My dad raped me as a kid, now I am having really "unclean" thoughts about my son... PLEASE HELP!?
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IF YOU ARE AT ALL SERIOUS THEN GET HELP STRAIGHT AWAY - Go see a psychiatrist or counsellor to work through these issues...
And if you're not serious then this is not funny... not at all
You need to find some advice from a professional source. At least you have "recognized" your problem. You need to distance yourself from your son as much as possible until you have gotten some help.
I think u should get councling!
This kind of question should not even be asked on here.
talk to your wife about this.
and get like a pscichrst or however you spell it...
for the sake of your son and family
get help
think what you went through after the event
DO NOT PUT YOUR SON THROUGH THAT
awww mannnn.. that's just disturbing. pls help yourself ok? seek help!
I truly believe you need to seek professional help as soon as possible, this is not your fault, you really need to talk to someone and have them help you. Does your wife know your were r****, try talking to her.
clean your brain with clorex, don't you dare do this to your kid, u will be punished and go to hell, you are sick, get help from psychologist, NOW!
you should exercise self control remember what damage you do to your son will burden him for ever but be careful about sharing your concerns with social agents from the government as they may take your son from you !
councling...meditation..go church
It is not your fault that this is happening. You do however have to take responsibility for the situation. You need to go see someone so you do not hurt anyone. Even if you dont think you will hurt him, sometimes the mind can do terrible things to get over or heal things that have happened to it. I would most definatley keep your son away from your father if he is still alive. You need to be extra careful with this, and if you care about your childs well being seek out a counselor or phsychologist to talk to about it. Don't be afraid to talk about it because there will not be an investigation launched or anything because yu have unclean thoughts, nor will your family find out because these professionals have to abide by a privacy act. However if you ever do act on your thoughts and tell them they are madatory reporters to childrens services. But dont let that scare you into not dealing with the thoughts. Putting thought into action is what ruins a life and family. Good luck.
Did you enjoy being raped by your own father?
If yes, then GO! Rape your own son!
But if it was like hell, then you should start cleaning your act.
Tell your wife about it, or get professional help. It will help having someone to tell your bad experiences. It will help erase the bad memories, and let you live a normal life.
You have recognised your problem and that is a first step to helping yourself. U have to first cleanse yourself of the thought by seeking psychiatrict help.try using meditation to calm yourself each time u have such thots.
chit man you got too keep it together and its not your fault hey thats just words ya got too pull with the family deal it will goo longer and keep if its still alive your dad fkn away from your family its a f-n shame andd not yours i will hope the best for you and yor family stay close -i hav never been there and i have friends that have its f----- up hey hang in there luv roc
Go to private psychologist. Do not go to any sort of social worker, you can loose your son. I would not share these thought with your wife either, it may ruin your marriage, mother's instincts are very strong. Hope you will get help soon!
I would go for counseling. I was raped not by my father thank god but I know what it did to me. Please help yourself and save your son from a horrible experience. Most rapist were raped as children. Call your nearest hospital ASAP and tell them that you need to talk to a therapist ASAP. As long as you don't touch your son in a sexual manner and you get help for your self you will have broken an cycle of violence within your own family. That in it's self should give you some of the strenght that you need to continue to get better. And make sure that your son isn't left with your father alone. You might want to tell your wife, or you could wait and tell her with the help of your therapist.
your a really really sick man. you know that is a crime to sexual abuse a child
does your wife want to share a bed with someone that thinks paedophilia is ok
i hope you go to jail
You feel guilty for what happened (your father raping you)even if it is not your fault. It is only your father's fault You feel you should be punished, that is why you have the unclean thoughts about you son, unconsciently you want to be punished for them. Do not hurt your son. I dont think you would, but had to tell you anyway. Face your issues. Good luck.
