Could someone tell me about what rights a disabled person facing death have?
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Every living thing on this planet, despite any physical traumas they may have, has the unquestionable right to enjoy their life to the full. With your friend, as to us all, every day is a bonus, and he should give himself permission to enjoy whatever he can and wants right now. No question about it. That's what he was given the beauty of life for. Life is hard, it is at times exhausting and never that forgivving .. your friend should treat himself to whatever pleasures are available and smile as he has never smiled before. If spirit does truly linger on, he will never, ever regret that. I hope this helps .
the right to be barried or creamited i think u have the same right as everyone else
Sandra=this question is hard to answer =it is all over the place about more the a main subject =if you rewrote it another way maybe we could answer it right for you=don't want to give a wrong answer =sorry
That really sucks ... I really cant imagine how he feels at such a young age too what a waste.
If it was me i would spend part of the day with my little princess, my mother, my bro then i would go out and get absolutely plastered with my best friends on every legal and illeagal substance known to man.
This would undoubtedly help get your mind off things, there would have to be a woman involved to experience the joy of sex before you went.. I would try and get my ex to sleep with me just to get at her new partner as i despise him.. That way i would have a big smile on my face !
Being totally honest i dont know what i would do i just think that i would do the above in reallity i would probaly be at home scared as hell ... My heart really goes out to your friend i wish him every success ...
Maybe he could try a prostitute or escort girl ...
Sandra,I'm sorry to hear about your friend, and for you, since it's never easy to lose someone we truly care about.
Nighttime is very hard for someone facing death, because you feel alone at that time, even if someone is in bed with you.
It sounds as if he needs someone professional to talk with, a therapist or minister, or both. If his situation is such that he really might die at any moment, he should join a hospice. Then he will have a group of caring people who know all about the process of dying. He would stay at home, and they would send a nurse 3 times a week, more if he needs it. They would make sure he gets whatever he needs to keep him out of pain. They also have counselors to talk to. Also, they have counselors/therapists for loved ones to talk to — and that means both family & friends.
As far as a sexual experience, the fact that he turned down his girlfriend because "it's not right" shows he is a good guy & doesn't want to take advantage of her. I'm not saying that's what he's doing, only that he feels that way. I guess talking to a therapist about it would help him work out his feelings. If he & his girlfriend love each other, I don't see anything wrong with it, but it's not for me to say; it's between them.
I'm disabled & dying (way, way too young), but I'm not afraid. Part of that is because I am very religious & know I'm going somewhere wonderful. That doesn't mean I wouldn't rather wait another 50 years or so; it just means I have come to accept it. I have my bad days, though, when I get scared, who wouldn't?
Your last question is a bit harder — what would I do if tomorrow was my last day? Well, technically every day could be my last day, so I kind of have to make the most out of each day. I make a mental note about each thing that gives me pleasure, so that I am aware that I do have a full life, even from a hospital bed at home.
I have a lot of friends. Once a week, a small group of them come over & my husband sets stuff up & we have a mini-party Then another day a friend comes over & we just talk. Also my pastor comes over every 2 weeks. That's about all the socializing I can handle Of course, my husband is here with me, plus my 2 cats.
Last October, there was a crisis, and the doctors thought I was going to die on a certain day. They said I had a 50-50 chance, but they were not too optimistic. I was. I was calm and I (my husband really) called all my close friends, so the whole day was like one long party. (I was in the hospital at that time.) The staff let everyone stay until 11pm because of the situation. After they all left, my husband stayed with me, holding my hand & slept w/his head on the bed.
The next day I was hooked up to monitors and I couldn't really breathe — when I breathed out, I would forget to breathe in again & the monitor would beep. I couldn't breathe naturally; I had to remind myself. We just joked around about it. My husband was there and my pastor, so when everything crashed, I knew I wasn't alone. I woke up 2 days later and told the doctors "I told you so."
Well, I guess, I was able to tell you what I would do if I knew that tomorrow was my last day. So, when the next crisis comes, if it isn't sudden, without warning, I guess I'll do the same thing.
I don't feel alone, but I guess your friend does. The biggest thing right now is for him to talk to someone who knows all about dying, who can help him sort out his feelings. Who knows, maybe he'll fell OK enough about it to get together with his girlfriend. If he loves her & she loves him, it could be a beautiful experience they could share.
You are helping him by being a good friend to him. The best thing you can do for him now is to somehow help him get into a hospice program. I know for a fact that it would make a big difference for him.
Good luck to you & to your friend.
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