Suicide - Impulsive or planned?
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1st off, I think this is an awesome question. I am not sure if I like the words "planned" or "impulse". I believe that it is more of a battle inside the person. He/She clearly wants to live, and has the ability to over come whatever they are going through, however in the case of someone who is emotionally depressed, they feel that nobody cares for them, and surely wont notice them gone. It is more about attention in to a really big war inside themselves. Some live with the burning want to do it, but cant, and others cant seem to bear it any longer, and react off of anger or depression. There is ALWAYS something that triggers a suicide.
Very much they plan it. Some try it and fail. I'd say it is very rare when suicidal tendencies are hidden completely.
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I think because I was a bachelor for most of my life, I attracted the lonely. One came over to tell me goodbye, here was a letter, not to open it, deliver to the TV station before noon. (I didn't, and I was surprised there was a 2nd letter that did get delivered and announced on the air). One, lost a spouse from a gun accident, got fabulous insurance money, spent 45 days as a nypho in the bars. Another one used to email me with incredible fantasies using his gun. I could go on. In my state, by law you're supposed to contact a hotline. I don't bother. I've learned a phone counselor is angry they've got a job a high school grad could do. I mean, there are a lot worse white collar crimes going on and the authorities sure the heck won't do anything. I can only recall one accidental suicide, young boy and it relates to self stragulation to enhance self-stimulation.
But hey, if you or someone you know is thinking along these lines, try to keep going or get them to keep going with life. The people they leave behind have a very raw feeling, not sympathy.
I think both - I had a boyfriend that told his brother what music to play at his funeral when he was in his early twenties - he killed himself at 31.
He was on the phone with his ex-wife - I don't think that was planned.
i think they're impulsive action. if someone ever planned something like that, usually it'll never happened.
Both...it depends on the situation. I think people that do something like hang themselves plan it and people who overdose do it more on an impulse. I guess it's their personal situation!
I think it is both, different individuals / different circumstances. Either way, it is very sad.
That is a good question !! I suppose it could be either way.. some have a plan, and have thought about it for a long time, and have made a long drawn out plan for it.. like leaving a note and know just how they are going to do it.. others just get up and say the heck with it and do it.. Either way there are warning signs, and I would hope that the parents or a teacher or a good friend would pick up on the signs before the act actually got carried out, and got the person some help, they are in a lot of pain, and deep depression, and need help .. N0 one wants to die, unless they are deeply depressed, and there is help out there for them, if someone will just pick up the signs..
Impulsive, though they likely had it in the back of their minds for quite a while and tried to pretend to themselves the thought would go away "if only" they'd do something else. You'll notice a lot of suicidals try to make themselves feel better all of a sudden before they do it. they might even look like they're doing better for over a month or so and then they just do it and you're blown away wondering why.
It is planned very carefully. It is said that just days before someone commits suicide that they get very happy because they have found a solution to their problem. why do you ask?
When I tried I just got up one day and decided to do it. I thought about it all day, but didn't really plan it. I'm sure my mood changed. I'm sure I was more isolated that day and didn't really pay attention to anyone.
I am guessing that most of the time, it is planned.
But use the word 'planned' carefully. It is not an achievement for the person but it is a way to end the pain. Whatever the pain is, this seems like the only way to end it. People who seems happy in the days leading up to the attempt are not happy that they are ending their lives. But because they are ending the pain.
It is an emotional hell inside the person's head. This adds to the original pain, and it just spirals downward from there. This is true when things are out of that person's hands.
I don't condemn or condone suicides. Having a suicide attempt just over 2 months ago, I feel that sometimes, at least for the person, this is the only way to end the pain. There is a strong desire to live but a stronger desire to end the pain.
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