No matter what the expense, you need to find a counselor or therapist in your area who can deal with sexual abuse issues. Contact a mental health facility and they may be able to refer you to someone. It takes great courage to admit something like this. You know how you felt and you care about your son. You need to break the chain here and now and not let it happen to him. It will destroy the things you care about the most. DO IT NOW! Call someone for help.
aparently a lot of victims of rape go through these emotions as adults to no fault on their own..its a emtional reaction of past trauma and your mind is messed up from it...thoughts are just thoughts..if you have never acted on the them..then its an anxiety problem thats affecting you..as in a fear of doing it..but yu never will.if however you are willing and contemplating this crime as i would name it then...please go and admitt yourself into therapy now..as this is as you know too well from your experiance totally unacceptable sexual abuse behaviour with criminal penalties and lifelong pain and torture for the victim...please report your sexual abuse as a child asap.and admitt yourself into a mental health hospital now..please do not harm you child..hes a small innocent beautiful child...
Quite often, people who were sexually abused as children find, to their horror, that they have thoughts of abusing their own children. Obviously, you have a choice about whether to act on these thoughts, and my sense from the fact that you have posted your question is that you do not intend to choose that route. The reason it happens is that when you were raped, you had to split yourself psychologically in two, to push away the vulnerable self who was damaged physically and emotionally, and establish a false self that was hard, could cope - in a sense, could identify with your father, could feel himself as big and strong as your father. Now you see your own child's vulnerability (and I wouldn't be surprised to learn that he's about the age you were when you were raped) and it's as if (on an unconscious level) he is your own vulnerable self. So the part of you that got split off from your vulnerable emotional self is identified with your father and therefore sees its role as to act that out. And also, a part of you that wants to heal has what, to our rational mind, may seem a crazy idea but makes perfect sense at the unconscious and emotional level - to re-enact the scene so that this time the outcome can be different, that it can be loving and reconciling. It wouldn't work, of course, but our desire to re-enact what was painful is very obvious in a lot of human behaviour, and it's always with the hope that this time it can be different.
Psychotherapy with someone properly qualified and belonging to a professional organisation (i.e. signed up to a code of ethics) could be very helpful. You are well on the way to being able to sort this out, because you have been conscious of what's going on and asked your question here. I hope things work out - you could be a wonderful father to your son if you can re-integrate your vulnerable self with the rest.
PS I saw the comment about you having been a woman in a previous question you asked, and checked this out - it is indeed the case. What is going on? Are you just trying to make fools out of those people who put time and effort into answering you seriously? Was the previous question the dud or this one? Or both?
TELL YOUR WIFE? LMFAO
I don't really think you have serious intentions on defiling your son. The sins of your father were obviously more intense when you were around your son's age. And now, it's in your head 24/7, like an obsession. The more the disgust, the more it clouds your thought patterns. I have anxiety due to a chemical imbalance. You have Post traumatic syndrome. When I was treating my mood disorder, people shared their stories. One woman wouldn't bathe her son until her husband got home because she felt she might try and drown him...even tho she knew she never would. One person was afraid she'd pick up a kitchen knife and stab her hubby, so she had him hide them. These are unrealistic thoughts that cloud the brain during depression and anxiety. Like all the people, and we know who we are,..who have been so low that while driving, we've fantasised about pulling in front of the Mac truck coming our way! Go see a dr. Tell him about good ole dad. Tell them that you are afraid it may pass to you and your son. You don't have to tell your wife. You don't have to tell the doc everything, because they are human and overanalize. Insist on antidepressents. It will help with those racing thoughts in your head that are obviously unwarranted in your heart. Your trauma has got you in a head spin. Your son is innocent and you love him. You'd never do anything to harm his innocence. Your dad's action's didn't take your innocence either. But causing you pain now that you have a boy.Do what I said, I do know what I'm talking about. You can e mail me if you'd like. Hugs to you! ooooo ps: hey Blck Gy: I looked Art up too and he was a teenage boy and a girl with a smelly vagina too! To Art: I take back my hug, you wierdo!!
wtf.now ur a man?
why was it that a while ago u were a woman??
Get to a psychiatrist to try to deal with your past. It may be the only hope for your son not to have to live the same life you did. If you won't go to a doctor then don't be alone with your son.
What!*?
go and kill urself u shud be ashamed u got raped by ur dad dude r u fuken serious u fuken grotty basterd u liked it aye its not like ur *** got split or anythin
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