I'm a gay male on long island going thru major depression?
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Is your depression because of your sexual preference or is it because of something else? If it's something else, then it makes no difference what your preference is. You need to see a counselor/therapist for your depression. (If you say that won't help or you don't want to see one, then you like being depressed.)
I've heard so many people talk about things in their lives that have nothing to do with being gay, yet they feel they HAVE to say it. Like: "I'm gay and I need to take my car in for brakes. What do I do?"
Try not being gay, you may find that thats your whole problem.
lol Christians are so caring, aren't they? Anyway just go to a counselor. They will help you sort out personal issues.
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Dear Louis.the fact that you are a gay male doesn't really have a lot of relevance to the fact that you are going through major depression. While sexuality can be an issue that causes stress and contribute to depression the major factor is that chronic depression is a result of brain chemistry and can effect ANYONE. If you are interested you can go to Yahoo search and look under "The Last Temptation of George Petrie". I suffered from depression all of my life but denied it and tried to ignore the symptoms. Eventually they caught up with me and I ended up homeless and penniless. Fortunately I did get help and started on anti-depressants. Today I am stronger and happier than I have ever been in my life. I know there are groups in your area that address the adult population. Contact any of the groups that you are familiar with and ask them for information about groups for people in your age group. The most important thing for you to realize is, if you had diabetes and were insulin dependent then no amount of talking about your problem would change your dependence on medication. When brain chemistry is out of order the same is true and medication can relatively easily treat your depression. Please consider medication...I resisted it for years and ended up in a downward spiral that almost took my life. best wishes to you
geeze, ignore the first two people, what idiots and jerks. i don't live there, but try the yellow pages. if you want group sessions, it would still be good if you had your own session with a therapist. You may need meds and they could perscribe them. if you want to go to group sessions, they can probably help you with that, or you can talk to your doctor. good luck and best wishes.
Maybe you should see a doctor. There may be a clinical explanation for your depression.
What does being a gay have to do with being depressed. Unless your feeling guilty, and dirty about it. If you are then quit being gay. Most of the population believes it's a choice. I do.
mabey your depressed cause your gay and you've never had a girl before. And now, that your having your mid life crisis, you want a girl, but can't cause your gay. It's like strait guys wanting the toy or car they always wanted when they were younger. Mabey you should get the toy youv always wanted, or you can go strait. It's up 2 u, its your life.
If you have depression you could go to the docs and talk to them about it. they can give you what most people call Happy Pills been told they help but i just dont wanna take them so i hope if you get them it helps.
HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU!! =)
And for anyone who reads this..
Dont dis on him because hes gay. Its his life not urs so dont worrie. You dont know why he is. I myself dont care for it but i dont go and dis on people that are some of my friends are and i learned to support them because they went through he** and You have no clue what made him that way so go dis on someone else!!
I'm sorry to hear you are depressed there is nothing wrong with being gay, I have many gay friends. I'm not farmiliar with that area so I'm not sure as far as groups go. Maybe try to find something on the internet. I wish you luck!! Also don't care what others think, and the other comments. are just stupid.
Sounds more like an ad. than someone looking for help.
Wow, some vicious replies.
Call a doctor. Get assessed for clinical depression and discuss treatment options - medicine, counseling, etc. It's a medical condition, unless you're just feeling in the dumps, and should be treated that way.
First of all anyone telling you that being gay is a choice is just ignorant on the subject so don't look to them for help. I would try doing search on the internet and maybe you can find a support group. Going to a doctor would probably not be a bad idea if your depression is really bad. What do you think is causing your depression? Talking about it can help but I would be careful before starting any drugs for depression. I have had friends on some of that stuff and did not like how it made them act. I would try a therapist before the drugs!
I live in NYC and I know that Long Island Jewish hospital has a great mental health program and it's not only geared to teens. I know that they are headquartered in New Hyde Park but if you call them I'm sure that they can direct you to one of their programs in Suffolk. They might have one at CWPost aka Long Island University or if you're far enough out try Stony brook Medical center. I hope that these ideas help you and as a lesbian with major depression it's not that that's my main problem. If you're looking for a program just for gays than you should try to find a group for gay and lesbians. I'm sure if you check the phone book you will find an organization that will help you. Try the Gay and Lesbian Alliance, they maybe able to direct you.
Dear Louis,
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Is there a reason you are looking for groups rather than a private counselor? Personally, I would do some one-on-one counseling. Your physician can give you a quick BDI (Beck's Depression Inventory) which is a short written quiz to get an idea of the depth of your depression.
From there she can prescribe, but I would highly recommend some one-on-one counseling to see if this is a major depression (does it run in your family) or situational (loneliness, personal issues, work stress, etc).
Good luck - it will get better once you seek help.
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