Help...I never have sex!?
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Please consider my answer as I answer your question with tact and from experience. My girlfriend and I have been together for three-and-a-half years now. About a year age, we were having some serious problems in our relationship which also seriously affected our sex life. Unfortunately, we both did the worst thing we could do which was to ignore it or for my girlfriend to feel like I was pushing her when that was not my intent. What we finally realized, which few couples who give up do, was that our relationship is not about what we can get from one another but what we can give to one another. One of those aspects for us was our sexuality. Once we sat down and discussed how we were feeling, we came up with the conclusion that there were many different ways that she could sexually satisfy me aside from intercourse. So two things happened.
For one thing, we grew closer together because we were communicating with one another and that was satisfying in itself. And secondly we created ways of satisfying me sexually so that, as a man, I was fullfilled. One thing that helps us greatly is that we wake up in the morning asking ourselves, "What can I do to make you happy today?" Well, since we've communicated our wants, needs, and desires with one another, the answer doesn't require that we read each others minds. And we are faced everyday with something that the other does that makes us happy. Now we can't help but be closer with one another and that deepens our intimacy which, surprise, led to a more fullfilling sex life with one another. I don't care what some say on here that only seek two point answers. Don't give up on one another. Take some time to talk with one another and deepen your intimacy on levels beyond sex as my soulmate and I learned.
Get a vibrator.
if he thinks you are nagging him because you want to have sex, move on, find a different man, at least tell him to put out or that's what your going to do
His medication will be affecting his sex drive and making him weary and tired. You must teach your self the art of self stimulation this will help!
seems to me there are three options
1. get really good at and comfortable with pleasing yourself for awhile
2. force him...which would probably not be good for his health or your relationship
3. find someone else to satisfy you which unless he is aware and in agreement with that option will also probably not be good for your relationship
find some othere way to please urslef
Get a new fiancee..If he dont listen to you now or doesnt wont to help his fiancee with her needs do you really think he well when you are married..
get new guys
Firstly, the way to approach it is to tell him how you feel. I know that this is cliched but use "I" statements- more specifically "I feel" statements. I would feel pretty frustrated, annoyed, and undervalued in your situation. Tell him how you feel. Try to avoid saying things like "I understand, BUT..." as this is the very opposite of understanding. The reality is that sex can be an important part of a relationship and it isn't wrong or selfish for you to want satisfaction. While his sex drive is low, make sure you show him you care in other ways- massages, lots of cuddles etc. He may be justifying his lack of effort by the fact that he isn't getting any so why should you. Perhaps mention to him that there have been times when you haven't felt like sex but that going through the motions is okay.
Don't expect him to be the only one to please you though- since when was it ever like that for us girls? You have to go it alone at times ; )
For issues like these, if it remains a problem, relationship therapy can be incredibly helpful. But usually communicating how you feel and being non-judgemental is a fantastic first step. Find the right time, prepare to compromise (as it always is in relationships) and good luck.
xx Cara
What Raptor wrote,
read again, again.. .. you'll never have better answer.
All the Best :-)
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giiirrrrrrllll if he doesnt understand the need then he will have to say goodbye or develop a sex drive real quick.
buy a toy!
Another vote for Raptor's answer!
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Honey this is a two way street. If he wont satisfy you then you need to stop satisfying him until he takes the situation seriously. His unfortunate health problems should not prevent him from satisfying you. You just need to go about it in a different way. Maybe get a vibrator and get your self off while he makes out with you? That may be more enjoyable for him and quicker giving both of you a satisfactory solution to the problem. There is however a certain part of responsibility that you must take for chosing to spend your life with someone who has health problems. You have to take into consideration that he can not perform normally, but can still support you emotionally and help you find a good solution and compromise to make everyone happy. Good Luck to you.
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