ramificaitons can be severe. However, if she gets into GOOD treatment soon, she may be spared.
Let your friend know that you are here to listen, and that you will help her in whatever way you can.
Offer her support 24/7. if its late and in the night, tell her she can still call you if seh is scared or wants to talk. listen with all ears. tell her verything is going to be okay. be there for her. be understanding even if you have no idea what she actauyll is going through. do her parents know? tell her you thin kseh should get professional help and you are worried abotu her. she prabably needs someone to talk to that she doesn't know too. therapy could help her. it is always easier to talk to someone who you don't really know because it just is. offer what you thin kto her. if she doesn't want to do it, then it is her choice, but tell her you think it would be a good idea if she talked to her parents and told at least her mother what happened andshe wants help. I am sure nothing she did was wrong. Her parents will not be mad at her. She knows who the guy is, so is she going to press charges? if she does, it may put her at ease, knowing that guy can never hurt her again. Did she tell her brother she was raped or just that he hurt her? If her family knows what is going on, they can support her better. She will probably go through many emotionally hard times. Rape hurts on so many different levels. I truly am so sorry to hear about your friend. Absolutely no one should have to go through that. best wishes to you and her entire family.
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