U no what i hate?
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i totally agree with you! no one knows exactly what anyone else is going through and its definately not their place to judge. im bipolar and i hate it when someone who isnt says "i know how you feel" or "just be happy." its probably the worst thing they can say. i mean, if it were that easy, i'd be happy. ive thought about suicide countless times, and the only thing that keeps me here is my family. i could never hurt them like that. even when im at rock bottom and think there's nothing to live for, thinking about my family keeps me going. one of my friends comitted suicide and all he said in his note was how much better he thought things would be for his family when he was gone. i know people who comitt suicide arent thinking clearly, but he was definately thinking about his family. its not fair for people to make judgements about stuff they dont know about.
people who r going to do it will! family or not! they consider their feels no one elses!! but you r right when you say that if you dont suffer from any illness you dont understand that is so true. ignorance to most people is bliss! keep your chin up and carry on good luck! x
Well, I understand what you're going through, but only because I've been there myself. I don't believe suicide to be selfish at all. I understand that when someone is suicidal they're not thinking like everyone else. I remember thinking, "I should kill myself so that those who know me don't have to deal with my failures anymore. It would be one big failure and life for them would go on."
Don't let others bother you when they are clearly ignorant and lashing out with anger only makes things worse. Often those who are ignorant have good intentions. Just brush it off or reccomend a good book or valid source of information that can help them understand.
But happiness is the only thing which can lead a person's life into prosperity. People should never indulge in bad or unwanted things which disturbs their minds. One should have positive attitude and everything will work out the way it should.
well, i've been depressed, and you're kinda right, the best way to get over that is not "trying to be happy" (that's a bit ridiculous) because you can't.
I hate when people tell you to be happy and when they say they know what it's like, because they don't. They don't live my life everyday, having to live with my past. They have no idea.
You're right it isn't that easy to start being happy.
I'm not sure about the suicides though. I know a few people who have committed suicide and I don't know if they considered their families. Personally though, my family would never stop me.
I agree though.
Much love
xx
Make yourself get involved in some activities outside the home, like perhaps a spelling class at an adult school. When you're busy doing things with other people it's easier to forget about the things the depress you. Good luck.
I know what you mean. I've had horrible anxiety my whole life and my mom always told me I was making it up. When I was about 12 I convinced my grandmother to take me to a psychiatrist, which I only went once. Now, I'm in my early 20's and finally got help for it. My doctor knew immediately that I had generalized anxiety and panic disorder, for which he prescribed me medicine. I can't even talk to my mom and tell her about b/c she says that I SHOULDN'T BE TAKING ALL THAT MEDICINE! She still thinks there is no such thing and that I should be normal. Nobody gives a crap and nobody understands it. I don't even bother talking about it anymore. I'll just suffer in silence or talk to my shrink, but thats basically it.
You're right, there's a lot of arrogant people who think that they know the answers to all of life problems (and it usually involves some delusional religion or another). I've been there. I spent most of my teens and early twenties depressed, anxious, and suicidal. After years of working through my problems (and some therapy), it turned out that most of my problems stemmed from abuse in my past (emotional more so than physical, but there was that too). Once I confronted those that had done this and made them realize that their behavior was wrong, and when I stopped making excuses for my own wrong behavior and started to take responsibilty for myself and changed my attitude, the depression went away (this was a very long process, however). Now I'm the happiest I've every been, I no longer suffer from that agonizing emotional pain and hopelessness. I don't know what's causing your pain, but I know that you can beat it. If you want help sorting things out, feel free to e-mail me, or, better yet, seek the help of a professional. Keep looking until you find a doctor you like (some of them don't know what they're doing, but there are a lot of good ones out there). The main thing is to not give up... you can beat this.
I understand what you're saying because I've been dealing with depression for 40 years and I'm in my fifties. As for suicide I'm not sure that people don't think about their families I think that all they want to do is end the pain that they are in. As you said if you've never experienced it than it's hard to understand how painful and hopeless one can feel while dealing with depression. There have been lots of time when people have told me that I should just snap out of it think of my children and just be a mother. Or they have told me that I should help other people that working with those who have problems will make me realize that mine aren't as bad as I think. I have worked with a lot of people who have problems, but that doesn't mean that I don't' also and that mine aren't serious.
you know what i hate? people with bad grammar and can't spell
when people say they know what you're going through when people say you just need to try to be happy it doesn't work like that and then when people commit suicide they say how could they are selfish and they dont think about their family. well if you only knew what it felt like if they only knew and I bet that there would be 50% more suicides if there wasn't family and I've considered it thinking about my family and how i would hurt them that's the only thing that keeps me from it so when they say you don't think about your family most do and usually kill themselves so they don't bring their family down with them so for every person who doesn't know what it feels like to be deppressed or have anxiety or bipolar or OCD or anything keep your mouth shut!
you need to go back to grade school!
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